# Think back to the first person you had sex with. Were the two of you in love? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 21, 2011, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-back-to-the-first-person-you-had-sex-with-were-the-two-of-you-in-love/586309 "2011-06-21T17:04:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2011, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-back-to-the-first-person-you-had-sex-with-were-the-two-of-you-in-love/586309/121 "2011-06-27T00:51:11Z")
No. No. No. No. I was a college freshman, and was WAY overdue to having my first sexual experience. I met a guy who was hot and had a great sense of humor, and he made it clear that he was available. That’s all it took. ---
**Author:** ![Cyberhwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7993a0/32.png) [@Cyberhwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyberhwk)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2011, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-back-to-the-first-person-you-had-sex-with-were-the-two-of-you-in-love/586309/122 "2011-06-27T01:56:14Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > 1. At the time, did you believe you were in love with that first bedmate? > 2. At the time, did you believe that person was in love with you? > 3. In retrospect, do you still believe you were in love with that first bedmate? > 4. In retrospect, do you still believe that person was in love with you? No, no, no, and no. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2011, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-back-to-the-first-person-you-had-sex-with-were-the-two-of-you-in-love/586309/123 "2011-06-28T16:38:01Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > 1. At the time, did you believe you were in love with that first bedmate? > 2. At the time, did you believe that person was in love with you? > 3. In retrospect, do you still believe you were in love with that first bedmate? > 4. In retrospect, do you still believe that person was in love with you? 1. No. I was hammered and it was the first time we met. 2-4) See #1. ---
**Author:** ![romansperson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/romansperson/32/17100_2.png) [@romansperson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/romansperson)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2011, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-back-to-the-first-person-you-had-sex-with-were-the-two-of-you-in-love/586309/124 "2011-06-28T19:41:16Z")
Yes to all four, though I did outgrow him after a few years and we split up. That was 30 years ago. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2011, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-back-to-the-first-person-you-had-sex-with-were-the-two-of-you-in-love/586309/125 "2011-06-28T20:02:17Z")
1. Absolutely. She was my first serious girlfriend, and as an awkward kid who had had terrible luck with girls up until that point, I fell completely head-over-heels for her (undoubtedly helped by the fact that she was the “pursuer” in the relationship). 2. Yes. 3. Yes, though there was undoubtedly a huge dollop of infatuation and lust in there, as well. 4. I’ve often wondered. She eventually dropped me, rather cruelly and suddenly, for a friend of mine (about a year after the “first time”), but I do imagine that there was some level of love there, at least at the original time. Parenthetically: 28 years ago, at age 18. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-back-to-the-first-person-you-had-sex-with-were-the-two-of-you-in-love/586309.md?page=6)