Don’t get us started on the maples/oaks class conflict…
She’s Finnish; perhaps she was trolling you.
Put on a Show ! Right there and then.
The point isn’t to make them reconsider. It’s to indirectly tell them that their comments are not welcome. Personally, I think it’s passive aggressive, but a lot of Miss Manners stuff is.
I think a better tactic is just to change the subject every time they bring it up. Or, if you think it will go well enough (or the previous sentence doesn’t work), just tell them. You can just say it makes you uncomfortable to talk about it. Or have a debate and then agree to disagree.
Next time she’s on about it tell her in no uncertain terms to move back to Finland or shut the fuck up. Some people only understand explosive rage.
She’s crossed the line!
[sub]Finnish line, that is[/sub]
The correct way to deal with scandinavians* is to forget their country exists and randomly assign them one of the other three nationalities*. And then fail to grasp what particular combination of reindeer bothering, binge drinking and pious hypocrisy their miserable little region is supposedly renowned .
- add extra fun by confusing nordic and scandinavian. As a final floutish, throw your hands in the air and declare finns russian and danes german.
Finnish food is great if you like heavy rye bread with whole fish baked inside. And elk.
That’s a pretty big loaf if you can fit an elk in it.
Rye, the sturdy grain.
And just keep talking so they don’t get a chance to complain, and throw in a rant about Allen wrenches segueing into “Y’know, the way IKEA makes us use ‘em instead of good ol’ non-metric blade screwdrivers…you and IKEA are both Danish modern, right? So, I had a prune danish the other day, you probably grew up on them, Danish and Dutch are different things right? 'Cause I like chocolate too, I wonder if they make chocolate danish, but they’re both neighbors of Scandinavia, right? Do you get along with them? Ooh, and Nutella!..”
I think the oaks have a right to all the sunlight they want, although I don’t want to rush to judgement.
Anyone else keep reading this as “hypothetical Finnish friend”? I keep thinking Skald got you really upset in one of his polls or something.
Yes!
I have a lot of hypothetical friends. Albanians, Ethiopians, Martians…
Your own shit always is.
America! Fuck Yeah!
US mass shootings, systemic racism, obesity, broken down public school system, crumbling infrastructure, grid-locked politics, and startling economic inequality are second to none!
Don’t comment on human relationships when you are unable to leave your mom’s basement and interact with people IRL.
Don’t comment on human relationships when you think that’s remotely something you can say to other people.
You do not get to make fun of someone’s mental illness, you fucking sack of filth. You do not get to take the absolute worst thing that ever happened to someone and use that to score points against them.
How would you like it if you had been raped, and I said you didn’t have the right to talk in relationship threads because of it? Or if you had a child die in your arms and people said you couldn’t comment in child rearing threads?
Mental illness is not some allowable thing to discriminate against someone for. For the same reason I do not get to tell Czarcasm that he deserved to be raped, you do not have the right to make fun of me for my agoraphobia.
**I said only what the fucking experts also say. Notice you have no counterargument? ** That’s because I had a life before agoraphobia. Because I am intelligent, I analyzed how social interactions worked. I talked it over with experts, and got a clear idea of how the world works. Sure, some other Dopers have done the same thing (in fact, most of them have, since this is an intellectual messageboard), and then can go toe to toe with me. But you bloody vaginas clearly can’t.
I do not lack experience. Any claim that I do is based on you being too stupid to understand. I get out. I interact with people. I have 23 years of doign so before agoraphobia was ever a thing. You make fun of me because you are stupid and that’s the only thing you have to use.
The only reason I let this shit go is that I feel sorry for you sad sacks of shit that get your self-worth by attacking someone because he dared admit his mental illness. If you disagree with me, you can argue with me. You can nicely bring up some lack of experience. But you DO NOT GET TO USE MY MENTAL ILLNESS to score points.
Plus doing this shit is just another reason for me to continue doing whatever it is that bothers you. Because you are a horrible human being, and I will not give you what you want.
Note: absolutely no animosity towards Czarcasm meant in that post. He was just the first poster that came to mind when I thought about someone who had been raped. And he’s also someone I get into arguments with. The whole point is that I would be a horrible, horrible person if I ever said that to try to win an argument with him. I would never, ever do that.
If I could still edit, I would replace it with something more generic rather than name a poster. This shit is why I hate getting angry, as I forget to check to make sure I didn’t say anything stupid or that could be interpreted badly.
Hence, it’s why I’m okay when you guys shit on me for that. It’s a legitimate failing. But you do not get to shit on me for being mentally ill, or use that against me in arguments.
Again, while Czarcasm and I don’t always see eye to eye, and he gets frustrating, I would never, ever do that. It was just a poorly thought out example.
Did you just use a female body part as a slur?
Edit: stupid rhetorical question. You clearly did.