# This town is too small- an OKCupid story **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 30, 2011, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108 "2011-09-30T03:49:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2011, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108/21 "2011-09-30T21:44:40Z")
Grats! - In before “If this thread had the gender roles reversed, there would be way more jeering and criticizing” (though in fairness the OP did get a few snide remarks) ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2011, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108/22 "2011-09-30T21:52:23Z")
I feel like if the gender roles were reversed, there would be _less_ jeering. What’s unusual about a youngish single guy following up with a girl he met in a club who seems game, or making a date on OKCupid with a cute girl? Do guys not look at the profile pics on OKCupid, relying instead on deep textual analysis of the profile or something? ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2011, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108/23 "2011-10-01T00:20:28Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > I feel like if the gender roles were reversed, there would be _less_ jeering. What’s unusual about a youngish single guy following up with a girl he met in a club who seems game, or making a date on OKCupid with a cute girl? It would be more the bragging about all the hot girls he’s got on his rolodex that he’s simultaneously playing which would draw the board’s wrath. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2011, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108/24 "2011-10-01T00:28:06Z")
I live in a weird city where everyone seems to know everyone else, through maybe two degrees of separation if not directly. So when I joined eHarmony, in the first week I got matched with (1) a guy I had met at house parties already, and (2) a guy whose profile picture was him with somebody I worked with. A few weeks later I was matched with the man who became his husband. He had just gotten divorced from the best friend of the host of those house parties. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2011, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108/25 "2011-10-01T00:33:27Z")
lmao I was wondering—were you showing the “two” guys different sides of your personality? That would really be funny if he thinks you’re Sybil… I agree; check them out first. Then see what’s under the skin. Happy hunting. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2011, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108/26 "2011-10-01T00:43:52Z")
(sigh) … the man who became _my_ husband… Baby no nap today. Mommy brain fried. ---
**Author:** ![voguevixen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5ac83/32.png) [@voguevixen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voguevixen)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2011, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108/27 "2011-10-01T02:24:30Z")
> [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](#): > > Does he like Pina Coladas? _snerk_ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/this-town-is-too-small-an-okcupid-story/598108.md?page=1)