# This Time I Don't Want to Embarass My Daughter **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [December 30, 2013, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512 "2013-12-30T21:20:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/21 "2013-12-30T22:39:45Z")
Go ahead and show your true feelings: [The saddest song ever](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=px0j1EHF8Y0) ---
**Author:** ![Max\_Torque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Max\_Torque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_Torque)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/22 "2013-12-30T22:41:59Z")
[“I Loved Her First”](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pg8Z69B6RFQ) - Heartland ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/23 "2013-12-30T22:44:11Z")
> [@Pai325](#): > > What about The Way You Look Tonight? Ooof - I thought you were suggesting the Eric Clapton one! The Sinatra one is a decent suggestion, but has more of a romantic edge to it than father/daughter. So much of those lyrics say that her appearance has the effect of the singer loving her. That’s a little gross. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/24 "2013-12-30T22:55:07Z")
“[Daughter](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVam-fshUgw)” by Louden Wainwright III. [Lyrics here](http://www.sweetslyrics.com/476644.Loudon%20Wainwright%20III%20-%20Daughter.html), since we’re not supposed to post them in full. Here’s a snippet: > [@](#): > > Everything she sees > she says she wants. > Everything she wants > I see she gets. > > That’s my daughter in the water > everything she owns I bought her > Everything she owns. > That’s my daughter in the water, > everything she knows I taught her. > Everything she knows. ---
**Author:** ![Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/prof.pepperwinkle/32/13627_2.png) [@Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Prof.Pepperwinkle)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/25 "2013-12-30T23:00:57Z")
My Daughter’s planning her wedding for the Spring (maybe) and has informed me the father/daughter dance will be one that 1. I can dance to 2. Is the first dance she remembers dancing It’s The Hokey-Pokey. I’ve found an uptempo version by Brave Combo that’ll do nicely. ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/26 "2013-12-30T23:14:44Z")
Just go with “Sunrise Sunset”. Don’t overthink things. ---
**Author:** ![FeAudrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7feea3/32.png) [@FeAudrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FeAudrey)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/27 "2013-12-30T23:23:12Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > … my musical experience is severely limited … Does that mean that your dance experience is also severely limited? Your later reference to “slow enough to dance to” suggests that. Whatever the song choice, you and your daughter will have to learn the same recognizable dance to dance to it. For something from pop music with a slow-to-medium tempo and relatively easy to learn, I’d go with East Coast Swing or Cha Cha. Waltz also qualifies, but the first dance for the bride and groom is usually a waltz. Foxtrot is the classic American ballroom dance, but it is hard to learn. Check your local community college for group ballroom dance lessons; costs around $50-$75 for 6-8 lessons. The effort, time, and money can be a good investment, as a dad who can dance is an enviable asset to a bride. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/28 "2013-12-31T00:00:42Z")
> [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > Ultra-corny suggestion. When my sister was very young, my father always (nightly, for a good long time) sang to her before putting her down to bed, “You are my sunshine”. Ultra-corny, but slow enough you can dance to and, who knows, the sappy sentiment might appeal to her. Or embarrass her, who can tell? Damn, mrAru will dance around singing that to the cat … for me that would be a bad suggestion. :eek:😃 I know everybody tends to suggest Sunrise, Sunset but that is so damned overdone. How about a nice instrumental, no lyrics. There are freaking thousands of lovely waltzes available [just perhaps not this [one](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELufSzviGoU) …especially if you are anybodies["Uncle Charlie](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shadow_of_a_Doubt)" :eek:] ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/29 "2013-12-31T00:05:56Z")
> [@Prof.Pepperwinkle](#): > > My Daughter’s planning her wedding for the Spring (maybe) and has informed me the father/daughter dance will be one that > > 1. I can dance to > 2. Is the first dance she remembers dancing > > It’s The Hokey-Pokey. I’ve found an uptempo version by Brave Combo that’ll do nicely. I just want to say that your daughter is officially awesome. You knew that already of course, but it’s always nice to have confirmation. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/30 "2013-12-31T00:25:28Z")
> [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > Ultra-corny suggestion. When my sister was very young, my father always (nightly, for a good long time) sang to her before putting her down to bed, “You are my sunshine”. Ultra-corny, but slow enough you can dance to and, who knows, the sappy sentiment might appeal to her. Or embarrass her, who can tell? Similarly, when my kids marry (it will be a while) my dance is Sing from Sesame Street ---
**Author:** ![Hakuna\_Matata](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@Hakuna\_Matata](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hakuna_Matata)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/31 "2013-12-31T00:36:07Z")
[![]( " - YouTube") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9I5UV4VWCSk) My Little Girl by Tim Mcgraw with the added benefit in the song you subtly tell you future son in law he isn’t good enough for your daughter! or Grover Washington “I am glad there is you” this is more for a song between husband/wife but it also is how I feel about my daughter so it could be used that way too ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/32 "2013-12-31T00:36:18Z")
[Here’s](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fahr069-fzE) a good one. ---
**Author:** ![turtlescanfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@turtlescanfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/turtlescanfly)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/33 "2013-12-31T00:39:03Z")
_Daughters_ by John Mayer. _My Little Girl_ by Tim McGraw. Until/unless something better comes along, these will be what I’m using for my own daughter’s weddings (I have two daughters, not one that I expect to marry multiple times… not sure if I punctuated that properly:). ---
**Author:** ![turtlescanfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@turtlescanfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/turtlescanfly)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/34 "2013-12-31T00:59:59Z")
Runner’s Up: _Stealing Cinderella_ by Chuck Wicks. Definitely a father/daughter song but suffers from the fact that the singers voice is the daughters’ husband-to-be, not the father. _Butterfly Kisses_ by Bob Carlisle. Undoubtedly written for the sole purpose of being a father/daughter dance song, but it is a little too saccharine-sweet for me. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/35 "2013-12-31T01:08:33Z")
My little girl stuff is way too creepy/sappy for my tastes, but that’s just me! I would go with ‘Lean on Me’, everyone knows it, it’s a lovely sentiment, and, I think, appropriate for a Dad to his daughter. Isn’t that your most fervent wish? That whatever may come, she does not hesitate to ‘Lean on you’? ---
**Author:** ![Fluffy\_PickleSniffer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/77aa72/32.png) [@Fluffy\_PickleSniffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fluffy_PickleSniffer)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/36 "2013-12-31T01:13:22Z")
How about Can’t Smile Without You? ---
**Author:** ![Vagabond](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/258eb7/32.png) [@Vagabond](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vagabond)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/37 "2013-12-31T01:17:55Z")
IMO, it is her day:D it has to be all about her, so you have two choices. 1. Ask her what song she would choose, and then YOU choose that one. 2. You find out from someone else (friend/family member) what song your daughter would choose…and then choose that one.😉 I know you said her taste in music was not the best but, as I said it’s HER day, IMO if she wants ugly flowers or a bad song it’s ok…she’s not getting a face tattoo or hurting small woodland creatures. :eek: Just my opinion, good luck ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/38 "2013-12-31T01:24:18Z")
> [@Munch](#): > > Ooof - I thought you were suggesting the Eric Clapton one! The Sinatra one is a decent suggestion, but has more of a romantic edge to it than father/daughter. So much of those lyrics say that her appearance has the effect of the singer loving her. That’s a little gross. I was thinking Frank Sinatra. I looked at the lyrics online, and I think the tone of the singing would make a difference. But when in doubt, don’t, is probably best. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/39 "2013-12-31T01:29:55Z")
> [@Prof.Pepperwinkle](#): > > It’s The Hokey-Pokey. I’ve found an uptempo version by Brave Combo that’ll do nicely. Followed by the Bunny Hop? ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2013, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512/40 "2013-12-31T03:42:01Z")
> [@Ravenman](#): > > I think you need to pay a liiiiiitle closer attention to lyrics. “I Will Always Love You” is basically a breakup song, which I’m sure you aren’t going for. Considering how thrilled he is about the boyfriend, I’d say it’d be fitting. On a few levels. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-time-i-dont-want-to-embarass-my-daughter/677512.md?page=3)