# Today I wrote my goodbye letter. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 3, 2012, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913 "2012-12-03T23:39:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Quasimodal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/57b2e6/32.png) [@Quasimodal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodal)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2012, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/1 "2012-12-03T23:39:50Z")
As much as sometimes I think I’m better, I still have days of sadness. So I decided to try something my separation book recommended. Today I wrote a goodbye letter to my ex. There is no intention of sending it to her, writing it is meant to help me let go. I said goodbye to her, and all the little things I loved about her. I also said goodbye to all the nuisances and bad things in our relationship. I broke down and cried all the way through it. I could barely keep writing it was so hard. I did finally finish the letter though I’m hoping this means I made some progress today and I can keep moving up the mountain to recovery. Tonight I’m going to treat myself to a good hang out with a friend and maybe a movie all my myself as a reward. My book said to reconsider being alone as “All one-ness”. ---
**Author:** ![EmilyG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emilyg/32/364_2.png) [@EmilyG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmilyG)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/2 "2012-12-04T00:08:32Z")
You’re making me tear up, **Quasi**. Maybe I should do the same for my newly-estranged mother. But maybe in my case, the pain is too fresh, and I should wait a while. ---
**Author:** ![jayrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jayrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayrey)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/3 "2012-12-04T00:19:20Z")
I’m so very sorry for your pain, **Q**. As for “all-one-ness,” I hope that philosophy works for you. I’m still struggling with it. I want to see being alone now at this relatively late stage of my life as just part of the journey, but most of the time, if just feels like failure. Good luck to you. ---
**Author:** ![stui\_magpie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stui_magpie/32/11010_2.png) [@stui\_magpie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stui_magpie)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/4 "2012-12-04T00:44:00Z")
I don’t have much in the way of context here, but chin up Quasi. Once you get used to it there’s nothing wrong with being single and in fact it’s my preference. People can be sucked into the idea that they need to be in a relationship to complete them. There’s plenty of other ways. ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/5 "2012-12-04T01:00:00Z")
I did the same after what was probably a much less significant relationship that yours (but still very significant to 22-year-old me), and it helped immensely. It was recommended by “How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days.” ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/6 "2012-12-04T02:03:06Z")
It’s so sad to read your post and feel your pain, but this is clearly another milestone passed, another step on the road to recovery. May the journey go quickly and well for you. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/7 "2012-12-04T04:05:53Z")
Time will help. Keep writing, it is helpful…and for some of us, absolutely necessary. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/today-i-wrote-my-goodbye-letter/642913/8 "2012-12-04T04:53:36Z")
I’m sorry or your pain, **Q**. There’s this saying, _“A joy shared is twice the joy. A sorrow shared is half the sorrow.”_ May your sorrow diminish quickly, with time.