# Threadshitting on a thread to whine about threadshitting **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 4, 2009, 10:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397 "2009-02-04T10:36:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Borborygmi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/borborygmi/32/217_2.png) [@Borborygmi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Borborygmi)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/21 "2009-02-04T15:01:28Z")
> [@XJETGIRLX](#): > > > [@Br\_er\_Lapin](#): > > > > I’d feel a little better if I at least felt like I knew SOMETHING about the people the formula would be going to. > > So you get to decide who is worthy enough? Nice. This is an outlandish out-of-context quote. Here it is again with the very next sentence. > [@Br\_er\_Lapin](#): > > I’d feel a little better if I at least felt like I knew SOMETHING about the people the formula would be going to. I personally knew people who abuse systems like this in order to just take the formula down to the local corner store and sell it for drug money. **Br’er Lapin** , I don’t know why you’re still getting such responses. Disclaimer: I’m not threadshitting. I’m hijacking. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/22 "2009-02-04T15:09:48Z")
> [@XJETGIRLX](#): > > So you get to decide who is worthy enough? Nice. Now that’s just silly. **Everyone** who engages in charity decides in one way or another who is “worthy” of their money or goods. ---
**Author:** ![Hi\_Neighbor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hi_neighbor/32/494_2.png) [@Hi\_Neighbor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hi_Neighbor)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/23 "2009-02-04T15:20:28Z")
> [@XJETGIRLX](#): > > So you get to decide who is worthy enough? Nice. It doesn’t have anything to do with “being worthy.” He just wanted to learn a little about the recipients, hence the “personal” aspect. This wasn’t a contest to see who could write the saddest story, thus deserving the baby food more than others; it was an attempt to connect with other posters, GOD DAMNIT. People jumped all over his shit for trying to do something nice. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/24 "2009-02-04T15:23:19Z")
> [@Hi\_Neighbor](#): > > IMO, posters would have replied to the OP’s thread and shared a bit of their stories. Nothing too personal, but perhaps enough to get a feel for who was actually receiving the donations. OTOH, at a women’s shelter, you just kind of drop off the goods and walk away. You probably don’t get to see the faces or learn about the people who are actually benefiting from your contribution. Yeah, true…I guess I just don’t see the Internet quite that way. Just seems hard to get warm fuzzies from a computer screen. But then it’s probably no different than when you send money to a kid in a far off country and you get back some thank you letter…you don’t really know the person in that situation either, and yet the warm fuzzies are there. I’m bad with warm fuzzies, though. ---
**Author:** ![FarmerChick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@FarmerChick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FarmerChick)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/25 "2009-02-04T15:59:37Z")
> [@Br\_er\_Lapin](#): > > Some of the responses to my OP horrifed me. > > Yes, I placed the offer at the SDMB specifically because I want people to think I’m an awesome person. Or maybe it was this: > > I’d feel a little better if I at least felt like I knew SOMETHING about the people the formula would be going to. I personally knew people who abuse systems like this in order to just take the formula down to the local corner store and sell it for drug money. I believe there was a thread about this recently, as a matter of fact > But thanks for all being a bunch of bitter fuckers. > > I’m not re-opening the thread. > [@Br\_er\_Lapin](#): > > As an addendum: I’ve been at the message board for YEARS and I feel like part of a community here (mostly an outsider, but still a part). Is it wrong to want to help out members of a “community” you “belong” to, before you help out total strangers? I’m sorry you were derailed from doing a good thing by a complete fucking asshole. Please reconsider though, as we both know, there are a ton of Dopers that could use a hand. > [@Turek](#): > > And what fucking business was it of yours? What right did you have to question her motivation? > > You were an asshole in that thread and you got called on it. Shut the fuck up now, because you’re just making yourself look like even more of an asshole. yup. > [@seodoa](#): > > And that answer would’ve more than satisfied my curiosity. I meant no ill will of any kind. I was merely curious. Thank you. > > **Turek** , I’m shutting up now. Nobody posting in this thread is going to actually pay attention to the OP and I see that now. The thread I linked to was mean only as an example of the kind of post I was pitting. This thread has nothing to do with how I phrased my question in that thread, what question I asked, or even that thread at all. THAT thread was started as a kindness, you fucked it up by insulting the OP. Fuck you. > [@XJETGIRLX](#): > > So you get to decide who is worthy enough? Nice. Fuck you twice, miserable bitch. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/26 "2009-02-04T16:03:08Z")
You would look to get a personal connection for the gift the same way that I came to the Dope to say something about my husband’s death rather than just standing on the street corner screaming it. Many of us feel the urge to connect, to find people we can help directly, and sure, to bring some joy or some relief to someone we feel we “know,” to someone whose thanks we can get so we can think, “I did someone good today. I made someone’s life better today. And I know because they told me so.” ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/27 "2009-02-04T16:20:33Z")
Practically speaking, I think it makes more sense to give away something locally than to spend a lot of money shipping it cross-country. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/28 "2009-02-04T16:22:55Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > Practically speaking, I think it makes more sense to give away something locally than to spend a lot of money shipping it cross-country. When someone asks how they can most efficiently give away something, you’ll have a point. ---
**Author:** ![XJETGIRLX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/9fc29f/32.png) [@XJETGIRLX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/XJETGIRLX)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/29 "2009-02-04T16:43:15Z")
> [@FarmerChick](#): > > Fuck you twice, miserable bitch. No thanks, you’re not really my type 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/30 "2009-02-04T16:56:08Z")
People sell formula for drug money? You know what, the end result no matter what is going to be that a baby gets the formula, and there aren’t any undeserving babies. It’s just a few cans of formula, it’s not a billion dollar bequeath. Don’t be so pompous about it. Just take it to a women’s shelter. That will be your good deed. You dont need to milk it by having people write you essays on why they’re more deserving than someone else. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/31 "2009-02-04T17:03:41Z")
By the way, food shelves need baby formula too. ---
**Author:** ![Caffeine.addict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f475e1/32.png) [@Caffeine.addict](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caffeine.addict)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/32 "2009-02-04T17:07:15Z")
Maybe she just wants to feel like there is some sort of connection between her and the recipient. Maybe she’d like to help out someone in a community she cares about and she doesn’t feel a particular connection to her geographic location. Who gives a shit as to why she may or may not be doing it? All I see is she is trying to do something nice. ---
**Author:** ![jali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ecae2f/32.png) [@jali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jali)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/33 "2009-02-04T17:09:04Z")
Hopefully someone has PM’d you with information on someone in need. Please ignore the bitter assholes who would find something wrong in whatever was posted/offered/said. Some people live to be mean. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/34 "2009-02-04T17:12:01Z")
No good deed goes unpunished. ---
**Author:** ![Hi\_Neighbor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hi_neighbor/32/494_2.png) [@Hi\_Neighbor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hi_Neighbor)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/35 "2009-02-04T17:23:36Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > You know what, the end result no matter what is going to be that a baby gets the formula, and there aren’t any undeserving babies. It’s just a few cans of formula, it’s not a billion dollar bequeath. Don’t be so pompous about it. Just take it to a women’s shelter. That will be your good deed. **Br’er Lapin** wasn’t being pompous at all. She merely asked if anyone was in need of baby formula. I didn’t notice the OP exhibiting any kind of self-importance. You’d have to stretch what the OP said pretty far and dig REALLY deep to misconstrue **Br’er Lapin** as coming off arrogant. Yea, she’s not giving away a billion dollars, but it’s a kind gesture nonetheless. Who cares about the value of a donation? What ever happened to, “It’s the thought that counts”? Why question her motive? Totally unnecessary. > [@](#): > > You dont need to milk it by having people write you essays on why they’re more deserving than someone else. Like I said before, it was never meant to be a contest - just a chance to connect with other posters on a more personal level. Why can’t you people at least ATTEMPT to be decent human beings once in a while? Fake it; I don’t care. Just refrain from being nasty, especially in response to someone OFFERING TO GIVE AWAY SOMETHING FOR FREE TO THOSE WHO NEED IT. Wow. ---
**Author:** ![flyboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/4da419/32.png) [@flyboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flyboy)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/36 "2009-02-04T17:29:11Z")
> [@Ensign\_Edison](#): > > Right. It’s impossible to ever mention any other thread in the Pit without Pitizens seeing that as an invitation to debate the merits of your behavior in the thread, on their own terms, not the ones you wanted to set out in the OP. It’s frustrating, but fighting it is pointless. I honestly think you could say ‘I was threadshitting. It was wrong and I should never do it again. I cannot deny that I was threadshitting in any way’ and a lot of people would go ‘Whatever, stop denying it!’ > > I agree with you – posting just to say ‘that’s threadshitting’ EVEN WHEN IT IS TRUE is still adding to the threadshitting. IMO, you’re missing the point. He’s complaining about threadshitting whilst not realizing he himself originated it in that particular thread (he may realize it now, I’m really not sure). Was he a douche in that thread? Yeah. But he not only doubled that, he quadrupled it by starting a whole 'nother pit thread about threadshitting and how it’s a bad thing. WTF? **Br’er Lapin** , who the fuck do you think you are starting a thread to donate something expensive like that? Get the hell off our boards. We don’t need your type. You’re obviously a troll. Go fuck yourself. Thinking you’re all that because you’re trying to donate something. Not just donate it, but pay for shipping to get it to someone that could really use it. Screw you double for that, buddy. Tool. 🙂 Actually, I donate stuff every now and then on Freecycle. I have to say, people share some weird and sad stuff when they want something you’re offering. It’s sad, but at the same time nice to pick out someone that you think is really in need of it. On preview, what **Hi, Neighbor!** said. ---
**Author:** ![XJETGIRLX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/9fc29f/32.png) [@XJETGIRLX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/XJETGIRLX)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/37 "2009-02-04T17:31:12Z")
> [@Hi\_Neighbor](#): > > She merely asked if anyone was in need of baby formula. Except that she didn’t _merely_ ask anything. She asked with conditions that made the distribution of the formula more drawn out and complex than it needed to be. I’m not saying she’s an evil, heinous, selfish person out to make herself feel superior by holding this over the heads of the unfortunate. I’m just saying that it’s not unreasonable to question motives when someone puts conditions on giving for a charitable sake that make it more difficult for the unfortunate to get a needed resource (which kind of goes against the point of charity in the first place). Edited to add example: Merely asking: “Hey, does anyone need formula? I have some.” Asking with conditions: “Hey, does anyone know anyone personally that’s really poor or unfortunate or in need of formula that will swear on a stack of bibles not to sell it for drugs or booze?” or just reference the linked thread. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/38 "2009-02-04T17:35:47Z")
I’ll tell you what. If the OP gives it away to a food shelter instead of making a contest out of it or needing to “connect” with whoever she deems worthy of her formula, I will give away an equal amount of formula to a food shelf in my area. Is that nice enough for you? My wife used to supervise a lot of food shelves in the Twin Cities Metro area. I can assure the OP that anyone who gets formula from a food shelf will need it. She might not get letters and pictures from the family adopting her 6 boxes of formula, but she will feed babies, and that’s what matters. What do you say, **Br’er**? If you give it to a food shelf or a women’s sheltre, I will match the donation. You have a chance to double the amount you’re giving away. What’s more important to you, playing George Costanza, Philanthropist over a few boxes of baby formula or doubling the number of babies you can feed? ---
**Author:** ![Sapo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Sapo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sapo)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/39 "2009-02-04T17:39:14Z")
> [@XJETGIRLX](#): > > So you get to decide who is worthy enough? Nice. Well, yes, of course. Why would she not? She is the one giving and she decides who she gives to. It is not that outlandish, really. Do you throw money from the moon and let it fall where it may? Even by giving it to a women’s shelter you are choosing them. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2009, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397/40 "2009-02-04T17:43:33Z")
> [@Hi\_Neighbor](#): > > Well, if you were merely pitting “threadshitting,” I find it hard to believe anyone would have disagreed with you. By definition, it’s not a good thing. The replies here were just addressing your particular example and determining whether or not the bickering between you and **wheresgeorge04** caused the thread to be prematurely locked. IMO, you both derailed the thread quite nicely. If so, sorry about that. I had no idea that eight words from my keyboard (ten if you count my signatures) were so powerful. It was not my intention to threadshit by pointing out threadshitting… Aaahh, fuck it. Who cares? I hate bickering bullshit. Though I am sorry to **Brer** for contributing to the thread’s demise. Joe [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threadshitting-on-a-thread-to-whine-about-threadshitting/484397.md?page=3)