# This dining habit is being called ‘one of the rudest’ ever. Is it really? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [February 7, 2023, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449 "2023-02-07T20:56:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![nightshadea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ba0ec/32.png) [@nightshadea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nightshadea)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/1 "2023-02-07T20:56:41Z")
> **[This dining habit is being called ‘one of the rudest’ ever. Is it really?](https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/ar-AA17cD5B?ocid=BingHp01&cvid=a9a792a5f9754e8c95174fd434cdec33)** > > There is now a term for this behavior: "invidious comparison eating,” or “ICE.” i mean if you ask someone how is it? it wouldn’t be …but I guess if you just put it out there it could be taken as rude what say the teeming millions? ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/2 "2023-02-07T21:18:51Z")
Obviously situational, but just offered, unasked, is usually rude. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/3 "2023-02-07T21:22:33Z")
I agree with @JohnT. “One of the rudest ever” is hyperbole and clickbait. But, unsolicited advice to the host/cook on how to improve a dish is something that’s likely to be taken as fairly rude by many people. I’m sure that there are outliers to that, such as if the host and guest have a very tight relationship, in which they expect each other to provide advice (even if unsolicited). But, for general social manners, it seems rude. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/4 "2023-02-07T21:27:30Z")
My gf recently made a very nice dinner that involved a white wine reduction sauce that was amazing. At one point I mentioned that a few capers might have made the sauce even better. We “discussed” the situation. I appreciate criticism about my cooking, but it turns out not everyone is like me. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/5 "2023-02-07T21:33:12Z")
Ouch. How many "I’m sorry"s? ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/6 "2023-02-07T21:38:56Z")
I’m not sure if I ever have done this or had it done to me. It seems fairly rude as a general rule, but I doubt I would feel slighted about it. I could see this happening between me and my brother, as we like talking food, and I can’t see either of us taking it poorly. But I would never do that to anyone else. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/7 "2023-02-07T21:47:21Z")
Closed on February 7, 2023, 9:47pm UTC ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2023, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-dining-habit-is-being-called-one-of-the-rudest-ever-is-it-really/979449/8 "2023-02-07T21:49:04Z")
No links without description OPs please. Avoid this in the future. I had many flags on this one and they were correct. If you want to PM the mods a summary line for the OP, we can add it and reopen but as is this thread is closed.