# Things that rub you the wrong way, and you know it's stupid. Things where it annoys you that they annoy you **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 20, 2024, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558 "2024-04-20T20:26:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/101 "2024-05-02T16:09:12Z")
I don’t think it’s generational - I’m 60 and I don’t have a problem with being called by my first name but it is strange when doctors/other medical staff/bank tellers do it. In a way that doesn’t feel strange when the restaurant owner/server/mechanic does it. And I can only guess that it’s because doctors I’ve been seeing for 20 years call me “Ms Lastname” and no mechanics ever have. ---
**Author:** ![Ulfreida](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ulfreida/32/8014_2.png) [@Ulfreida](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulfreida)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/102 "2024-05-02T16:11:03Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > I’m rubbed the wrong way by the very existence of lowest-common-denominator, trashy TV like _Dr. Phil_ or _My Giant Tumor_ or _Judge Judy_ or what have you. And I don’t mean by the shows themselves, I mean by the fact that they exist at all and that people like them. Mrs. Homie will sometimes, when she’s exceptionally bored, watch one of those and the very existence of those (metaphorical) airwaves in my home just makes my skin crawl. > > Somewhat-related: vapid rom-coms and summer popcorn blockbusters. Like, the other night there was a commercial for some movie in the _Planet of the Apes_ franchise and I was literally offended that somebody, somewhere, thought that I might be interested in that ferkakte movie. My daughter says my personal motto is “why do people even LIKE that?” Widely, very widely, applicable. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/103 "2024-05-02T16:13:47Z")
I hate when my boss tells me to do something that I was fixing to do anyway. ---
**Author:** ![EinsteinsHund](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/einsteinshund/32/8400_2.png) [@EinsteinsHund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EinsteinsHund)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/104 "2024-05-02T16:20:52Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Turns out he did a great show. Did he kill you softly with his song? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/105 "2024-05-02T16:21:47Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > I hate when my boss tells me to do something that I was fixing to do anyway. Yeah, first things sometimes have to be first. I used to tell my (previous) boss I was going to do something, and he would respond - “That will be easy”. Oh really Mr. doesn’t write code. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/106 "2024-05-02T16:27:08Z")
> [@EinsteinsHund](#): > > Did he kill you softly with his song? 😉 Yes!!! And that was a surprise I did not know. I actually looked it up on the drive home from the concert. > The lyrics were written in collaboration with Lori Lieberman after she was inspired by a Don McLean performance in late 1971. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/107 "2024-05-02T17:48:22Z")
Yeah, that’s a pretty interesting little bit of trivia! Nice one, @EinsteinsHund. ---
**Author:** ![Mama\_Zappa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/71e660/32.png) [@Mama\_Zappa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mama_Zappa)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/108 "2024-05-02T17:59:17Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > We recently saw Don McLean in concert. …Of course he came back out for an encore, which was a 20 minute version of _American Pie_. He never asked us to sing along with the chorus, but we all did. Nice!! I “accidentally” saw Three Dog Night, 5 years back; they were playing smaller venues, and somehow I happened to see an ad for them playing in the town where my daughter lives, when I was there for a long weekend. I snagged one of the last seats available. Naturally, we all sang along to Joy To The World (the chorus ). ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/109 "2024-05-02T20:02:55Z")
> [@Mama\_Zappa](#): > > Nice!! > > I “accidentally” saw Three Dog Night, 5 years back; We might have to start an accidental concerts thread. I once went to an Aerosmith/KISS concert having no interest whatsoever in KISS. Aerosmith was meh. KISS rocked our faces off. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/110 "2024-05-02T20:18:23Z")
> [@Mama\_Zappa](#): > > I “accidentally” saw Three Dog Night, 5 years back; they were playing smaller venues, We took my mother-in-law to see them during that tour. They played a small hall near Pittsburgh. My gf drove and so me and her mom got to pregame, then have a few beers at the show. Fun time! ---
**Author:** ![EinsteinsHund](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/einsteinshund/32/8400_2.png) [@EinsteinsHund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EinsteinsHund)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/111 "2024-05-02T20:23:56Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > We might have to start an accidental concerts thread. I remember having started a thread “Concerts you’ve been to where the supporting act upstaged the main act” or some such, but that was years ago. ---
**Author:** ![Orville\_mogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/aeb1de/32.png) [@Orville\_mogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orville_mogul)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/112 "2024-05-02T20:27:40Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > KISS rocked our faces off. Took my girls to see KISS at an outdoor festival two summers ago. I barely knew their music but they were fantastic. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/113 "2024-05-02T21:49:34Z")
My first concert was Heart warming up for the headliner KISS. Nobody cared about KISS. ---
**Author:** ![Horatius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/horatius/32/3572_2.png) [@Horatius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Horatius)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/114 "2024-05-02T22:24:38Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > We might have to start an accidental concerts thread. It wasn’t exactly “accidental”, but I did see Jethro Tull in concert in Hamilton, Ontario, when I was in university. A friend ended up with an extra ticket when his other friend couldn’t make it at almost the last minute, so I caught the bus down to Hamilton Friday afternoon to meet him. After the concert, we missed the last bus to Toronto, and so spent the night wandering the streets of downtown Hamilton. We visited abut 10 donut shops and one very scary strip club, then got the first bus to Toronto about 5AM. Probably the 1st or 2nd worst night I had during my university days, but I still talk about it 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Jaycat.again](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jaycat.again/32/11525_2.png) [@Jaycat.again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaycat.again)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2024, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/115 "2024-05-02T22:36:10Z")
> [@GargoyleWB](#): > > When art sculptures, exhibits, statues etc are called “installations”. Anything that’s craft anything, or artisanal, or (especially) “curated.” ---
**Author:** ![blondebear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blondebear/32/1022_2.png) [@blondebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blondebear)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2024, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/116 "2024-05-03T01:42:09Z")
Something that rubs me the wrong way and I know it’s kind of stupid (and hypocritical in an odd way) is noisy/unruly school groups on field trips on hiking trails. This past week I’ve encountered groups on trails through sequoia and redwood groves and it’s really annoying to have the peace and quiet shattered by a bunch of kids goofing off. But…if I think about it for a second, I’m sure my friends and I were just as rowdy when we went on field trips like this many decades ago. The irony isn’t lost on me…I’ve turned into the hiking version of the “get off my lawn” guy—but in this case my lawn is a forest. ---
**Author:** ![Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eyebrows_0f_doom/32/3119_2.png) [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eyebrows_0f_Doom)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2024, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/117 "2024-05-03T03:23:43Z")
That’s a perfectly acceptable thing to be bothered by. Loud groups of school kids _are_ annoying, and hearing all that yelling and screaming against the quiet of nature just makes it stand out even more. ---
**Author:** ![GESancMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gesancman/32/2923_2.png) [@GESancMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GESancMan)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2024, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/118 "2024-05-03T04:39:30Z")
> [@doreen](#): > > I don’t think it’s generational - I’m 60 and I don’t have a problem with being called by my first name but it is strange when doctors/other medical staff/bank tellers do it. In a way that doesn’t feel strange when the restaurant owner/server/mechanic does it. And I can only guess that it’s because doctors I’ve been seeing for 20 years call me “Ms Lastname” and no mechanics ever have. I prefer to be called by my first name. I view people who insist on Mr/Mrs/Ms as being very full of themselves. There’s no reason for it in this day and age. On the first day of class, I introduce myself to my students by saying “my name is Peter. Please call me Peter. Please DO NOT call me Mr. Gabriel, or Professor, or anything respectful like that. I prefer us to all be on a first-name basis.” I’d say about half of them call me Mr, or professor, or whatever anyway. I used to insist on my first name when they did that, but one quarter one of my students was a kid from another culture, who’d had it instilled from his earliest days that you don’t call your elders by their first name. I kept telling him to call me by my first name, but he couldn’t wrap his head around the idea. He finally settled on “Mr. Peter,” and I realized I need to let it go if students insist on calling me Mr. I still don’t like it, though. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2024, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/119 "2024-05-03T05:05:33Z")
See, I don’t think I’m full of myself. I just prefer strangers address me as an adult rather than a child. Just two diametrically opposed systems, both in play… I used to try addressing my students by their last names but they hated that, so I stopped. I let them call me by my first name and try not to grimace when they do… “twenty-first century, not nineteenth” is what I’m reminding myself in my head. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2024, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-that-rub-you-the-wrong-way-and-you-know-its-stupid-things-where-it-annoys-you-that-they-annoy-you/1000558/120 "2024-05-03T11:19:48Z")
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