# To snfaulkner
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510
**Category:** The BBQ Pit
**Created:** [February 19, 2016, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510 "2016-02-19T01:43:41Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/1 "2016-02-19T01:43:41Z")
[Source](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=19113446#post19113446)
I have to put my comment here.
> [@I'm 16. My therapist is in mid 30's. Is she into me, or am I reading into things?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-16-my-therapist-is-in-mid-30s-is-she-into-me-or-am-i-reading-into-things/746494/25):
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> Just stop this. What is it about this sitch that strikes you as worthy of ridicule?
> [@I'm 16. My therapist is in mid 30's. Is she into me, or am I reading into things?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-16-my-therapist-is-in-mid-30s-is-she-into-me-or-am-i-reading-into-things/746494/28):
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> I’m just remembering how utterly retarded I, and most people, was/are at 16. And was trying to convey that through sarcasm.
All you’re doing is showing how utterly retarded and insensitive you are now.
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### Author:  [@snfaulkner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snfaulkner)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/2 "2016-02-19T01:45:39Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#):
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> [Source](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=19113446#post19113446)
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> I have to put my comment here.
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> All you’re doing is showing how utterly retarded and insensitive you are now.
I agree.
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### Author:  [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/3 "2016-02-19T01:54:38Z")
Worst
Pit
Ever
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### Author:  [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/4 "2016-02-19T01:59:47Z")
The OP in the linked thread screams out “troll” to me. Nothing to see there except people feeding an attention whore.
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### Author:  [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/5 "2016-02-19T02:07:09Z")
Here, too.
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### Author:  [@Fiveroptic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiveroptic)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/6 "2016-02-19T02:12:37Z")
Especially since the thread has disappeared.
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### Author:  [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/7 "2016-02-19T02:14:10Z")
(sound of car backfiring)
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### Author:  [@neofishboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/neofishboy)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/8 "2016-02-19T02:18:07Z")
“NO NO NO THAT BOY OBVIOUSLY NEEDED HELP!!!”
- **ThelmaLou**
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### Author:  [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/9 "2016-02-19T02:32:00Z")
[I agree](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8BWBn26bX0).
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### Author:  [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/10 "2016-02-19T02:44:42Z")
I’m guessing this would be the 16 y.o. whose counselor was “into him”?
Troll.
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### Author:  [@Old\_Time\_Hockey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Old_Time_Hockey)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/11 "2016-02-19T02:45:12Z")
> [@Ludovic](#):
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> [I agree](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8BWBn26bX0).
I’m not sure what I just watched, but thanks for linking it! At least I got something out of this head scratching thread.
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### Author:  [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/12 "2016-02-19T02:51:16Z")
Someone needs her bullshit detector recalibrated.
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### Author:  [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/13 "2016-02-19T02:53:17Z")
Recalibrated? She needs to turn the damn thing on.
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### Author:  [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/14 "2016-02-19T03:02:16Z")
Guys, sometimes it takes longer to pick up on that crap than you imagine. I remember watching members jump on a newbie (as in First Post newbie) over what seemed to me to be a pretty innocuous question. I’d probably been here for half a dozen years and was already very active. It prompted me to ask _why_ whatever they were saying couldn’t be true. Surely, that kind of stuff happened all the time and, occasionally, those people would end up on these boards. Right? And everyone explained to me that there were tell-tale signs… Only post was kinda out there. Didn’t post in others’ threads. Cross-posted to other forums across the net. Etc. etc.
I still don’t think I was convinced for a while and it pained me that we might be denying real help to someone who needed it. But eventually, the pattern did emerge for me and now it seems glaringly obvious when someone is trolling. Sadly, like I said, it took a helluva lot longer than I’d care to admit. So, I’m gonna cut **Thelma** some slack. I bet she just hasn’t had as much experience when these things come up and didn’t realize. No harm, no foul. We’ve all been there.
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### Author:  [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/15 "2016-02-19T03:06:52Z")
There was an upside. I was gonna post a my therapist wants to fuck me thread and have now thought better of it.
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### Author:  [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/16 "2016-02-19T03:15:44Z")
So what will the trolls think of next?
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### Author:  [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/17 "2016-02-19T03:20:15Z")
> [@faithfool](#):
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> Guys, sometimes it takes longer to pick up on that crap than you imagine. I remember watching members jump on a newbie (as in First Post newbie) over what seemed to me to be a pretty innocuous question. I’d probably been here for half a dozen years and was already very active. It prompted me to ask _why_ whatever they were saying couldn’t be true. Surely, that kind of stuff happened all the time and, occasionally, those people would end up on these boards. Right? And everyone explained to me that there were tell-tale signs… Only post was kinda out there. Didn’t post in others’ threads. Cross-posted to other forums across the net. Etc. etc.
>
> I still don’t think I was convinced for a while and it pained me that we might be denying real help to someone who needed it. But eventually, the pattern did emerge for me and now it seems glaringly obvious when someone is trolling. Sadly, like I said, it took a helluva lot longer than I’d care to admit. So, I’m gonna cut **Thelma** some slack. I bet she just hasn’t had as much experience when these things come up and didn’t realize. No harm, no foul. We’ve all been there.
She’s been here for almost 6 years. It’s taking longer than we thought.
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### Author:  [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/18 "2016-02-19T03:33:24Z")
Ok, so the guy was determined to be a troll and his thread removed. I gave him the benefit of the doubt until more cynical heads prevailed. Big whoop. Any more points anyone would like to make?
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### Author:  [@choie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/choie)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/19 "2016-02-19T03:58:27Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#):
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> Ok, so the guy was determined to be a troll and his thread removed. I gave him the benefit of the doubt until more cynical heads prevailed. Big whoop. Any more points anyone would like to make?
Let’s run that through the translator:
"Shit. Fuck. Damn it. Fine, you guys were right after all, and now I look like a total doofus, but because my horse is far too high to easily climb down without falling on my ass, I’m gonna double-down and pretend that falling into the troll’s web was more noble than actually calling him on his trollery the way the rest of you did.
“I’ll now make light of it and brush aside everyone’s corrections, and _definitely_ won’t even consider apologizing or admitting that I insulted/pitted a guy/gal who was sharper than I. Oh and I’ll also play the martyr card, because maybe that’ll work.”
Whereas a more gracious person would have written:
> [@aforementioned gracious person](#):
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> Crap, you were right. The guy was a troll and his thread was removed. I totally fell for it. I can’t believe I haven’t learned, after six years, that brand new members posting unbe_lievably_ TMI questions/threads are almost always playing us for suckers. Normal people don’t just delurk out of nowhere and share that they’re contemplating incest/fucking their therapist/fetishizing amputees/overdosing on a Xanax-meth cocktail/just got caught putting peanut butter on their genitals to seduce their dog/fill-in-the-blank.
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> I only meant to help the poster, but in retrospect I was too naïve in egging on this blatant attention whore. I’m glad there were wiser and more canny posters to call the jerk out. Y’know, I’m sorry for insulting **snfaulkner** just because s/he was smart enough to catch the obvious. I deserve the mockery, I admit it. Trolls are asshats for playing on people’s kindness, and I’ll know better next time.
There, you can use that as a template for next time.
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### Author:  [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)
#### Post date: [February 19, 2016, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-snfaulkner/746510/20 "2016-02-19T04:27:33Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#):
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> Ok, so the guy was determined to be a troll and his thread removed. I gave him the benefit of the doubt until more cynical heads prevailed. Big whoop. Any more points anyone would like to make?
As a word of advice, in my personal opinion almost everyone whose first post here is a request for relationship advice, especially a screwed up relationship, is probably trolling. We usually give them the benefit of the doubt unless it’s blatant. Let the responder beware, especially in cases where the OP doesn’t come back, or comes back to post ever more screwed up details of the relationship. I mean really, who comes to a random message board to ask advice like that?
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