# This just in! Gay man is gay! \[Ricky Martin comes out\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [March 29, 2010, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258 "2010-03-29T21:52:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2010, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/41 "2010-03-31T19:57:26Z")
He danced with his arms higher than his shoulders. My husband tells me that’s the biggest give-away. ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2010, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/42 "2010-03-31T20:51:22Z")
> [@Mahna\_Mahna](#): > > Lance Bass wasn’t a Backstreet Boy, though. > > In fact, the straight-to-gay ratio for the Backstreet Boys currently stands at 5 to 0. > > Which means there’s still a slim chance that one of these days the deep, burning unrequited love I had for Nick back in 1997 will finally be returned. Not that I’m holding my breath, or anything. 🙂 Oops, my bad… NSync, Backstreet Boys… they sounded the same. 😉 And nope, nothing on the other known Menudo singers. Like I said, not all of them went on to be on the public eye, and maybe some of those that ARE gay just preferred to keep themselves out of the public eye. As to the rumors… the rumors in Spanish started long before he had the kids via a surrogate a couple of years ago. He had long term, public relationships with beautiful women, and not a talk about marriage or engagement (in a culture in which, for the most part, long term partnership ends in marriage). I think some of the rumours started then. ---
**Author:** ![Kylede](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/a6a055/32.png) [@Kylede](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kylede)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2010, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/43 "2010-03-31T22:13:08Z")
> [@thirdname](#): > > I don’t understand why people say “everybody knows” that Anderson Cooper is gay. I have no clue if he is or not, nor do I know if any other reporter might be gay. Are there really people who follow the dating lives of news anchors? Are these people followed around by paparazzi? Are there entire gossip rags dedicated to the love lives of CNN reporters? No, no one follows him around looking for his “Gayness”, but while he might not discuss it, he doesn’t try to hide it. He did go to gay bars, and make out there (when he was younger). Just becasue a celebrity doesn’t choose to discuss it doesn’t mean it isn’t real. Cooper just bought an old firehouse from the NYC fire dept. in the West Village where he and his boyfriend live. Neighbors know, locals know, it is not a secret. But then again any of number of paparazzi shot of Ricky Martin on vacation and canoodling with scantily clad men exist and have for years. I think what is bothering people about Martin is how he is now trying to use his “Coming OUT” as a bid to make himself a relavant celebrity. As a gay man I think that send a bad message to kids “Hide who you are until you need to use you identity to help you gain something” ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2010, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/44 "2010-04-01T02:31:08Z")
> [@Kylede](#): > > Neighbors know, locals know, it is not a secret. But then again any of number of paparazzi shot of Ricky Martin on vacation and canoodling with scantily clad men exist and have for years. I think what is bothering people about Martin is how he is now trying to use his “Coming OUT” as a bid to make himself a relavant celebrity. As a gay man I think that send a bad message to kids “Hide who you are until you need to use you identity to help you gain something” Eh… Again, I repeat, to the English entertainment press. It’s not as if Ricky has spent the last ten years of his life hidden from public view in the Latin American/Spanish/non-English press. Although, I’ll admit, he did come out (publicly) now, not when he was younger and even more famous than what he currently is. Before, he was still establishing himself, now he is just maintaining his career. He waited long enough so that his image wouldn’t be as affected. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2010, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/45 "2010-04-01T02:40:13Z")
A cynic might suggest that he’s coming out now because his career is at a lull, and this was meant to boost it. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2010, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/46 "2010-04-01T03:28:30Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > A cynic might suggest that he’s coming out now because his career is at a lull, and this was meant to boost it. You mean a celebrity might cynically take advantage of the tabloid press – do tell. Younger gay/lesbian celebrities do come out when their career is at a lull; older ones come out just as their autobiography is about to hit the bookstores. ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2010, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/47 "2010-04-01T05:36:04Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > Ricky Martin got his start in Menudo. And vice versa. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2010, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/48 "2010-04-01T18:48:20Z")
> [@Sampiro](#): > > So a heavy tool went deep inside him and set him free. Nothing gay about that. > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > He danced with his arms higher than his shoulders. My husband tells me that’s the biggest give-away. These two KILLED me. 😃 I’ll just go back to pining for Anderson… ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2010, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/49 "2010-04-01T22:13:27Z")
> [@FriarTed](#): > > And vice versa. Rumor has long been he slept with the manager of Menudo when he was an older teen and that he was willing to lie on the casting couch to get roles when he started as an actor. If so I think this is despicable. And I want to be a casting director. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2010, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/50 "2010-04-02T01:25:11Z")
**Sampiro** , what does “lie on the casting couch” mean? ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2010, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/51 "2010-04-02T01:34:34Z")
Sex? ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2010, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/52 "2010-04-02T02:20:01Z")
> [@KarlGrenze](#): > > Sex? Lay on the casting couch is sex. Lie on the casting couch is when you say how good they are at it. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2010, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258/53 "2010-04-02T02:47:50Z")
:smack: I didn’t think it would mean the obvious thing, but I guess it did… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-just-in-gay-man-is-gay-ricky-martin-comes-out/534258.md?page=2)