# Threatening to leave? Mods/Admin-can we get a ruling on this? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 4, 2003, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372 "2003-04-04T02:50:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/1 "2003-04-04T02:50:35Z")
Okay, I have seen quite a few people, who, having spread their feces all over the board, and then have it rubbed back in their faces, make a HUGE fuss over how they’re leaving and never ever ever coming back here. And then they show up a week later. And the cycle continues. I personally find this to be trolling, or at the very least, Being a Jerk. I think we should get some clarification on this, as it is so obviously done to get a reaction. ---
**Author:** ![erislover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/71e660/32.png) [@erislover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erislover)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/2 "2003-04-04T02:51:30Z")
Clarification: you’re right, they do that. Clear now? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/3 "2003-04-04T03:05:25Z")
Those reactions are tanamount to “I’m taking my toys out of the sandbox and going home”, only to return to said sandbox next time it’s a nice day. Tantrums happen, and the tantrum thrower shatters their credibility. If they would prefer to act like children, until and unless they make amends, they should simply be tolerated. I don’t want to say ignored, but their opinions should not be given that much weight. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/4 "2003-04-04T03:19:54Z")
Jesus, I wish you’d threaten to leave. And MEAN it. And, as always, I do hate you all. Except Demo, who is pure love. ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/5 "2003-04-04T03:23:49Z")
:rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/50afbb/32.png) [@Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duck_Duck_Goose)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/6 "2003-04-04T03:29:21Z")
One problem with that, Guin. If you have a rule saying that “Posters who have temper tantrums and stomp off in a snit will be considered Jerks and not be allowed to come back”, where does that leave the twin concepts of “Apologies” and “Forgiveness”? I can think of a few lesser (hobbyist) message boards around the Internet that I’ve run across that have a “Well, if _they_ don’t want _us_, then _we_ certainly don’t want _them_” policy, and lemme tell you, some people think the SDMB is a clique, well, they ain’t seen nuthin’ compared to these. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/7 "2003-04-04T03:30:50Z")
Are we thinking of the same Demo? He’s pure something but I don’t think it’s love. ---
**Author:** ![Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5fc32e/32.png) [@Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bad_News_Baboon)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/8 "2003-04-04T03:54:26Z")
I think the main problem is who or what determines “spreading feces”. Do you have a specific link that you would like to mention? I think this cat and mouse game is not going to solve anything. If someone is pissing you off, you’re a big enough girl to pit them directly, no? This whole _somebody_ is doing _something_ wrong stuff doesn’t cut it for me. Usually the person in reference has no clue you mean them. You know…it’s _somebody_ else… ---
**Author:** ![NaSultainne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/8797f3/32.png) [@NaSultainne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NaSultainne)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/9 "2003-04-04T03:54:27Z")
I say ignore the poster and be done with it. Sheesh, it’s this kind of stuff that reminds me of girls in high school. \<\<_looking around_\>\> There is no way in sam hill that everyone is going to go along and get along on this message board. Just **don’t** answer posters who drive you nuts! Is that so hard to do? Anyone else here think that this board has lately gone bonkers with an excess of anger, hostility and sheer venom? Or is it, sadly, my low tolerance level for crap?😕 ---
**Author:** ![EasyPhil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e47c2d/32.png) [@EasyPhil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EasyPhil)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/10 "2003-04-04T04:07:42Z")
**Guinastasia** , you could ban them you know. Oh, wait, you have to be an Administrator to do that. Since that’s the case, why not talk to the powers that be about becoming an Administrator, you would then have the power to fix this. ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/11 "2003-04-04T04:09:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by NaSultainne \* > \*\* > > Anyone else here think that this board has lately gone bonkers with an excess of anger, hostility and sheer venom? Or is it, sadly, my low tolerance level for crap?😕 \*\* It’s cyclical. Last year about this time exactly the same question as yours was asked by someone else, and I imagine the same thing the year before that. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/12 "2003-04-04T04:20:30Z")
I don’t think it’s deliberate trolling, at least not usually. I think they probably mean it when they say it, but then…a couple of weeks later, they calm down, they come back and they hope everybody will forget about it. I really don’t think it’s a banning offense, but maybe it’s a pitworthy offense if they make a habit of it. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/13 "2003-04-04T04:41:50Z")
Basically, it was inspired by **His4ever** , who only a week or so previously, said she’s done with this place, (For like the fifth time), then once again, feels compelled to pop back up when one of her buddies is spewing crap again. Or how she hasn’t posted in ages, but suddenly appeared when **Dr.Chuckie** started his homophobic rants. I’m tired of her always threatening to leave, then saying that she’s done with us, won’t discuss anymore-only to come back and pull the same fucking crap. It’s annoying and I think she’s just doing it to get us to beg her to stay. Or for more martyrdom. _shrugs_ I guess I didn’t want to fuel her martyrdom further by mentioning her name. I’m not talking about a tantrum-remember, I had one back in January, and took a little break. I mean constantly threatening to leave, and then coming back and doing the same things, which get the same reactions, then whining about it…viscious circle jerk, blah blah blah. ---
**Author:** ![Gaudere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e495f1/32.png) [@Gaudere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gaudere)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/14 "2003-04-04T04:50:40Z")
If someone says they’re leaving, they should not be surprised if they end up not being allowed to come back. While we do not feel required to enforce self-bans, if we do I don’t see how anyone has the right to complain. If they want back under the same name they can petition for their return same as any other banned poster. ---
**Author:** ![Avalonian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@Avalonian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avalonian)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/15 "2003-04-04T04:54:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > \*\*I mean constantly threatening to leave, and then coming back and doing the same things, which get the same reactions, then whining about it…viscious circle jerk, blah blah blah. \*\* You’re accusing **His4Ever** of participating in a circle-jerk? Wouldn’t _she_ be surprised! 😉 Seriously, I know what you mean, **Guin**. In the end, I’m in agreement with **Casey1505** … posters who threaten to leave repeatedly, then stick around, are only fucking their own credibility. **His4Ever** has already fucked herself, over and over again. OK, I had way too much fun with that. ---
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/16 "2003-04-04T05:05:36Z")
I had a great post written, I went to hit the “reply” button…and the power went off here. Just came back on. So…anyway, what was I saying? I left here once. It wasn’t solely for Board reasons. But I was afraid to say so, because at the time (early 2001), there had been so many people saying “I’m leaving! You’ll never see me again!” and stomping off in a huff. I was afraid of being tarred with the same brush, so I didn’t say anything. When I came back a few months later, nobody recognized me or really realized I’d gone. There are posters who legitimately want to take a break from the Board. I wouldn’t want their return inconvenienced because of the behavior of a few fucktards. ---
**Author:** ![Kricket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f14d63/32.png) [@Kricket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kricket)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/17 "2003-04-04T06:20:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Silentgoldfish \* > \*\*It’s cyclical. Last year about this time exactly the same question as yours was asked by someone else, and I imagine the same thing the year before that. \*\* Maybe it’s spring fever? I have noticed some of the people around me IRL that are getting crabbier. It’s getting nicer around here and there’s not much to do yet. ---
**Author:** ![ultrafilter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/3d9bf3/32.png) [@ultrafilter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultrafilter)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/18 "2003-04-04T06:27:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Duke \* > \*\*There are posters who legitimately want to take a break from the Board. I wouldn’t want their return inconvenienced because of the behavior of a few fucktards. \*\* Scenario A: “Hey guys, this is a great place, but due to unfortunate circumstances in real life (what’s that again?) I need to take a bit of a breather. I’ll be back when I can.” Scenario B: “u call me ahn asashole, but it u who are the real assholes!!! im leavinbg and im never coming back so screw u all!!!” I wouldn’t worry too much about people confusing the two scenarios. ---
**Author:** ![Aslan\_of\_Narnia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecd19e/32.png) [@Aslan\_of\_Narnia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aslan_of_Narnia)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/19 "2003-04-04T06:28:18Z")
Ignore button. Use it. Also, when you see a thread that says “That’s it you shit mongering self obssesed crack fiends, I’m outta here!” it would be smart to avoid them. Problem solved. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2003, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/20 "2003-04-04T06:30:20Z")
For the 100 millionth bloody time! I’m NOT talking about people taking a break! I’m talking about people who say, “You’re MEAN!!! I’m leaving! You only hate me because I don’t agree with you 100%!” Then comes back next week. And then the next week again claims to leave. Then comes back a few days later. ad nauseum. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372.md?page=2)