# Three ex-girlfriends at my best friend's wedding **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 31, 2009, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869 "2009-01-31T15:55:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/1 "2009-01-31T15:55:05Z")
It has been apparent to me that among the people invited at my best friend’s wedding are not one, not two, but three ex girlfriends. #1 broke up mutually three years ago, then became friend’s with my best friend (the groom). Pissed off that she doesn’t get to be the Best Man (title went to me 😃 ). For several years I had simply put her out of my mind, but the topic of her, since she will be at his wedding, came up recently. My friend says she _still_ hates my guts which caught me by surprise since we broke up THREE YEARS ago. Friend has promised to seat her far enough away from me to avoid cattiness/death threats. #2 more of the jealous type, would be fine around me if I was single, miserable, and living under a rock but since the way things are looking right now its likely I’ll have a SO along for the wedding I’ll probably be dead to her even if she has a guy hanging on her. More wedding drama because the bride is #2’s ex-friend. When I broke up with #2 bride had introduced me to ex #3 which is one of her bridesmaids. #2 does not get to be a bridesmaid even though she was the one that introduced the bride and groom to each other. She burns with the rage of a thousand suns BUT there is an open bar so after a few Mai Tais I’m sure things will be fine :dubious: #3 is a Bridesmaid, and her presence is why #2 is angry at both myself and the bride. Had a very weird relationship with her, she acted like everything was fine but constantly complained about how stupid/boring/unappealing I was. After we broke up she said she wanted to be friends, I said ok but I never heard from her again (oh well :rolleyes: ). Is very ‘BFF’ with the bride. Sooooo as I said somewhere in this mess thank Og for an open bar! Talking to my friend both of us were laughing about it and jokingly discussing where we could seat ex-girlfriends for the least drama-prone arrangement (he too has an ex that will be there- ugh) ---
**Author:** ![Beadalin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3be4f8/32.png) [@Beadalin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beadalin)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/2 "2009-01-31T16:14:55Z")
Just be sure you’re well-rested before the wedding so you’re prepared for the inevitable hot 4-way action after the reception. ---
**Author:** ![Karyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/fbc32d/32.png) [@Karyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Karyn)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/3 "2009-01-31T16:19:17Z")
I got stuck in a place with 4 ex-boyfriends and a current once and after a few minutes of unbearable awkwardness they bonded with each other by telling embarrassing stories about me and teasing me as a group. It was a very long night but it could have been a lot worse. Luckily only one of them was bitter about our breakup. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/4 "2009-01-31T16:22:34Z")
My first thought was that you should NOT be grateful for the open bar. Alcohol is only going to do bad things to this firestorm. ---
**Author:** ![Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e56c9b/32.png) [@Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mirror_Image_egamI_rorriM)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/5 "2009-01-31T16:30:33Z")
Haha, I just saw this on Something Awful, with different emoticons. You’re a goon! Oh wait I guess I am too. Anyway good luck. ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/6 "2009-01-31T16:55:40Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > My first thought was that you should NOT be grateful for the open bar. > > Alcohol is only going to do bad things to this firestorm. :dubious: It’ll make the after thread a lot better! 😃 I thought the OP was going to be the groom. Makes the thread a bit less exciting. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/7 "2009-01-31T16:57:59Z")
Make sure to double-check the seating chart. > [@Four Weddings and a Funeral](#): > > Vomiting Veronica: [to her husband about going to India with Charles] Charles was vile. He insisted on cracking jokes all the time I was ill. > Charles: I was only trying to cheer you up, V. > Naughty Nicki: Oh, you’re that Veronica! > Vomiting Veronica: Which Veronica? Charlie? > Charles: [trying to change the subject] Remember Bombay? > Naughty Nicki: When Charles and I were going out, he told me he had this interesting journey around India with Vomiting Veronica > [smiles] > Naughty Nicki: I think that was it. > Charles: [Embarrassed] I don’t remember - maybe I did. > Mocking Martha: Oh, come on Charles! I don’t think I’ve ever been out with anyone less discreet. I remember you going on about this one girl - Helena wasn’t it… who’s mother made a pass at you… > Vomiting Veronica: I remember this! You couldn’t work it out whether or not it’d be impolite not to except her advances! > Naughty Nicki: Helena was Miss Piggy! So her mother was Mrs. Piggy! > [all laugh] > Miss Piggy: [who’s been with them the whole time] We’ve both lost a lot of weight since then! ---
**Author:** ![hobscrk777](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a6a055/32.png) [@hobscrk777](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hobscrk777)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/8 "2009-01-31T17:36:25Z")
Sounds like a good plot for a movie. I’d watch it. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/9 "2009-01-31T19:11:07Z")
Why is #2 invited if she is an EX-friend of the bride? ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/10 "2009-01-31T19:19:51Z")
Is your name David? My husband had a friend (still does) who insisted on being friends with all his exes–even if the ex didn’t want to. Don’t ask me how he did that. I know he still sent them bday cards and flowers etc–Dave is a strange person w/o the charm or good looks of Charles from 4WandF. 20 years on, I still kind of wonder about that. I think I was the only girl for awhile in our (then) set that hadn’t dated/slept with him. For this I am grateful. 🙂 Good Luck at the nuptials-keep your comments low key and don’t do too many PDAs with current girl; you should be all right. ---
**Author:** ![Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e56c9b/32.png) [@Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mirror_Image_egamI_rorriM)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/11 "2009-01-31T19:22:33Z")
Dopers are much nicer than goons. ---
**Author:** ![Xema](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/9de053/32.png) [@Xema](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Xema)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2009, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/12 "2009-01-31T19:53:51Z")
> [@Incubus](#): > > …Pissed off that she doesn’t get to be the Best Man … Are female “Best Men” normal these days? ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2009, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/13 "2009-02-01T03:02:52Z")
> [@lorene](#): > > Why is #2 invited if she is an EX-friend of the bride? My first thought. ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2009, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/14 "2009-02-01T14:31:59Z")
I wondered the same thing. Why on earth would you want someone who’s mad at you and the best man at your wedding. If she were a blood relative, I could see inviting her for the sake of peace in the family, but that’s about the only reason. Then again there’s also no reason I’d go to the wedding of someone I disliked. Good luck, man. It sounds like you’re going to need it! ---
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2009, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/15 "2009-02-01T15:40:27Z")
This sounds like it could be one of the best wedding receptions ever. Wish I was going. And, like someone said, I don’t think an open bar is likely to improve things, unless by ‘improvement’ you mean ‘crank the drama up to 11’. ---
**Author:** ![Jenaroph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e8c25b/32.png) [@Jenaroph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jenaroph)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2009, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/16 "2009-02-01T16:02:32Z")
Mama don’t take my Kodachrome away… ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2009, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/17 "2009-02-01T21:36:03Z")
> [@lorene](#): > > Why is #2 invited if she is an EX-friend of the bride? I’m dying to know the answer, too…is she more a friend of the groom’s? ---
**Author:** ![glee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b5a626/32.png) [@glee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/glee)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2009, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/18 "2009-02-01T23:25:26Z")
Will you be filming the ruckus with a mobile phone or a proper video camera? :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2009, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/three-ex-girlfriends-at-my-best-friends-wedding/483869/19 "2009-02-02T03:36:35Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > My first thought was that you should NOT be grateful for the open bar. > > Alcohol is only going to do bad things to this firestorm. Bad for him. _Great_ for us. Don’t skimp on the bloody details when the big day goes down, **Incubus**!