# Think of the persons who think most higly of you (other than your parents) and answer this question. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 3, 2011, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696 "2011-11-03T00:32:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/1 "2011-11-03T00:32:18Z")
Are those persons’ good opinions of you generally correct, in your opinion? Why or why not? Poll in a moment. The results will be private because I am not wearing my evil hat at the moment. ---
**Author:** ![Athena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/35a633/32.png) [@Athena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Athena)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/2 "2011-11-03T01:18:19Z")
Of course their opinion is correct. As is your sig. If more people would adopt it, the SDMB would be a much better place. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/3 "2011-11-03T01:23:41Z")
I think so but to be honest, a lot of the time I assume that when someone has a good opinion of me that they’re wrong or have been misled in some way. It’s kind of a problem… ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/4 "2011-11-03T01:23:41Z")
> [@Athena](#): > > Of course their opinion is correct. As is your sig. If more people would adopt it, the SDMB would be a much better place. O Goddess, You are, of course, perfectly aware of this, but for the sake of the vulgar I feel constrained to point out that You are a special case. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/5 "2011-11-03T01:28:01Z")
Plplplplplplplp! to Athena. My boy is all that and a nymph sandwich. I am everything they imagine, and more. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/6 "2011-11-03T02:17:30Z")
Their opinion of me is correct, but then again, it isn’t all that high. ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/7 "2011-11-03T02:28:59Z")
I am not in fact the strongest daddy in the world, but I don’t mind being told that I am. ---
**Author:** ![FlyByNight512](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/82dd89/32.png) [@FlyByNight512](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FlyByNight512)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/8 "2011-11-03T03:02:52Z")
None of your possible answers are quite right for me. The people who think highly of me are right to think that I behave well and am generally kind to people, but they vastly underestimate how selfish I am. I am definitely the center of my own little world! ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/9 "2011-11-03T05:20:56Z")
The way I look at it, they’re probably as right to think highly of me as I am to think highly of the people I do. I’m not perfect, and I’m not under the illusion that any of those people I think the world of are either. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/10 "2011-11-03T05:51:35Z")
My parents don’t likely think highly of me anyway. I value all the wrong things like logic, reason, and treating all children like they might become independent adults someday… snerk. I guess maybe my sister might qualify. I think she’s proud that I successfully improved my credit rating after my bankruptcy and went from the red to the black. And that I managed to do passingly well for myself, despite being raised by the abusive and/or neglectful dingbats that raised us both. But I’m a pretty selfish person, and I don’t try to hide it. I think she’s realistic about that. Anyway, ruminations aside, I would say that my sister’s opinion of me is fairly spot-on. I don’t have any worshippers anymore. I used to have a group of band-parents and classmates in high school who had some vision of me as a perfect little angel who could do no wrong, but thankfully all that stopped when I left my hometown. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/11 "2011-11-03T06:48:39Z")
The only people that get it wrong are those who voted me as being most likely to succeed back in junior high. ---
**Author:** ![iftheresaway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ecae2f/32.png) [@iftheresaway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iftheresaway)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 6:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/12 "2011-11-03T06:53:15Z")
In general, I think that the people who think highly of me are people whom I also think highly of. So I respect their opinion enough that, if they think I’m awesome, there must be something to it. It’s a comforting thought when I’m having a down day. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/13 "2011-11-03T07:50:28Z")
My friend just brings out the best in me. Other people, like my husband, bring out the stressed, impatient busybody-me. So, both their opinions of me are right. ---
**Author:** ![brittekland](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aeb1de/32.png) [@brittekland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brittekland)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 8:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/14 "2011-11-03T08:11:06Z")
People guess based on superficial clues. People closer to you obviously have better idea but they don’t really see through… even parents only see so far. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/15 "2011-11-03T08:23:23Z")
As far as I can tell, people tend to think at least a little more highly of me than I think is really justified. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/16 "2011-11-03T13:39:46Z")
What the hell. Yes, I am as awesome as they think I am. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/17 "2011-11-03T13:48:05Z")
I put in the ice cream and cake option, because, honestly, how do you answer this question? Not too long ago a very dear friend told me, after I told her that my mother was the strongest women I knew, that _I_ was the strongest woman _she_ knew. I was completely taken aback. Me? It is very hard to believe good press about yourself, and moreover, to believe that the other people mean the good press, if your self-esteem is not that high. I don’t say mine is weak, or low, but it used to be, and it took me long enough to get it this far. So, I suppose, in some options, sure. I’m as tough as they say I am. My SO realizes this sometimes - I know sometimes he thinks of me as someone to take care of, and I’m all right with that, but sometimes I can almost see him blink and realize how much I take care of myself. And sometimes they way overestimate me. I’m not as kind or as giving as people seem to think. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2011, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/18 "2011-11-03T13:58:48Z")
Oh, and people’s parents think highly of them? Really? I pretty much figured every parent was disappointed on some level with their kids. I Guess that says something about me, then! ---
**Author:** ![stewartlaura67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8baadc/32.png) [@stewartlaura67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stewartlaura67)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2011, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/19 "2011-11-04T05:29:52Z")
> [@iftheresaway](#): > > In general, I think that the people who think highly of me are people whom I also think highly of. So I respect their opinion enough that, if they think I’m awesome, there must be something to it. It’s a comforting thought when I’m having a down day. ^^^ This. Its’ like exchanging the roles. But yes, most of the time I mean around 95% times, they are correct! ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2011, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696/20 "2011-11-04T12:02:21Z")
Many people seem to think I am efficient and focussed. I know I am just lazy and try to do the least I need to accomplish any given thing. People seem to believe I am a very deep thinker, but I just don’t care for idle smalltalk. They think I am very intelligent, probably because I often have a book with me to avoid being bored by the flighty, chit-chatters I sometimes need to be around. Because I have not been drunk in public since college and I don’t waste my money when visiting the casinos, people seem to assume I have any number of other virtues. But I am really just too cheap to buy enough booze to get sloshed or to gamble (I understand odds well enough to not see any point in giving a casino my money). So I needed to vote that they are mostly wrong since they do not know my motivations behind the “generally recognized as admirable” behaviours I exhibit. Because I rarely do anything not driven by laziness or self-interest. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/think-of-the-persons-who-think-most-higly-of-you-other-than-your-parents-and-answer-this-question/601696.md?page=2)