# Threatening to leave? Mods/Admin-can we get a ruling on this? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 4, 2003, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372 "2003-04-04T02:50:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/61 "2003-04-07T13:22:53Z")
his4Ever, do you actually believe that all of us here who say they are chrsitians are not as good a chrsitian as you? Because thats exactly how you come across. You are the Only One who doesn’t “water down the truth”. I wish you’d tell us why you keep posting here , then. ---
**Author:** ![lynn73](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ebca7d/32.png) [@lynn73](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lynn73)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/62 "2003-04-07T14:41:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Desmostylus \* > \*\*What _are_ you here for **His4ever**? On this message board, I mean. > > I ask that question not in any judgemental way, but simply to ask why you read what’s here, and why you post here? \*\* Well, let’s see…I probably was rather naive about message boarding. We’ve only had a computer at home for a little over a year. I have internet at work but time is limited. I didn’t even know there was such a thing as message boards. I must have come across one while surfing some site. Anyway, I guess in my naivete, I saw it as a way to witness for the Lord. Go ahead, laugh. I came across the SD by accident and decided to start posting. What I have learned that I should have done, is to lurk awhile and see what kind of board it was and whether or not I really wanted to get involved. As I said, I was naive. As to why I’ve continued to post here, I don’t know. I’ve just felt compelled to do so though I’ve cut it way down. That’s about all I can think of to say. **Vanilla** , while I don’t think I’m better than anyone else, in my opinion there \*\*\*\* who would “water down” things as you say, in order to make it acceptable to people. That’s just the way I see it as far as spritual truth is concerned (no, I’m not trying to start a debate, please). And also, we need to find out what people mean when they use the term “Christian” in my view. Nowadays, it can mean anything to anyone. When someone says they are, are they talking about the biblical definition or some other definition, they may or may not be. I’ve heard different views on that. Not really wanting to start a debate on that either. Anyway, as I said to **Desmostylus** , I haven’t figured out why I keep coming here to read and post. Hopefully, I will eventually be able to taper off and stop. ---
**Author:** ![lynn73](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ebca7d/32.png) [@lynn73](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lynn73)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/63 "2003-04-07T14:43:10Z")
I meant to say there are those who would water down…I didn’t write the sentence right. ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/64 "2003-04-07T15:05:46Z")
Talk about someone with a problem **Guin** … You already mentioned this in **Joe’s** apology thread and to come here and transparently bitch about ‘someone’ is ridiculous. You have a problem with **His4ever** pit her, be done with it, not of this not-so-sly bullshit. Frankly, it’s people like you who muddy up the waters when a serious issue is being discussed with **Joe, JD, and His4ever** and help make it into a name calling, back-up against the wall, petty fight. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/65 "2003-04-07T15:16:51Z")
I… have to side… with BottledBlondJeanie. 89% of us have a problem of some sort with His4Ever, 100% of us know that Guin does…I’m not sure what else this thread is going to accomplish. I have to admit that while my ideas on Christianity vastly differ from His4Ever’s , I have no misguided notions that I am ever going to get through to her… **ever** …so I’ve decided to leave her alone. If we quit poking the bear, perhaps the bear will exeunt the area…you know? ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/66 "2003-04-07T15:30:31Z")
Holy Crap! Has the world ended??? [da da dum] 🙂 Just teasin’ \*\* jar \*\* ---
**Author:** ![Meros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Meros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meros)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/67 "2003-04-07T15:39:12Z")
**His4Ever** , there are those far more eloquent than I here who can defend my beliefs and my faith. It is not that I am weak, or unwilling,or even unable, it is merely that I’m not one to chime in with nothing to add but “ditto” to a conversation after **PolyCarp** and a few of the others have said, not only what I wante to say, but also much better than I ever could have said it. When I was in candidate school for BCM, International (a missionary organization based in Akron, PA) one of the first rules of witnessing we were taught is that there is a huge and marked difference between preaching _to_ someone and preaching _at_ someone. The difference obviously being that if you are preaching to someone they are willing to hear what you have to say, or are at least willing to hear your opinion. If, OTOH, you are preaching _at_ them you are going to go nowhere. There is a church in my town, right down the street from my house who makes a habit of preaching _at_ anyone and everyone wh walks by and frequently places editorials in the town paper similar to half of your posts. These people have no credibility whatsoever and as a result of thheir actions have probably driven far more people away from Christianity then to Christianity. You might be here for the same reason Christ sat down and broke bread with the tax collectors and other “sinners” but the difference between you and He is that when he sat with them He did not condemn them, did not tell them how evil they were, I am le to believe also (though there is no recorded evidence either way) that He merely enjoyed the meal with them. If they had questions I’m sure he answered them, but fire and brimstone and the evilness of the ways of those around Him were probably NOT a topic of the conversation unless brought up by the “sinners” themselves. I tend to stay quiet about my beliefs unless an issue arises that I feel passionately about or I feel my beliefs will add a new, unique viewpoint to the matter at hand. Does this make you a better Christian than I? Probably not. Does it make me a better person? Again, probably not. All I know is that if you are really in the business of saving souls like you claim to be there are far more productive ways to do it then those you have currently employed. Remember, a friend is far more likely to listen to and respect you than an enemy. ---
**Author:** ![lolagranola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ea5d25/32.png) [@lolagranola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lolagranola)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/68 "2003-04-07T16:47:00Z")
Personally, I don’t really get the whole thing. I stopped posting here a while ago. Why? Don’t really know - I just didn’t feel like it. There was no announcement of my leaving - no teary good-bye’s. I just started posting here again. No annoucement - no begging for tales of how the SDMB just wasn’t the same without me. Just stopped by and started typing in the reply box. Let’s face it - there probably wasn’t more than 2 people who noticed my absence in the first place! If you feel like threatening to leave really is a threat, then maybe you have an inflated sense of self? ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/69 "2003-04-07T22:46:45Z")
This thread isn’t really about **His4ever** ’s views on religion and stuff. I don’t really care, and NO ONE WANTS YOU TO CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS!!! Sheesh! No, it’s about how she keeps threatening to leave, then comes back, then threatens to leave, comes back, etc. THAT is what I have a problem with. As for her remarks about gays, “watering down” Scriptures, the Bible, whatever-eh, I’m done with that. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/70 "2003-04-08T02:30:32Z")
How about this- **His4ever** , all I am asking you, in this thread, is to stop saying you’re leaving. Whether or not you’re leaving-that’s not the issue. Just stop saying, when things get tough, “I’m outta here, I don’t know why I bother.” If you feel you want time off from this place, fine. But don’t make a big to do announcing it when you get yourself backed into a corner. Because it’s childish. Just take a break, and then if you feel like coming back, do so. If you don’t, you don’t have to come back either. See? That would probably solve 40% of your problems right there! ---
**Author:** ![lynn73](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ebca7d/32.png) [@lynn73](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lynn73)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/71 "2003-04-08T14:50:33Z")
Sounds like a good idea. ---
**Author:** ![Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5fc32e/32.png) [@Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bad_News_Baboon)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/72 "2003-04-08T17:00:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > \*\* > > No, it’s about how she keeps threatening to leave, then comes back, then threatens to leave, comes back, etc. > > THAT is what I have a problem with. > \*\* I have to doubt your motives a bit, Guin. You posted this thread, as I mentioned earlier, in a _somebody…_ type of tone. If you genuinely wanted a ruling on this by the mods, you could have either e-mailed a mod directly or, you could have posted this as a non-confrontational post in ATMB. For example: I am wondering about the rules regarding posters who… The way you posted, in the pit with its tone, you obviously had another agenda. Which is fine… it’s within your right, I suppose. What I took issue with is this who thinnly veiled potshot at someone. If you’re gonna make a post about someone in the pit, have the guts to call them out by name. ---
**Author:** ![dalovindj](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/65b543/32.png) [@dalovindj](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalovindj)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/73 "2003-04-08T18:07:56Z")
> [@](#): > > What flouncers really want is for a shocked chorus to exclaim “Oh, pleeeeease don’t leave, we really neeeeeed you”. Yeah, I know. Hate that shit. Though there seems to be a double standard here. Seems like a certain someone recently (lets say poster A) alluded to leaving this place on account of the meanness of others and many people begged that person not to go. This same begging was then used to show another poster (poster B) how much more Poster A was liked and respected. Blah. If you are going to go, then go. Keep it to yourself. I hate these “I need a break from here.” or “I can’t take it anymore” threads and posts. JUST. GO. You are being immature. There is no ball here. Trying to get people to beg you to stay/come back is the behaivior of a bitch (no offense to female dogs). Grow up. Attention whores are pretty common round here though, so the odds of this phenomenon stopping are pretty low. I hate the shit no matter who does it. I also can’t stand when people who complain about this (or any) phenomenon make exceptions if it is someone they like who is the offender. I do, however, agree that the last damn thing we need here is more rules . . . DaLovin’ Dj ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/74 "2003-04-08T21:10:20Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by **His4ever** _ > > … my opinions and beliefs are considered to be nothing but fecal matter around here since I can’t prove everything to everyone’s satisfaction. You. Just. Don’t. Get. It. This isn’t about your beliefs, you fucking pinhead, it’s about your JACKASS BEHAVIOR. I, for one, wish you would be true to your word and FUCKING LEAVE. Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372/75 "2003-04-08T23:06:15Z")
All right then. That’s all I ask. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/threatening-to-leave-mods-admin-can-we-get-a-ruling-on-this/166372.md?page=3)