“How I look” is one of the world’s most boring topics to me. I’d rather be reading a good book or an interesting news story, or playing a fun computer game, than trying to figure out how to make myself look better.
I know why mmy parents did it … I had tendon and ligament issues in my feet so they were to ‘train’ my feet to position properly instead of needing that clubfoot operation.
I dont get people who claim a food allergy when they simply dont like something … so people with real allergies get scoffed at and sometimes even fed something they are actually allergic to [oh, its all in their heas … ill sneak this shrimp in and youll see, nothing will happen. Um, honey, call an ambulance, Uncle Jake stopped breathing and looks funny]
And I also dont get tiny dogs as fashion accesseries.
I could go for the migraine treatment with botox … I have just spent the past 9 hours fighting a serious bad migraine. Lots of meds later, and i am still achy but I need to get work done, so I am logged in. To keep my work stress level down I am reading/posting between invoices.
People who claim their pets are their children. Pets are great but they are not children and claiming they are is pathetic. The bumper sticker “My pet is smarter than your honor student” is also pathetic.
Those people aren’t so hard to understand. I think they’re are just common garden-variety assholes. Both the people who claim an allergy to something they just don’t like, and the ones who sneak some ingredient into a dish after someone else has said they don’t eat that ingredient (for whatever reason). OK, maybe the ones who claim food allergies they haven’t got also have a touch of drama queen in their nature, as well as assholishness.
You and TheFaerie, I’ve got one word for you:
Tivo.
It managed to break my husband of his channel-flipping habit. He’s happy, because with Tivo he doesn’t have to watch commercials (well, except on fast-forward, but that isn’t even 1/10 as obnoxious). I’m happy, because there’s no more channel flipping. Even better, if someone has to run to the bathroom or if someone calls on the phone, you can pause the show, so no more missing key plot points.
Note: I am not paid by Tivo to say this, though I probably should be. I just loves me my Tivo.
If they can’t afford kids, how can they afford to get their tubes tied?
I don’t get people who…
…offer unsolicited advice, especially strangers.
…are in customer service but are rude to customers. Dude, if you don’t like dealing with people, get a different job.
…run from the police. Haven’t you ever seen Cops? They always catch you.
Bonus:
I don’t get women who try to “one-up” each other with how awful their birthing story is. This happened all the time when I was pregnant and I got to the point where I just cut them off and asked them not to tell me anything other than pleasant experiences. It’s just rude and weird.
This is equally amusing and disgusting. Love.
I like nice clothes and new clothes. I just can not afford to go out and buy a new wardrobe every year just to keep up with “fashion”
I don’t get why people pull up in the lane next to me at a stoplight and then when the light turns green they immediately try to get over in my lane. If you wanted to be in my lane because you have to turn soon or whatever then just get in the damn lane behind me or is being behind me beneath you because somehow having me in front of you means you are losing the race to your destination? Assholes.
Ageism is a very real thing. Looking old is a huge liability in some jobs, especially for women. I could understand someone getting Botox if they think it’s going to help them in their chosen career. They’re trying to “pass” as younger, just like in the bad old days a part-black person might have tried to “pass” as Native American or Italian (or some other darker-skinned-but-not-black ethnicity) to get around the obstacles they faced from anti-black racism.
Because I don’t feel any different based on how I look or how I am dressed. I might feel uncomfortable if my clothes are tight, but I don’t feel any better about myself when I’m dressed up than I do when I’m wearing a T-shirt and sweats. I don’t understand people who do feel better about themselves when they are dressed up.
I’d also add if you can’t afford to pay your basic bills, how can you afford liquor, cigarettes, running the roads, and lotto tickets?
And as far as crooks getting caught on Cops, it’s a safe bet they don’t show the ones where the bad guy gets away. Same with all the “World’s Wildest Police Chases” shows.
Even one kid is way, way more expensive than getting tubes tied. The operation costs $1,000 - $3,000, if not covered by insurance.
I don’t get why people get so defensive when you mention that you don’t get something they do. It’s not an attack on you personally, it just that I don’t get your mindset. It doesn’t make you any less of a person to me.
She specifically excluded that, though, with "I’m not talking about wearing last years sunglasses, but the completely un-styled, generic, fit-all jeans or sweats."
I feel the same way as she does and I believe mean it the same way she does. I bought some shoes that were 80% off a few weeks ago; they’re obviously last winter’s shoes (dark red velvet kitten heels) but who cares? I like them, they’re still cute to my personal style and I’m making an effort.
It’s the people who wear sweatpants and a tshirt every.single.day. that I don’t get.
So, to clarify, it sounds like you don’t get why people care what others wear in their off time, but that, especially for women who tend to be judged more on their looks, you’d get why people would dress well for things like work or going out to an event. Yes?
I think what confuses me is people showing up to work looking sloppy in an office environment or at a special event. I understand not wanting to spend a lot of money - clothes, particularly clothing for women - can get very expensive. But, as you say, people often deal with ageism and lookism (true for both sexes). Many people wouldn’t be able to get a promotion if they refused to dress the part because no one would want to put them in front of a client. Unless they’re not interested in promotion, which is okay - some people just want to do what they’re doing forever and go home - dressing nicely at work is important.
Conversely, I don’t understand why brand name bags and shoes are a huge deal. I have a Coach bag, courtesy of my mother, that must have cost about $400-$450. I also have a bag from Target that I bought for myself that cost $30. I get complimented equally on both, both look nice with what I wear and both hold my stuff, which is why I carry a bag in the first place.
I once asked a hard core smoker this very question. Her reply? “They are always saying something causes cancer and then changing their minds. They don’t know.”
I’ll dress up if I know it will affect my career prospects. But I don’t do it for myself- I don’t feel any better if I’m dressed up than I do in a T-shirt and sweatpants. I understand the people who dress up because they know it will affect their career or social prospects. What I don’t understand is the people who say they feel better about themselves when they are dressed up.
Fortunately, I don’t go for jobs where I’d have to be put in front of a client (I’m way too shy, for starters, and not being able to read nonverbal cues wouldn’t help, either). I get to hide in my office and get the computer stuff working, which suits me much better. Fortunately for me, looksism is not nearly as prevalent in IT as it is in some other fields.
Gotcha. For what it’s worth, the reason I feel better if I’m dressed nicely is because my mom pounded it in to me when I was younger. You know how most teenagers are told to take off the makeup? I was only allowed to volleyball without it and only then because it’d streak (you should’ve seen the fight that got mom to let me play volleyball in the first place - I was initially told no because it was too unladylike). My mom was very much the Southern belle and only now, at age 63, has she purchased her first pair of jeans. Of course, they’re designer jeans and she insisted on taking them to a tailor to hem them. :rolleyes:
Anyway, if I’m sitting around the house, I’ll do it in whatever (pajamas are my preference, with workout pants a close second), but if I’m leaving, even to go to the grocery, I’ll usually change to my khakis and a comfortable top. I just don’t feel quite dressed for the day in workout clothes.
Perhaps I’m your alterego-it happens to me wherever parking may occur.
Nah. Apart from keeping us warm, the next function of clothing is to keep us from sticking to plastic chairs or leaving skidmarks on the nice couch.
Looking nice comes after that.
If you can flip to it, chances are that it isn’t meaningful.
If it’s meaningful, why not start there in the first place? Then, where will you flip to when there is a commercial on that channel?
Just my thoughts.
Nuts to dressing up! If I had my way we would all walk around naked all the time. I hate having to wear clothes at all, let alone uncomfortable “dress” clothes! If I am going out to the store or whatever jeans and a t-shirt is fine with me. The only reason I am wearing that is because the store will probably kick me out if I show up in my Hello Kitty jammies and the only reason I wear the jammies is because my new roommate would probably not appreciate my naked ass being everywhere. For the two months I had no roommate and no job I don’t think I put on clothes more than twice a week. It was a good feeling.
That being said, now that I am working again I do dress very nicely in the office. I just resent the hell out of it.