My sympathies and good thought to all parents posting here who’ve lost a child. As @TokyoBayer says, it’s not at all appropriate to second guess parents.
Good friends of ours had a child who died 30 years ago, at one month old. I’ve heard them say that they think of him every day, and every moment of his life was invaluable to them.
There’s a thread that gives a blow-by-blow account of a parent’s responses to his baby girl’s diagnosis with SMA, Spinal Muscular Atrophy; it was agonizing but ultimately hopeful. She was diagnosed at 4 months and they were told that her life expectancy was maybe 2 years, but she’s 12 now.
My baby girl has Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA) - Mundane Pointless Stuff I Must Share (MPSIMS) - Straight Dope Message Board
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