# Time DOESN'T heal all wounds **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 2, 2014, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487 "2014-05-02T05:49:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/1 "2014-05-02T05:49:50Z")
They say time heals all wounds, but that is complete bullshit. I haven’t talked to my ex in years (we’ve been apart 15) but for some reason we started talking on facebook tonight. It might as well have been last week! We’re dancing around the pain that was there but I’m realizing that unless you actively work on the wounds, they will always be there. ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/2 "2014-05-02T11:42:05Z")
Sometimes things get buried deep which is a way of dealing with life when it gets complicated, but in time things resurface, it is a time for healing, or re-burring depending on if one is ready. Good Luck ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/3 "2014-05-02T11:50:13Z")
> [@kanicbird](#): > > Sometimes things get buried deep which is a way of dealing with life when it gets complicated, but in time things resurface, it is a time for healing, or re-burring depending on if one is ready. > > Good Luck Correct. What this occassion calls for is a good _re-burring_. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/4 "2014-05-02T11:59:08Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > Time DOESN’T heal all wounds. Nor should it. Some things should remain painful reminders of mistakes you’ve made so you are less compelled to repeat them. Don’t wallow in it. But I see no reason to forgive and forget every damn thing. Stay (just a little) angry, my friend. ---
**Author:** ![Lucretia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/13edae/32.png) [@Lucretia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucretia)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/5 "2014-05-02T12:08:37Z")
“Everyone always wants to know how you can tell when it’s true love, and the answer is this: when the pain doesn’t fade and the scars don’t heal, and it’s too damned late.” ― Jonathan Tropper, The Book of Joe ---
**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/6 "2014-05-02T14:37:28Z")
If you ever want to remember something perfectly for the rest of your life, make sure it’s something you regret. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/7 "2014-05-02T14:55:38Z")
But does it wound all heels? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/8 "2014-05-02T15:01:56Z")
No, that’s caltrops. ---
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/9 "2014-05-02T15:48:54Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > They say time heals all wounds, but that is complete bullshit. Sure it does. Give it 100 years. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/10 "2014-05-02T15:52:34Z")
> [@hotflungwok](#): > > If you ever want to remember something perfectly for the rest of your life, make sure it’s something you regret. Boy, is that true!! Time doesn’t heal all wounds, but it can form a scab over them. Try not to pick at it. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/11 "2014-05-02T15:54:55Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > No, that’s caltrops. Could make professional wrestling interesting. The ‘good guys’ wouldn’t use them, but the heels may be hoist with their own petards. (Now petards would _really_ make wrestling interesting!) ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/12 "2014-05-02T16:06:31Z")
I think that the best cure for a broken heart is meeting someone else. It’s hard not to reminisce and pine for yesterday when you’re lonely. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/13 "2014-05-02T16:20:33Z")
Not all wounds heal to 100%. But it does get less painful over time. If it doesn’t, you’re weird. ---
**Author:** ![robert\_columbia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e79b87/32.png) [@robert\_columbia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robert_columbia)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/14 "2014-05-02T16:22:48Z")
A possible counterexample could be the attitude toward my paternal grandfather. I’ve been “told” that he was a Very Naughty Boy ™ whose only meaningful contribution to the family was impregnating grandma before dying of complications related to poor lifestyle choices. He died before I was born and so I never really knew him apart from the stories that are told. My opinion of him is significantly above my parents’, and sometimes I think they think I’m an idiot for wanting to know more about him. My father won’t go anywhere near his father’s grave. I found it in an overgrown area of a cemetery. I don’t think anyone had been by in years, perhaps decades. ---
**Author:** ![Balance](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ccd318/32.png) [@Balance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Balance)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/15 "2014-05-02T17:41:23Z")
No one ever said time doesn’t leave scars, and sometimes those scars ache when a cold wind blows. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/16 "2014-05-02T17:43:14Z")
If you wait long enough, you’ll die. And then you won’t care about your ex at all any more. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/17 "2014-05-02T18:11:43Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > If you wait long enough, you’ll die. And then you won’t care about your ex at all any more. Heh, that’s true. Maybe that’s what they mean by the phrase. 😉 Really it was fine until he said that if things had been different, our 20th anniversary would be coming up. That just hit me in a way I didn’t expect. ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/18 "2014-05-02T20:06:34Z")
You’ve heard of “time to bury the hatchet”. A new one “Nobody forgets where they buried the hatchet”. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/19 "2014-05-02T20:19:55Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > No, that’s caltrops. Works on tires too. I saw it in a movie once. ---
**Author:** ![Superhal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Superhal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superhal)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2014, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487/20 "2014-05-02T20:29:54Z")
“Women forgive, but never forget. Men forget, but never forgive.” Robert Jordan. The part about “time heals all wounds” people don’t understand is that you aren’t the same person after the wounding. Imagine getting your limbs amputated. Time will make the pain go away, but your life will never be the same. That doesn’t mean your life is better or worse, but you are a different person after the wounding. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-doesnt-heal-all-wounds/687487.md?page=2)