# Tomorrow is my birthday and I'm not happy.

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [June 23, 2004, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884 "2004-06-23T21:49:06Z")\
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**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/1 "2004-06-23T21:49:06Z")

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Tomorrow is my 58th birthday. I’m old.  
The anniversay of my son’s death is two days later. I’m depressed.  
Today I had to go to the dentist. :(. I hate going to the dentist.  
I’m on a diet; no birthday cake. (Least of my woes)  
Won’t someone cheer me up, please?

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**Author:** ![mlerose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/43a26b/32.png) [@mlerose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mlerose)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/2 "2004-06-23T22:04:04Z")

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_throws confetti_

Yay! It’s your birthday! So many people are glad you are in the world.

Do something you really like doing tomorrow. Something you rarely do. Make it a treat and a remembrance of your son.

I hope you feel better soon!

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**Author:** ![CWN](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bc79bd/32.png) [@CWN](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CWN)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/3 "2004-06-23T22:06:04Z")

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Not sure I can cheer you up but…  
Happy Birthday my friend

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**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/4 "2004-06-23T22:07:51Z")

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awwwwwww **picunurse** , there there. Bdays are good. They mean you made it another year. So **WOOHOO!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY PICUNURSE!!!**

On the other hand, I know you’re all down over your son’s death. I cannot begin to imagine how it would feel to lose a child. I wish you peace and healing.

Also, just think, once you finish the diet you will be all slim, trim, svelt and sexy. Just think of all those people who will only be able to drool and wish as you walk by.

How’s that? Feel better?

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**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/5 "2004-06-23T22:08:38Z")

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You share a birthday with my baby sister. Happy birthday!  
You made a difference in more lives than even you are probably aware of, and they will always smile when they remember you.  
People here like and respect you.  
You are LIKE HELL OLD!! Talk to me in 20 years. Then you can say you’re old.

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**Author:** ![harmless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/2acd7d/32.png) [@harmless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmless)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/6 "2004-06-23T22:28:30Z")

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To cheer **picunurse**  
I compose a little verse  
within it a bit of silliness I’ll intersperse  
(Here’s hoping it doesn’t make things worse  
and I promise to keep it very terse!) 😃  
I hope your birthday will disburse  
and lift from you this sadness curse  
and the depression will disperse  
(maybe you’ll get a nice new purse?) (it rhymes, ok? 😉 )  
Maybe a birthday wish will throw the aging gears into reverse?  
I swear a smile from you, I _will_ coerce  
and in cheerful feelings you _will_ immerse!  
The Dopers here are quite diverse  
about many topics we do converse  
many of which are quite perverse :eek:  
So from us to you, let good feelings transverse  
as we all know you can overcome anything adverse!  
Okay, everyone! No need to rehearse!

Happy birthday to you!  
Happy birthday to you!  
Happy birthday, dear picunurse  
Happy birthday to you!

The Straight Dope Loves You! 🙂

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**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/7 "2004-06-23T22:33:09Z")

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Thanks, you guys!  
**Maureen** _Old_ is in my heart today. Next week, I’ll be young again. Wanna come with?  
**swampbear** [hug]Thank you[/hug] I needed that! The healing is slow and may take forever, but I’m a little better everyday.  
My husband loves me whether I’m slim or fat, as long as I’m healthy, so I’ll always be beautiful. Thanks for reminding me.  
**CWN** The “my friend” is a help in itself. We can never have enough friends, even virtual ones.  
**mlerose** the Fireman is planning tomorrow. I’m sure he will surprise me beyond my wildest dreams (as long as we can afford it) He’s sleeping today, and I let myself think too much, I guess.

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**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/8 "2004-06-23T22:40:59Z")

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> [@harmless](#):
>
> To cheer **picunurse**  
> I compose a little verse  
> within it a bit of silliness I’ll intersperse  
> (Here’s hoping it doesn’t make things worse  
> and I promise to keep it very terse!) 😃  
> I hope your birthday will disburse  
> and lift from you this sadness curse  
> and the depression will disperse  
> (maybe you’ll get a nice new purse?) (it rhymes, ok? 😉 )  
> Maybe a birthday wish will throw the aging gears into reverse?  
> I swear a smile from you, I _will_ coerce  
> and in cheerful feelings you _will_ immerse!  
> The Dopers here are quite diverse  
> about many topics we do converse  
> many of which are quite perverse :eek:  
> So from us to you, let good feelings transverse  
> as we all know you can overcome anything adverse!  
> Okay, everyone! No need to rehearse!
> 
> Happy birthday to you!  
> Happy birthday to you!  
> Happy birthday, dear picunurse  
> Happy birthday to you!
> 
> The Straight Dope Loves You! 🙂

Your verse _was_ terse. I will admit, it could be worse. How did you know my nee was Morse? (ok, it doesn’t quite rhyme, but it looks like it should.)  
🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂 There just aren’t enough \*Thank Yous \*

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**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/9 "2004-06-23T22:44:14Z")

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Well, I am going to go against the grain and advise you to forget it’s your damn b’day–that what I did this year, the worst year I have ever had. Remembering it was my b’day would have only made me more depressed. If your life sucks, you just have to deal with that the best you can. Thinking, “this is my _birthday_, I should be _happy_” will only suck you into that La Brea tar pit of despond.

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**Author:** ![harmless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/2acd7d/32.png) [@harmless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmless)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2004, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/10 "2004-06-23T22:47:00Z")

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> [@picunurse](#):
>
> Your verse _was_ terse. I will admit, it could be worse. How did you know my nee was Morse? (ok, it doesn’t quite rhyme, but it looks like it should.)  
> 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂 There just aren’t enough \*Thank Yous \*

Awww!  
Now you’re making _me_ cry! 🙂

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**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/11 "2004-06-24T00:20:56Z")

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> [@Eve](#):
>
> Well, I am going to go against the grain and advise you to forget it’s your damn b’day–that what I did this year, the worst year I have ever had. Remembering it was my b’day would have only made me more depressed. If your life sucks, you just have to deal with that the best you can. Thinking, “this is my _birthday_, I should be _happy_” will only suck you into that La Brea tar pit of despond.

**Eve** , that’s is a very down to earth attitude, and good advice. I’ll do my best to stay out of the tar pits. (They scared me as a child. I thought all the animals were still alive in there waiting to get me. )  
Hubby’s awake now, we’re going out to dinner. Even though he’s been very supportive about my diet, he’s insisting I cheat for the next 36 hours. I’ll resist as long as possible… that was as long as possible… 🙂

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**Author:** ![Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Blue_Sky)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/12 "2004-06-24T02:08:35Z")

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Well, tomorrow’s my 9th wedding anniversary.

You can be happy for me if you’d like.

Cheer up!

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**Author:** ![quilter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/839c29/32.png) [@quilter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/quilter)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/13 "2004-06-24T02:20:39Z")

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Wow, **picunurse**! If yesterday your birthday was tomorrow, then today is your birthday! Happy birthday!

It’s also my dad’s birthday today – and he’s 73. You ain’t old, you’re only getting started!

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**Author:** ![AbbySthrnAccent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eb9ed0/32.png) [@AbbySthrnAccent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AbbySthrnAccent)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/14 "2004-06-24T02:38:33Z")

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**picunurse** I’m sorry for your loss and your sadness. I have some vague idea of what you’re feeling. Earlier this month was the anniversary of the death of my younger son. In another week or so is my birthday and the following day is his.

Maybe one of these funny movies will distract you for a bit?

1. Some Like It Hot (1959)
2. Tootsie (1982)
3. Dr. Strangelove(1964)
4. Annie Hall (1977)
5. Duck Soup (1933)
6. Blazing Saddles (1974)
7. M_A_S\*H (1970)
8. It Happened One Night (1934)
9. The Graduate (1967)
10. Airplane! (1980)
11. The Producers (1968)
12. A Night At The Opera (1935)
13. Young Frankenstein (1974)
14. Bringing Up Baby (1938)
15. The Philadelphia Story (1940)
16. Singin’ In The Rain (1952)
17. The Odd Couple (1968)
18. The General (1927)
19. His Girl Friday (1940)
20. The Apartment (1960)
21. A Fish Called Wanda (1988)
22. Adam’s Rib (1949)
23. When Harry Met Sally… (1989)
24. Born Yesterday (1950)
25. The Gold Rush (1925)
26. Being There (1979)
27. There’s Something About Mary (1998)
28. Ghostbusters (1984)
29. This Is Spinal Tap (1984)
30. Arsenic And Old Lace (1944)
31. Raising Arizona (1987)
32. The Thin Man (1934)
33. Modern Times (1936)
34. Groundhog Day (1993)
35. Harvey (1950)
36. National Lampoon’s Animal House (1978)
37. The Great Dictator (1940)
38. City Lights (1931)
39. Sullivan’s Travels (1941)
40. It’s A Mad Mad Mad Mad World (1963)
41. Moonstruck (1987)
42. Big (1988)
43. American Graffiti (1973)
44. My Man Godfrey (1936)
45. Harold And Maude (1972)
46. Manhattan (1979)
47. Shampoo (1975)
48. A Shot In The Dark (1964)
49. To Be Or Not To Be (1942)
50. Cat Ballou (1965)
51. The Seven Year Itch (1955)
52. Ninotchka (1939)
53. Arthur (1981)
54. The Miracle Of Morgan’s Creek (1944)
55. The Lady Eve (1941)
56. Abbott And Costello Meet Frankenstein (1948)
57. Diner (1982)
58. It’s A Gift (1934)
59. A Day At The Races (1937)
60. Topper (1937)
61. What’s Up, Doc? (1972)
62. Sherlock, Jr. (1924)
63. Beverly Hills Cop (1984)
64. Broadcast News (1987)
65. Horse Feathers (1932)
66. Take The Money And Run (1969)
67. Mrs. Doubtfire (1993)
68. The Awful Truth (1937)
69. Bananas (1971)
70. Mr. Deeds Goes To Town (1936)
71. Caddyshack (1980)
72. Mr. Blandings Builds His Dream House (1948)
73. Monkey Business (1931)
74. 9 To 5 (1980)
75. She Done Him Wrong (1933)
76. Victor/Victoria (1982)
77. The Palm Beach Story (1942)
78. Road To Morocco (1942)
79. The Freshman (1925)
80. Sleeper (1973)
81. The Navigator (1924)
82. Private Benjamin (1980)
83. Father Of The Bride (1950)
84. Lost In America (1985)
85. Dinner At Eight (1933)
86. City Slickers (1991)
87. Fast Times At Ridgemont High (1982)
88. Beetlejuice (1988)
89. The Jerk (1979)
90. Woman Of The Year (1942)
91. The Heartbreak Kid (1972)
92. Ball Of Fire (1941)
93. Fargo (1996)
94. Auntie Mame (1958)
95. Silver Streak (1976)
96. Sons Of The Desert (1933)
97. Bull Durham (1988)
98. The Court Jester (1956)
99. The Nutty Professor (1963)
100. Good Morning, Vietnam (1987)

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**Author:** ![Trunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/87869e/32.png) [@Trunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trunk)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/15 "2004-06-24T12:06:56Z")

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Eat some cake and then go exercise.

They’re both good for you.

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**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/16 "2004-06-24T12:43:15Z")

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Like you (and Eve), my birthday was pretty crappy, on account of it’s the anniversary of my mom’s death. But we have a rule at my house that you may want to employ: Everyone gets the whole month for their birthday. People say happy birthday to you nearly every day. You can blow the diet, splurge on stuff, do aerobics in your underwear…whatever you want. And everyone has to give you a pass because it’s your GIANT BIRTHDAY. So, even when I’m feeling blue because I’m missing my mom, I know I’ll have other days to celebrate when I’m not feeling so low.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, NURSIE!!! You look faaaaabulous!

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**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/17 "2004-06-24T13:44:51Z")

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It’s your birthday! Forget the diet, at least to have a little cake. Go on. Go ahead. 😃

**HAPPY BIRTHDAY!**

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**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/18 "2004-06-24T15:31:25Z")

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I do feel better today. Saturday will be hard, but today I feel special. My husband has a road trip surprise planned. He has 4 more days off, so it could be a lot of places. I’m getting a littel excited.

**whiterabbit** I will!

**Kalhoun** What a wonderful idea. As soon as Fireman wakes up, I’ll tell him. And he just wanted to give me 36 hours instead of 24… we’ll show him!

**Trunk** I’m thinking where ever the surprise takes us, it will involve at least walking …and cake. 🙂 Washinton is so beautiful, I’ll gladly walk around to see a bit more.

**AbbySthrnAccent** your movie list is great, I’ve seen most of them, but I’ll look into the others when we get home. Thank you for the gift of humor. Oh, and here’s one for you \* The King of Hearts\* 1968 (I think)

**quilter** Yes,\* right now \* I’m 58 and don’t feel a day over 57. 😉 Give dad a hug from me.

**Mr. Blue Sky** Happy Anniversary! Give Mrs. Sky my best too, and thank you.

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**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\
**Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tomorrow-is-my-birthday-and-im-not-happy/251884/19 "2004-06-24T15:49:26Z")

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Sounds like your sweetheart has a great day planned for you. Enjoy!  
And, yep, in answer to your earlier question, I’m always up for a road trip. Happy to go along for the ride. 🙂