# Today I saw a woman so beautiful that she made me sad **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 8, 2009, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530 "2009-12-08T23:32:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2009, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/101 "2009-12-10T19:00:32Z")
> [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](#): > > All I can say is, I’ve seen plenty of losers with beautiful women. Hope this helps. “No, I’m serious! The fat kid from _Stand By Me_ is now married to Rebecca Romijn!” – Family Guy ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2009, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/102 "2009-12-10T19:04:55Z")
> [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](#): > > All I can say is, I’ve seen plenty of losers with beautiful women. Hope this helps. They’re probably ugly and out of shape too. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2009, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/103 "2009-12-10T19:20:31Z")
Actually, on second (3rd? 5th? Whatever.) thought, I’d like to apologize to the OP for my post. I hope you get the help you need, and end up desperately happy. ---
**Author:** ![Nars\_Glinley](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nars_glinley/32/8177_2.png) [@Nars\_Glinley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nars_Glinley)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2009, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/104 "2009-12-10T19:46:52Z")
It’s hard to believe that someone that spent 13 years in the NBA has such self-esteem problems. You were a freakin’ all-star for chrissakes. I’d have thought that you’d have women all over you. ---
**Author:** ![Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de053/32.png) [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackknifed_Juggernaut)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2009, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/105 "2009-12-10T23:16:01Z")
> [@Nars\_Glinley](#): > > It’s hard to believe that someone that spent 13 years in the NBA has such self-esteem problems. You were a freakin’ all-star for chrissakes. I’d have thought that you’d have women all over you. Yeah..and Pearl Jam named their first album after your jersey number! ---
**Author:** ![MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MPB_in_Salt_Lake)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2009, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/106 "2009-12-10T23:32:59Z")
> [@B.Serum](#): > > Have you tried cognitive therapy? If you haven’t read [**Feeling Good** by David D. Burns](http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Therapy-Revised-Updated/dp/0380810336/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1260430992&sr=8-1), I’ll buy you a copy. That is an incredibly generous and thoughtful offer, and I certainly hope the OP takes you up on it!!! B.Serum, if you are ever in Salt Lake, I would be happy to buy you a beer. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/107 "2009-12-11T00:06:02Z")
No matter how beautiful a woman is, there is some man somewhere that is completely fed up with her shit, despite having sex with her. And vice versa. Beauty is only skin deep, but crazy goes all the way to the bone and comes out the pores. Not that I’m one to talk. ---
**Author:** ![B.Serum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/b.serum/32/14266_2.png) [@B.Serum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/B.Serum)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/108 "2009-12-11T00:46:56Z")
> [@MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](#): > > That is an incredibly generous and thoughtful offer, and I certainly hope the OP takes you up on it!!! > > B.Serum, if you are ever in Salt Lake, I would be happy to buy you a beer. Yeah, me too. That book was a breakthrough for me. I wasn’t in as deep as **mookie** sounds, but the attitude he’s carrying is definitely familiar. And thanks — I’ll let you know (when/if) I’m ever up Salt Lake City way! ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/109 "2009-12-11T00:47:12Z")
It is possible to be rejected by a beautiful woman and not suck. Not everyone is going to like you. [Tom Tildrum] Originally Posted by Jackknifed Juggernaut All I can say is, I’ve seen plenty of losers with beautiful women. Hope this helps. “No, I’m serious! The fat kid from Stand By Me is now married to Rebecca Romijn!” – Family Guy [/quote] Except he’s not a fat kid anymore. He’s movie and TV star Jerry O’Connell. It’s kind of like how in the movie “Just Friends” Amy Smart’s character realized she really loved her friend from high school once he was wealthy, had a glamorous job and looked like Ryan Renolds. ---
**Author:** ![Darryl\_Lict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7cd45c/32.png) [@Darryl\_Lict](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darryl_Lict)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/110 "2009-12-11T01:01:57Z")
> [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](#): > > Yeah..and Pearl Jam named their first album after your jersey number! Hell, Pearl Jam was named Mookie Blaylock before it was called Pearl Jam. In NYC I saw a girl who looked like some goddamned fairy tale princess in the subway. I actually turned around and walked back to get another look. This girl was car crashingly good looking, plus she was wearing some kind of Marlene Dietrich vintage getup. She would never give me the time of day, but hell, the sheer esthetics of her perfection improved my mood. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Man\_Who\_Wasn\_t\_There](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7ba0ec/32.png) [@The\_Man\_Who\_Wasn\_t\_There](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Man_Who_Wasn_t_There)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/111 "2009-12-11T01:10:14Z")
It wasn’t **even sven** was it? ---
**Author:** ![dangermom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/112 "2009-12-11T01:15:23Z")
> [@The\_Second\_Stone](#): > > No matter how beautiful a woman is, there is some man somewhere that is completely fed up with her shit, despite having sex with her. And vice versa. > > Beauty is only skin deep, but crazy goes all the way to the bone and comes out the pores. > > Not that I’m one to talk. So…all beautiful women are crazy. Lovely. **mookie** , I have no advice, except good wishes for your recovery. IME there’s someone out there for just about anyone, but judging solely by appearances is not going to work. Beauty is nice, but it’s not as good as kind, honest, funny, or generous, and it doesn’t last as long either. Also, I guarantee you that just about all beautiful women worry about their looks as much as–or more than–the rest of us do. Even perfection isn’t good enough any more, in this commericalized, photoshopped world we live in. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/113 "2009-12-11T01:22:36Z")
> [@dangermom](#): > > So…all beautiful women are crazy. Lovely. It’s a coping mechanism. We couldn’t stand it if Nicole Kidman was all that AND nice. Think nothing of it. ---
**Author:** ![Dallas\_Jones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dallas_jones/32/3277_2.png) [@Dallas\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dallas_Jones)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/114 "2009-12-11T01:29:02Z")
There is actually a scientific principle, know as Tang’s Poon Law, which roughly translated says that the beauty of a woman is inversely proportional to her sexual abilities. Or to say, the better she thinks she looks, the greater the possibility that she believes just showing up is all she needs to do. I’m waiting for grant approval to confirm this theory for peer review. I hope it to be part of the next stimulus package. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/115 "2009-12-11T01:44:14Z")
I’d like to suggest (once again) that the OP contemplate the woman’s beauty on its own terms, as something that exists simply to make the world a better place; and not as something to be possessed by (or withheld from) him. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/116 "2009-12-11T03:05:40Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > I’d like to suggest (once again) that the OP contemplate the woman’s beauty on its own terms, as something that exists simply to make the world a better place; and not as something to be possessed by (or withheld from) him. It’s ironic that a person’s looks are something they have absolutely no control over\*. You covet someone for something they didn’t have a say in\*, a genetic roll of the dice that happened 9 months before their birth. - = yeah, I know, plastic surgery, morbid obesity and oil of olay aside. Whatever, you know what I’m getting at. ---
**Author:** ![LadyJane84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f05b48/32.png) [@LadyJane84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LadyJane84)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/117 "2009-12-11T03:50:20Z")
I’d just like to point out that there really is someone out there for everybody. As evidenced by this [http://believe-or-not.blogspot.com/2008/11/worlds-heaviest-man-getting-married-in.html](http://believe-or-not.blogspot.com/2008/11/worlds-heaviest-man-getting-married-in.html) (disclaimer: I’m not being sizeist or whatever, moreso pointing out the seemingly impossible logistics of dating when you can’t even leave your home) ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/118 "2009-12-11T04:19:51Z")
> [@dangermom](#): > > So…all beautiful women are crazy. Lovely. Unless I’ve been misinformed, a similar corollary is used with men, stating that really good looking men tend to either be idiots, or misogynists. Neither is completely true, but in some cases people fall into those categories. I think we can agree that people that rank highly in looks, intelligence, personality, etc. _all at once_ are certainly a rare breed. Typically if one is observed to be outstanding in one field, another (non visual) field might be lacking, just based on probability. I’m not saying it’s accurate, or should be used as a way of measuring things, but we’ve all seen the really attractive people that are as smart as the gum on the sidewalk. I have no pity at all for the women who are super hot, smart, good career, etc. that “never get asked out because guys think they’re unattainable” Here’s an idea, find a guy, any guy at all that might even come close to your idea of perfection. Ask him out, you are allowed to do that it seems. He will almost always say yes. Decide to keep him, or throw him back . Rinse, repeat. Eventually you and the other guy will be happy. Minimal, if not zero rejections. Fish in a barrel. ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/119 "2009-12-11T04:29:30Z")
> [@LadyJane84](#): > > I’d just like to point out that there really is someone out there for everybody. As evidenced by this [http://believe-or-not.blogspot.com/2008/11/worlds-heaviest-man-getting-married-in.html](http://believe-or-not.blogspot.com/2008/11/worlds-heaviest-man-getting-married-in.html) (disclaimer: I’m not being sizeist or whatever, moreso pointing out the seemingly impossible logistics of dating when you can’t even leave your home) She is actually pretty attractive, good for him. I agree that anyone can find someone, but it would be nice if we could help that along. Quick! Someone revolutionize, automate, and simplify internet dating, so that we can all be in an awesome relationship. Go! ---
**Author:** ![LilGypsyGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/54ee81/32.png) [@LilGypsyGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LilGypsyGirl)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2009, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530/120 "2009-12-11T05:39:49Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > So, **Mookie** , are you actually interested in feeling better, or are you more interested in wallowing? The things we’re telling you work, take a stranger’s word for it, but you’re the only one who can decide to make some effort to feel better. This. So everyone is killing themselves giving really good advice to…oh, right. **Mookie** hasn’t made an appearance since page 1-ish of this thread? What’s up with that?? I think it’s a desire to wallow and be miserable for a while. Which is OK - I think at one point or another we have all been there. But be able to pull YOURSELF out of the funk - no one else, let alone strangers on the internet, can do it for you. Admittedly, my initial reaction was along the lines of **Ogre’s** original post. But then **Ogre** retracted. So now I’m not thinking it anymore. 😃 OK, maybe I’m still thinking it a LITTLE. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-saw-a-woman-so-beautiful-that-she-made-me-sad/520530.md?page=7)