# Things that infuriate you well beyond their actual importance **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 4, 2024, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712 "2024-09-04T02:18:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 40
**Author:** ![sunacres](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4491bb/32.png) [@sunacres](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunacres)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2024, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/781 "2024-12-01T14:59:16Z")
> [@DrDeth](#): > > Wait a minute. Are you claiming that every approaching vehicle had their high beams on? Because people here claim- as do I- that we rarely use them. Wait a minute. Do you expect that the sample provided by this thread applies everywhere all the time? ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2024, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/782 "2024-12-01T15:28:59Z")
> [@sunacres](#): > > Wait a minute. Do you expect that the sample provided by this thread applies everywhere all the time? Apparently, a lot of people never get out of town. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2024, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/783 "2024-12-01T23:13:21Z")
> [@enipla](#): > > Apparently, a lot of people never get out of town. I remember a thread from years ago in which someone who apparently had never driven (at least not at night) outside of reasonably well-lit urban areas asked what the point of high beams was. ---
**Author:** ![sunacres](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4491bb/32.png) [@sunacres](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunacres)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2024, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/784 "2024-12-01T23:55:24Z")
I’ve been feeling like there are more and more instances of folks here treating their own personal experiences as somehow representative of the world at large. So it’s a comfort to know it’s been going on for years, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![PatrickLondon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/patricklondon/32/4422_2.png) [@PatrickLondon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PatrickLondon)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2024, 8:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/785 "2024-12-02T08:09:37Z")
Erm… I think you’ll find that’s been more or less hard-wired into human nature for millennia. (Yes I know “Nature is what we are put on this Earth to rise above”, but all the same…) ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2024, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/786 "2024-12-02T08:43:06Z")
> [@sunacres](#): > > I’ve been feeling like there are more and more instances of folks here treating their own personal experiences as somehow representative of the world at large. I’ve never once experienced this in my whole life, so you must be lying, or worse, mistaken. ( 😉 ) ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2024, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/787 "2024-12-02T10:56:53Z")
As I live in rural Japan, with mountains and curvy road all around, anytime I go anywhere then high beams are necessary. Of course, they get dimmed if there are oncoming cars and in the event there ever is a pedestrian. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2024, 11:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/788 "2024-12-02T11:16:30Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > As I live in rural Japan, with mountains and curvy road all around, anytime I go anywhere then high beams are necessary. Colorado mountains here. I don’t drive in the dark much anymore as I work from home. But I used to quite a bit. High-beams are not a luxury. My wifes car has all the bells and whistles. They dim automatically when it detects an approaching car. ---
**Author:** ![minor7flat5](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/minor7flat5/32/258_2.png) [@minor7flat5](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minor7flat5)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2024, 12:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/789 "2024-12-02T12:16:28Z")
This morning I had the urge to listen to Pink Floyd’s “Saucerful of Secrets” in its entirety on my drive into work. So I said “Hey Siri, use Apple Music to play the album “Saucerful of Secrets” by Pink Floyd” Now there’s already some stupid annoyance in that stilted phrase. If I don’t tell Siri to use Apple Music, she launches the SiriusXM app with some random channel (e.g. hiphop), so I have to tell her to use the Apple Music app. If I don’t say “play the album” she’ll just play the song by that name. But I can’t say the words in any other order otherwise she won’t get it. This was fine ten years ago. It’s not satisfactory today; AI is much better than that. Then she said “Sorry, but you will need to open the Apple Music app on your phone and accept the new terms and conditions before I can do that.” It really frosts my cookies when stupidity like that gets between me and using the device for what it was designed for. (side rant: Nobody has a lawyer guiding them through what they are accepting. Why is this “accept terms that you couldn’t possibly fully understand but will be totally binding” allowed in our world?) This goes equally for “Rate this app” popups. It’s fine in a dumb game; not fine in an app you use for work. One time I was speaking up front at church, reading from my bible app, when the app popped up a “PLEASE please please rate me!!11!!!” message. It was a disturbing moment because I wanted to say inappropriate words about Apple while I was supposed to be reading from the Gospel of John. I wonder if there has ever been a case where a pilot using their iPad to pull up some mission-critical charts in the heat of the moment have been interrupted with a “Rate my app” or “Please review our changes in terms and conditions” prompt. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2024, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/790 "2024-12-02T12:55:35Z")
> [@minor7flat5](#): > > This goes equally for “Rate this app” popups. It’s fine in a dumb game; not fine in an app you use for work I never got those at work. I assumed the enterprise versions of my apps were programmed to not do that. I was once at a huge meeting run by a top executive that was interrupted when his laptop decided to install a critical security update. But shortly after that, the settings were changed at the Enterprise level, and we were given some choice about the timing of those updates. (Often as much as a day, so we could run them overnight.) ---
**Author:** ![TRC4941](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trc4941/32/6792_2.png) [@TRC4941](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TRC4941)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2024, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/791 "2024-12-02T15:38:48Z")
My husband walking by the room where the coat closet is and into the dining area to hang his jacket on the back of a dining room chair. 😒 ---
**Author:** ![Orville\_mogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/aeb1de/32.png) [@Orville\_mogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orville_mogul)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/792 "2024-12-04T12:29:09Z")
My in-laws used to do the opposite which also infuriated me. They drank tea several times a day, and would regularly fill the kettle (1.7 liters) and heat it to 100C _just in case_ they wanted to have tea it would be already hot. Huge waste of energy and also made quite a lot of noise for a couple minutes each time ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/793 "2024-12-04T13:08:50Z")
> [@Orville\_mogul](#): > > My in-laws used to do the opposite which also infuriated me. They drank tea several times a day, and would regularly fill the kettle (1.7 liters) and heat it to 100C _just in case_ they wanted to have tea it would be already hot. I think that’s… darling. How cute. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/794 "2024-12-04T13:15:16Z")
My wife will fill the kettle to use 1/4 of the water in it for tea. Then fill it again for the next cup. She also freaks out if the gas tank is below 1/2, but that doesn’t infuriate me. ---
**Author:** ![Orville\_mogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/aeb1de/32.png) [@Orville\_mogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orville_mogul)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/795 "2024-12-04T13:30:03Z")
> [@Cheesesteak](#): > > My wife will fill the kettle to use 1/4 of the water in it for tea. Then fill it again for the next cup. Are we married to the same woman? 😄 ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/796 "2024-12-04T13:33:36Z")
My wife puts an empty milk container back in the fridge to remind her that we’re out. Pretty much any kind of container. Don’t ask me how that is supposed to work, because it doesn’t. That is definitely infuriating. ---
**Author:** ![Railer13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/railer13/32/9742_2.png) [@Railer13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Railer13)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/797 "2024-12-04T13:46:40Z")
> [@Cheesesteak](#): > > She also freaks out if the gas tank is below 1/2 My wife won’t fill up her car until it’s absolutely necessary. Of course, every time that I drive her car, it’s time to fill the tank. Diabolical and infuriating. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/798 "2024-12-04T13:52:13Z")
> [@minor7flat5](#): > > (side rant: Nobody has a lawyer guiding them through what they are accepting. Why is this “accept terms that you couldn’t possibly fully understand but will be totally binding” allowed in our world?) There’s a great Planet Money episode about exactly this question: [Why terms of service got so frustratingly awful : Planet Money : NPR](https://www.npr.org/2023/07/13/1187543648/terms-and-conditions-of-service-contracts-clickwrap) Short answer: because the law is written by the big companies. ---
**Author:** ![ZonexandScout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zonexandscout/32/544_2.png) [@ZonexandScout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZonexandScout)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/799 "2024-12-04T14:21:58Z")
My wife has four or five rows of spices in nice (glass, not disposable) bottles on the lowest shelf of the cabinet next to the stove. Several times a year, she takes the empty bottles to the “very expensive spice store” and refills them. The way she keeps track of which spices she needs is to put the nearly-empty bottles on the back row. I’ve asked her whether it wouldn’t be better to put the empty or nearly-empty bottles on the front row so she can see which ones she needs to refill. “No, why bother having to reach over empty ones to get the ones I need?” I’m still considering this. ---
**Author:** ![Wallaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Wallaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wallaby)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-infuriate-you-well-beyond-their-actual-importance/1006712/800 "2024-12-04T19:25:43Z")
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