# To those who've committed forcible rape.

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [January 15, 2013, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269 "2013-01-15T09:56:01Z")\
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**Author:** ![the\_diego](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@the\_diego](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_diego)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269/1 "2013-01-15T09:56:01Z")

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Mods, feel free to step in if you think I’m doing this wrong. And to the respondees, I’ll give you time to register an alternick.

Just this: How in the Halibut can you penetrate an unwilling woman? I’m pushing 50 and while I’m no limp noodle, I’ve known that a willing woman, especially a first-timer, can be hard to penetrate. Her build, her body proportions in relation to yours, how relaxed and yielding she is, and how aroused and lubricated she is down there.

Well?

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**Author:** ![midnight-dreary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@midnight-dreary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/midnight-dreary)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 10:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269/2 "2013-01-15T10:00:28Z")

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This thread isn’t going to disturbing or anything…

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**Author:** ![JoseB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/joseb/32/1530_2.png) [@JoseB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JoseB)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269/3 "2013-01-15T10:11:14Z")

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Judging by what happened to one of my closest friends, whose rapist (at the time her boyfriend (!!)) is currently behind bars --may he rot there for a long long time–, very simple: Threaten and scare the woman into submission, beat her for good measure until she is left in a state that will require 2 weeks of hospitalization, and have your way with her while she is in absolute terror for her life and too scared to even move a finger.

A rapist won’t care that the woman is not aroused, not willing, not cooperative. It is a question of exerting power over a helpless human being. That is what matters most to him. He exerts that power by sexually assaulting somebody instead of doing other things, but it is essentially about power.

In other news, this is a really really disgusting thread you opened. And _ **if** _ you are trying to imply something like “see, if she really resisted she wouldn’t have been raped – those who end up raped allowed themselves to be raped”, _ **then** _ shame on you.

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**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 10:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269/4 "2013-01-15T10:15:45Z")

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PS - Socks, alts, “alternicks” are not allowed on this board. So your gracious “permission” means nothing with regards to that.

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**Author:** ![the\_diego](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@the\_diego](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_diego)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 10:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269/5 "2013-01-15T10:18:03Z")

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> JoseB JoseB  
> In other news, this is a really really disgusting thread you opened. And if you are trying to imply something like “see, if she really resisted she wouldn’t have been raped – those who end up raped allowed themselves to be raped”, then shame on you.

With every (potentially) bad thread I open, I trust the moderators to step in, and invite only those interested and fortified enough to participate. Bad as I am in that respect, I am not implying anything close to what you described.

For whatever it’s worth, I think you’ll believe that I’ve never committed (nor do I plan to commit) rape.

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**Author:** ![SeaDragonTattoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@SeaDragonTattoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaDragonTattoo)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 10:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269/6 "2013-01-15T10:32:51Z")

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You answered your own question with the thread title. It’s called force. Not caring about causing injury and likely doing so. Part of the exam afterwards involves checking for and documenting lacerations - a good part of why the exam is damn near as bad as the crime in the first place.

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**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\
**Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-those-whove-committed-forcible-rape/647269/7 "2013-01-15T11:48:59Z")

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> [@the\_diego](#):
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> Mods, feel free to step in if you think I’m doing this wrong.

You’re doing this wrong.

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> And to the respondees, I’ll give you time to register an alternick.

Having more than one account on the SDMB is against the rules and is usually grounds for instant banning, so don’t suggest it.

If you have questions about rape, there are better ways to ask without making it sound like an advice topic and asking anyone who has done it (which would also be against the rules).  
Topic closed.
