# Too late to say goodbye to a dear friend **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 9, 2026, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936 "2026-09-09T18:36:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2026, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/1 "2026-09-09T18:36:25Z")
She was a Master Costumer, Secretary of the International Costumers Guild, wrote tons of fanfiction and illustrated many fanzines, and she organized fan-based phone banks to raise money for PBS back in the day. She went into hospice last month, and died this previous Saturday. Her name was Anne Davenport, and I was supposed to visit her _this_ Saturday, but she begged off saying that I needed to recover from going to Worldcon and we rescheduled. I met her through a Doctor Who fan group decades ago, and if people could actually glow she would shine like the sun. We shared many memories over the years, and she was the one that told me I could and should put in a bid to chair Orycon 30. I hurt, but her pain was greater so I gladly take this tradeoff. Goodbye, Anne. ---
**Author:** ![Dorjan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorjan/32/12440_2.png) [@Dorjan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dorjan)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2026, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/2 "2026-09-09T18:54:48Z")
May her memory be a blessing. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2026, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/3 "2026-09-09T18:58:17Z")
She sounds like she was a quite an interesting person. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![FMera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fmera/32/9857_2.png) [@FMera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FMera)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2026, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/4 "2026-09-09T20:16:58Z")
My sincere condolences to you, Czarcasm. You wrote a lovely tribute, and i love your story. i don’t know if i’m accurate, but it sounds as if Anne cared about others over the focus on herself, even in her final days. i hope you are able to contribute something about her (a symbol, speech, toast, ritual, etc.), whenever and however you gather with other loved ones to honour her. Deepest sympathies to you and Anne’s family. ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2026, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/5 "2026-09-10T00:14:14Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. Hold on to those memories; may they comfort you. ---
**Author:** ![RivkahChaya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rivkahchaya/32/8919_2.png) [@RivkahChaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RivkahChaya)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2026, 10:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/6 "2026-09-10T10:12:13Z")
Aww. Sorry for your loss, but it sounds like you did say goodbye, just not in person, and yes, her pain ending was a blessing. ---
**Author:** ![Ellecram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellecram/32/18948_2.png) [@Ellecram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellecram)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2026, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/7 "2026-09-10T13:42:40Z")
@Czarcasm My condolences. It’s so hard when people we love pass on. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2026, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/8 "2026-09-10T14:04:44Z")
She sounds like a wonderful person. May her memory be a blessing to you. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2026, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/9 "2026-09-10T14:08:35Z")
I’m sorry that you lost your good friend. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2026, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/10 "2026-09-10T19:29:11Z")
My condolences on the loss of what sounds like a lovely person. I lost a friend to cancer last year, my first death of that nature, and I was surprised how shocked I was by the death when it finally came. The man had three different types of cancer. We knew he was unlikely to beat them all. But in my head I had more time. In my head I was going to visit soon and tell him how much I cared, and there would be closure for all of us. But then he was just dead. I wonder if it’s always like that. If we always think we have more time. It’s a chapter I wish had closed differently, so I get how hard that is. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2026, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/too-late-to-say-goodbye-to-a-dear-friend/1032936/11 "2026-09-10T19:34:36Z")
Here is a picture of Anne from Facebook: [(1) Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1998255748465&set=t.100000622170195&type=3)