# To the bitch who fucks for fun **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 8, 2003, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310 "2003-10-08T15:46:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Gadfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/aeb1de/32.png) [@Gadfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gadfly)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2003, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/41 "2003-10-09T01:39:07Z")
Jayjay, I was responsible for that sig line. Keep lambasting her, and she’ll move at great speed… ON YOUR HEAD! …Not really. ---
**Author:** ![Ryan\_Liam](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ryan_liam/32/3965_2.png) [@Ryan\_Liam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryan_Liam)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2003, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/42 "2003-10-09T13:20:41Z")
I’ve done some thinking, seriously and yeah you’re right, its her body and shes her own person and she can do what she wants its none of my business…and looking back on what I’ve been moaning about myself I can find its routes in jealousy, so I’m just going to act grown up and not put much thought into it. Thank you all for all of your advice, the crtisicm was good as well, it helped me shape a much better view of the situation 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Witch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/258eb7/32.png) [@Witch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Witch)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2003, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/43 "2003-10-09T13:41:22Z")
Ryan…it was obvious that you were really frustrated. But believe it or not, someday these things that are driving you nuts will hold you in good stead. There IS a breed of woman out there that DOES hold companionship high on their list of priorities, and if you’re patient, it’ll happen for you. I’m 38, and most of the people I know that are in the happiest relationships were lamenting just like you in their younger days. And ya know what? Angst is just a distant memory for them. It will be for you too. ---
**Author:** ![Aries28](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Aries28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aries28)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2003, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/44 "2003-10-09T13:42:45Z")
Hang in there. You’ll find the right girl. In the meantime, work on being the right guy. 😉 Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![andymurph64](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a88e57/32.png) [@andymurph64](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andymurph64)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2003, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/45 "2003-10-09T14:01:26Z")
Ryan, Someone in the board pointed me to a website where there is a columnist who he said I sounded like. I read him some and don’t agree with him perfectly but do feel following his advice would help much more than it would hurt. I believe it is Doc Love at [askmen.com](http://askmen.com). Take a look. Been awhile since I looked but I think that is it. ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/46 "2003-10-14T12:50:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dangerosa \* > **What happened…they grew up. They began to look for relationships instead of sex (something the girls I knew got to faster). And the girls also grew up and became girls whom you’d want to have relationships with, instead of just sleep with.** Oh, I get it. So we guys who want monogamous relationships have to wait until all the girls get bored with fucking around with multiple guys, and then want to find one of us to settle down with? And they know we’ll be here waiting for them, because we’re desperate and we’re idiots. But then when do we get to have our fun? “Oh sorry sweety, I spent the last 10 years having the best and wildest sexual experiences of my life, now I’m just looking for a nice boring relationship.” And as angry as I sound, I’m probably still gonna be one of the guys who ends up with a girl like that, because as I said, I’m an idiot and I’m desperate. ---
**Author:** ![Derleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Derleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Derleth)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/47 "2003-10-14T15:00:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cervaise \* > \*\*Ordasity? \*\* It does give off a bit of a Kipling vibe, doesn’t it? An’ it’s Ryan this, an Ryan that, and “I don’t just want to fuck” But it’s “Liam, I’m fucking others” when I want to get some luck. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/48 "2003-10-14T17:40:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Soapbox Monkey \* > \*\*Oh, I get it. So we guys who want monogamous relationships have to wait until all the girls get bored with fucking around with multiple guys, and then want to find one of us to settle down with? And they know we’ll be here waiting for them, because we’re desperate and we’re idiots. But then when do we get to have our fun? > > “Oh sorry sweety, I spent the last 10 years having the best and wildest sexual experiences of my life, now I’m just looking for a nice boring relationship.” > > And as angry as I sound, I’m probably still gonna be one of the guys who ends up with a girl like that, because as I said, I’m an idiot and I’m desperate. \*\* Oh for PETE SAKE!!! WAAAAAAAAAaaaaah. **Sorry, I couldn’t help that first bit. I know you’re just venting your frustration and likely didn’t mean to sound bitter and whiny.** First of all, the following post is NOT just to you, but to all the guys in this, and other similar “nice guy” threads who’ve posted similar sentiments. Look, not **ALL** girls are going to go around f\*\*ing everything in sight for their first 10 years after reaching the age of sexual maturity. Many will believe just as you do. Second, why are you assuming that the fact that many girls DO take the option to be sexually free means that **you** can’t “have any fun” or that you have to “wait around” until they’re done screwing around?? Also, why are you assuming that girls are thinking of a permanent relationship as being a “nice, boring” relationship? Has it occured to you that they are merely not ready for a relationship and wisely and maturely have chosen to “play the field” (as they said in my day) while they also mature in other ways?? (finishing college, etc). If you don’t like casual sex, Fine. Seek out girls/woman who share your viewpoint. I’m not getting the “because they know we’re desparate and idiots” part. WHY are you “desparate”? Are you desparate for sex? Or for the relationship. And why are you “desparate” for either? Anytime a person gets to that point, that desparation is like a red neon sign to ANYONE of the opposite sex (or same if that’s your orientation) that SCREAMS “Danger, DANGER Will Robinson!!! Depsarate CLINGY, will drive you insane with his/her neediness, Person here”!!! However, if it’s just that you too would like to have casual sex, then don’t expect anything permanent to come of your encounters with these girls. You can’t have it both ways. (not saying you can’t TRY, but that’s likely to just bring about frustration). ---
**Author:** ![Kwyjibo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/59ef9b/32.png) [@Kwyjibo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kwyjibo)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/49 "2003-10-14T18:27:50Z")
Ryan ma’boy, read [this](http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html). It will put it all into perspective… ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/50 "2003-10-14T18:42:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ryan\_Liam \* > **she says she going to meet some guy from the net and fuck him…and if they hit off after they had sex then go out with each other…** This doesn’t really sound like a great idea IMO. ---
**Author:** ![KarmaComa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e36b37/32.png) [@KarmaComa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarmaComa)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/51 "2003-10-14T19:07:21Z")
**Kwyjibo**! That’s a great link! Finally someone on the web who understands that those bitches won’t fuck me just because I’m a pathetic misogynistic loser! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/52 "2003-10-14T19:22:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Kwyjibo \* > \*\*Ryan ma’boy, read [this](http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html). It will put it all into perspective… \*\* Sounds like “Leykis 101,” the full 2 semester course instead of the 2 hour Radio show, to me. Pretty damn pessimistic viewpoint if it’s not just a big whoosh, or envious, bitter, can’t-get-laid-cuz-I’m-an-ugly-boring-clingy-unemployed-bum, crybaby BS. ---
**Author:** ![pezpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@pezpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pezpunk)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/53 "2003-10-14T20:00:28Z")
> [@](#): > > ## \*Originally posted by World Eater \* quote: > > ## Originally posted by Ryan\_Liam she says she going to meet some guy from the net and fuck him…and if they hit off after they had sex then go out with each other… > > \*\*This doesn’t really sound like a great idea IMO. \*\* It would if you were that guy! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/54 "2003-10-14T20:03:24Z")
Touché. ---
**Author:** ![Kwyjibo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/59ef9b/32.png) [@Kwyjibo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kwyjibo)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/55 "2003-10-14T21:14:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CanvasShoes \* > \*\*Sounds like “Leykis 101,” the full 2 semester course instead of the 2 hour Radio show, to me. > > Pretty damn pessimistic viewpoint if it’s not just a big whoosh, or envious, bitter, can’t-get-laid-cuz-I’m-an-ugly-boring-clingy-unemployed-bum, crybaby BS. \*\* **CanvasShoes** , that site is completely satirical. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310/56 "2003-10-14T21:36:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Kwyjibo \* > \*\ ***CanvasShoes** , that site is completely satirical. 🙂 \*\* Thanks… I figured it was likely a big ole whoosh, but in this day and age, and given the frequency of “nice guy whines” (not just here, other boards and IRL too), I was kinda wondering. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-the-bitch-who-fucks-for-fun/206310.md?page=2)