# Time for more pathetic Facebook angst **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 27, 2013, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821 "2013-04-27T05:34:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/41 "2013-04-30T05:15:15Z")
Well that’s what people say. But if you know your not it really doesn’t matter. ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/42 "2013-04-30T05:15:33Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > Unnecessary links? Can I play? > > [I’m absolutely](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675104) [shocked](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=545741)at [which](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=565635)[side](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=604622)[of this topic](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=671346) [you’ve aligned yourself with.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=684805) What is the toll on the bridge you live under? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/43 "2013-04-30T05:19:00Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![Tequila\_Party](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a6a055/32.png) [@Tequila\_Party](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tequila_Party)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/44 "2013-04-30T05:21:06Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > Well, if that’s your thing then I feel bad for you. My points remain. Lost love is a very common regret. People like me and ETV are normal. Also, insults are projections of your own insecurity. > > Nice try. 🆒 Lost love may be a “very common regret,” but going about rekindling it in this way doesn’t typically signify anything more than failure. I also think you are the one doing the projection here. If someone else believes pursuing this course of action, then you’ll be validated into following the same path. But back to the OP. Just let it go. If there’s a female from your class interested in you, she’ll initiate. When you’re no longer spring chickens, time is of the essence and I doubt that any woman lamenting about missed chances with you wouldn’t hesitate to get in touch once the opportunity presented itself. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/45 "2013-04-30T05:21:15Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > I’ll field this one. No. > > This thread is great because instead of lamenting something stupid someone else did on Facebook, the OP is the perpetrator of lameness (although I’m not sure he realizes it). I’m not imagining anything. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/46 "2013-04-30T05:22:35Z")
> [@Tequila\_Party](#): > > Lost love may be a “very common regret,” but going about rekindling it in this way doesn’t typically signify anything more than failure. I also think you are the one doing the projection here. If someone else believes pursuing this course of action, then you’ll be validated into following the same path. > > But back to the OP. Just let it go. If there’s a female from your class interested in you, she’ll initiate. When you’re no longer spring chickens, time is of the essence and I doubt that any woman lamenting about missed chances with you wouldn’t hesitate to get in touch once the opportunity presented itself. I’m not encouraging anything. I’m just saying his feelings are normal. We all project in one way or another. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/47 "2013-04-30T05:34:33Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > I’m not imagining anything. When the OP describes his _own_ behavior as “pathetic” in the title of the damned OP, having another poster simply call it “lame” is hardly an insult. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/48 "2013-04-30T05:39:31Z")
Again, I disagree. ETV doesn’t come across as pathetic in this instance. Considering the fact that he’s put his emotions and reputation on the line here, I’d call it brave. ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/49 "2013-04-30T05:46:28Z")
BTW, this isn’t the woman I wanted to bring to my sister’s wedding. Thanks all, I avoided this thread becasue I worried the pile on would be worse than its been. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/50 "2013-04-30T06:20:17Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > I avoided this thread becasue I worried the pile on would be worse than its been. I was going to ask; _why_ did you start this thread, if it wasn’t to get a reaction from everyone just like you get every other time you post these threads? Why start a thread that’s basically: “I suck.” ? What sort of meaningful feedback did you hope to get? ---
**Author:** ![Meyer6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@Meyer6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meyer6)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/51 "2013-04-30T06:26:14Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > My points remain. Lost love is a very common regret. People like me and ETV are normal. ‘Lost love’ usually implies that there was, you know, \*love \*involved. I don’t know if mooning over some random attractive girl from high school really counts. > [@panaccione](#): > > Again, I disagree. ETV doesn’t come across as pathetic in this instance. He described \*himself \*as pathetic. What are the rest of us meant to say? ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/52 "2013-04-30T06:44:14Z")
Ok, I can accept your first point but not the second. The answer is simple: tell him he’s not. He may be wrong or confused in this particular instance, but pathetic is not a word I would choose to characterize the person. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/53 "2013-04-30T06:50:34Z")
With that being said, I can see MOL did insult the actions and not so much the person. So, in a way, I am also wrong here. I still disagree with her choice of words and the callous delivery. ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/54 "2013-04-30T06:59:17Z")
> [@Meyer6](#): > > ‘Lost love’ usually implies that there was, you know, \*love \*involved. I don’t know if mooning over some random attractive girl from high school really counts. Well, that’s not really fair to **pannacione**. There were at least _five_ of them. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/55 "2013-04-30T07:14:15Z")
Actually, **Colander** you’re wrong. 5 different threads does not imply 5 different girls. Nice try. ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 7:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/56 "2013-04-30T07:21:50Z")
I’ve only mentioned 2 (or _at most_ 3) women. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/57 "2013-04-30T13:20:18Z")
> [@dnooman](#): > > What is the toll on the bridge you live under? **dnooman** , if you want to call someone a troll, do it in the Pit. This is completely out of line for MPSIMS. Do not do this again. **twickster** , MPSIMS moderator ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/58 "2013-04-30T13:20:35Z")
There’s an awful lot of side-topic sniping here. How about everyone confine their remarks to supporting or offering advice to **etv78** and leave your arguments with one another out of it? etv, I think pannaccione refers to his own threads when he says five threads/five girls above. ETA: Moderator pile on! 🙂 Do what Twix says, and me too. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/59 "2013-04-30T13:21:26Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > Unnecessary links? Can I play? > > [I’m absolutely](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675104) [shocked](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=545741)at [which](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=565635)[side](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=604622)[of this topic](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=671346) [you’ve aligned yourself with.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=684805) **Bob Ducca** , if you want to bash another poster, take it to the Pit. You’re out of line here. **twickster** , MPSIMS moderator ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2013, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821/60 "2013-04-30T13:23:03Z")
And since **Ellen Cherry** has issued a general “knock it off,” I’ll stop going through and issuing poster-by-poster "knock it off"s. Stop with the sniping at each other, everyone. **twickster** , MPSIMS moderator [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/time-for-more-pathetic-facebook-angst/656821.md?page=4)