# To Whom it May Concern **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 27, 2002, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137 "2002-12-27T09:24:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![LiquidChaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/77aa72/32.png) [@LiquidChaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiquidChaos)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/1 "2002-12-27T09:24:29Z")
I guess I am going to be alone. I live my life in the shadows. I drive to work, I sit at my desk, I drive home. Eat, sleep, shower, eat sleep shower. Day in, day out. I have nothing. I am alone and it sucks. I have no friends, I cannot remember what it is like to have a girlfriend, I have a dog though. I am not skinny. I am not out of an Abercrombie ad. I do not like hip-hop. I don’t go to clubs, I don’t drink, I don’t do drugs. Perhaps I am an outcast and I don’t know it. I don’t know what women are looking for. I try to be someone that they could date, but I am only me. I want a date, I want a girlfriend. I know that the poor pathetic me thing is not very popular, but this is a rant, no matter how obscure it may be. I guess I will go to sleep now and get up in the morning to go to work and drive home. Eat, sleep, shower, repeat. ---
**Author:** ![Mushono](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cdc98d/32.png) [@Mushono](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mushono)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 9:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/2 "2002-12-27T09:29:15Z")
You should do yoga. I’m not joking, join a class, meet some people. ---
**Author:** ![SmileyDeath](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb8c5e/32.png) [@SmileyDeath](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmileyDeath)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 10:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/3 "2002-12-27T10:13:47Z")
Be social. Do something, like join a team or a club or something. ---
**Author:** ![trader\_of\_shots](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/aeb1de/32.png) [@trader\_of\_shots](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/trader_of_shots)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 11:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/4 "2002-12-27T11:13:31Z")
LiquidChaos - dam man. Don’t let your work get you down … i am sitting here with a bunch of gits, none of them know their arse from their feet. Fuck em. I can not say i have a lot of friends either but then again i am pretty hard to tolerate 🙂 I make most of my friends online these days … i was never one for bars or clubs … dickheads wnating to fight n stuff - so i meet people on here (not TSD) say yahoo or what not - see what they are about then hook up n stuff. My life style does not appeal to everyone, but i get more pussy then most people i know and always have something on the go. Just a thought anyway… let us know how ya go. ---
**Author:** ![LiquidChaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/77aa72/32.png) [@LiquidChaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiquidChaos)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/5 "2002-12-27T16:16:01Z")
You’ll have to excuse the post. I wrote that at near 4am, very tired and very cold. I guess it is all the christmas stuff, no one feels more alone than at the holidays. I am thankful for your responses, just knowing there is one person out there that gives a shit does make me feel better. Now if I could just get laid ha ha. Anyways, back to the grind here at the wonderful world of title work. Thanks agian. ---
**Author:** ![Swampwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@Swampwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swampwolf)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/6 "2002-12-27T16:19:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LiquidChaos \* > **I guess I am going to be alone. I live my life in the shadows. I drive to work, I sit at my desk, I drive home. Eat, sleep, shower, eat sleep shower. Day in, day out.** Well then, you can cut out the showering. 😉 Seriously, though–I totally understand where you’re coming from. But beware of desperation, especially when it comes to romance. > [@](#): > > I cannot remember what it is like to have a girlfriend Trust me–there are worse things than not gettin’ any. I finally dumped my gf of 4 months because it was pointless and she was annoying as hell…and went straight back to “shower, work, eat, sleep.” To be honest, it was a relief. ---
**Author:** ![LiquidChaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/77aa72/32.png) [@LiquidChaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiquidChaos)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/7 "2002-12-27T16:25:13Z")
sometimes I see people in public kissing and holding hands and all that and I want nothing more that to be that person, to have someone there with me to share my life with. Then when I come home from work and I can eat what I want, watch what TV ahow I want, go anywhere I want and all that jazz, it feels good to be living my own life, without the need to justify or explain any of my actions to anyone. Wow, that was a pretty long run-on sentence. ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/8 "2002-12-27T16:33:08Z")
Perhaps it’s your “poor me” attitude or just your [bad attitude](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=152642#post2771256). ---
**Author:** ![LiquidChaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/77aa72/32.png) [@LiquidChaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiquidChaos)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/9 "2002-12-27T16:34:50Z")
perhaps ---
**Author:** ![apotheosis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ba8739/32.png) [@apotheosis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apotheosis)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/10 "2002-12-27T16:41:46Z")
Ye gods, man there’s an _entire usenet_ full of porn, with variety just this side of infinite! How could _anyone_ get bored with such a resource available!?!? 😃 FWIW, I’ve been feeling much the same. Possibly something to do with just hitting 30, or maybe it’s something to do with the season. Either way, cheer up…it’s just a slump, you’ll get over it. ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/11 "2002-12-27T17:18:49Z")
Cheap shot, **Homebrew**. **LiquidChaos** , I’m sorry you’re feeling so down. It’s true, there are advantages and disadvantages to being single. Be strong, and good luck. ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/12 "2002-12-27T17:34:47Z")
Is that right, **cuauhtemoc**? One shouldn’t be anti-social and then complain about nobody liking you. > [@](#): > > _from LiquidChaos in my link_ > Why is it, that the same people that preach justice and understanding are so quick to light the stake? Everyone is just a person. I hate black people, I hate gays, I hate rednecks with dumb tattoos. God, get over it. Let people be who they want to be. I am a single, 20 something white male and I couldn’t give a shit less if someone hates single, 20 something white males. ---
**Author:** ![LiquidChaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/77aa72/32.png) [@LiquidChaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiquidChaos)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/13 "2002-12-27T18:53:32Z")
Homebrew, I did not mean to say those things as if I ment them, personally, I dont dislike anyone for what they are, I was just trying to prove a point. ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/14 "2002-12-28T00:43:00Z")
I think LiquidChaos is my identical twin, separated at birth. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/15 "2002-12-28T03:07:56Z")
And i am their sister. ---
**Author:** ![trader\_of\_shots](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/aeb1de/32.png) [@trader\_of\_shots](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/trader_of_shots)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/16 "2002-12-28T05:12:33Z")
Yeha but chicks can get some alot easier then guys without paying fort it…so you do not count. ---
**Author:** ![auntnut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f6c823/32.png) [@auntnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/auntnut)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/17 "2002-12-28T05:56:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Homebrew \* > \*\*Perhaps it’s your “poor me” attitude or just your [bad attitude](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=152642#post2771256). \*\* Wow! That was kinda harsh donchathink? I thought this was “the” place where you could piss n moan, and cry in your beer, and throw your own pity party. You dont have to agree, and you dont have to kiss ass… But, you dont have to kick a person when their down either. My mom always said “If you cant say something nice, dont say anything at all.” I hope when/if you get low and feel lonely, that no one kicks you. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/18 "2002-12-28T11:29:16Z")
Good talking wth you too, trader. “I’d like to know you, but in this town I can’t get arrested” Neil Finn ---
**Author:** ![trader\_of\_shots](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/aeb1de/32.png) [@trader\_of\_shots](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/trader_of_shots)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/19 "2002-12-28T11:30:04Z")
it has been yes. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137/20 "2002-12-28T11:30:29Z")
It gets better though because I am leaving Indiana, Hurray!! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/to-whom-it-may-concern/145137.md?page=2)