# Top 5 Sexiest Skills **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 25, 2013, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152 "2013-12-25T17:35:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2013, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/41 "2013-12-29T07:18:51Z")
Woman, I like guys. And when it comes to “partner requirements”, I’m very, very traditional - traditionally Basque, that is. 1. Listening. Not just hearing but listening. If I need to take a detour through Vietnam to explain something, suck it up, I’ll do the same for you. I’m a “yes means yes, no means no, silence means I’m looking for a polite way to tell you that’s the dumbest idea I’ve ever heard” kind of person, please don’t look for hidden meanings. 2. Being able to take care of himself and others. If I’m sick, can he keep the family fed by a method not involving TelePizza? Can he keep us in clean clothes and the dust bunnies from getting bigger than the sofa? 3. Since I’ve got a “thing” about electrical work, being able to do it is a huge plus. 4. Talk nerdy to me… or discuss nerdy stuff with me… or heck, let’s just discuss anything, picking nits keeps the brain sharp 😃 5. Able to distribute work in whichever way happens to be best for us, which may or may not be the way it worked for his parents or mine or the way the movies say we should do it. If it turns out I’m better at XYZ, then I do it and he doesn’t get to pout about “but it’s the husband’s job!” (dude, let me explain the concept of _etxekoandre_\* to you, and then we’ll start on “sexism”…). If it turns out he’s better at XYZ, then he does it and doesn’t get to moan about having to do it. - “Woman of/owning the house” in Basque. I did say I’m very Basque when it comes to this stuff… ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2013, 11:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/42 "2013-12-29T11:14:37Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > Woman, I like guys. And when it comes to “partner requirements”, I’m very, very traditional - traditionally Basque, that is. Swoon. Do let me know when you’re back in Scotland. ---
**Author:** ![Kable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed655f/32.png) [@Kable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kable)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2013, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/43 "2013-12-29T15:22:33Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I totally do not agree that guys do not find skill sexy. Kind of relevant: > [@](#): > > Before we get to that, however, it is worth noting an intriguing dichotomy between the sexes in respect of all this coupling. The chaps who win gold medals - even those as geeky as Michael Phelps - are the principal objects of desire for many female athletes. There is something about sporting success that makes a certain type of woman go crazy - smiling, flirting and sometimes even grabbing at the chaps who have done the business in the pool or on the track. An Olympic gold medal is not merely a route to fame and fortune; it is also a surefire ticket to writhe. > > But - and this is the thing - success does not work both ways. Gold-medal winning female athletes are not looked upon by male athletes with any more desire than those who flunked out in the first round. It is sometimes even considered a defect, as if there is something downright unfeminine about all that striving, fist pumping and incontinent sweating. Sport, in this respect, is a reflection of wider society, where male success is a universal desirable whereas female success is sexually ambiguous. I do not condone this phenomenon, merely note it. > **[Interesting article: Sex and the Olympic City!](https://beginnertriathlete.com/discussion/forums/thread-view.asp?tid=129468)** > > Interesting article: Sex and the Olympic City! ---
**Author:** ![Jamicat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c67d28/32.png) [@Jamicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jamicat)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2013, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/44 "2013-12-29T22:35:50Z")
Sexiest Skills?..hmmm What I find sexy in a Female… 1: Knows how to cook from scratch with versatile ingredients and it tastes as intended. 2: Musically Inclined and generally good enough at it so that we can drink beers and play together on occasion. 3: Ability to have fun with any activity be it riding bikes on a trail, camping, or even sipping tea by the fire without the sensation of being bored/distracted/annoyed. 4: Having an interesting and useful hobby, like horticulture/gardening or Programming in Flash/Javascript. 5: Ability to be sexy without trying to be sexy. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2013, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/45 "2013-12-29T23:09:21Z")
> [@the\_diego](#): > > I have to include this: a reputation for being good in sex. Not me. I’d rather set expectations as low as possible. Like during a power outage, when the power company says it’ll be restored in an hour but then the lights come back on five minutes later. But sort of the opposite. All I’m saying is, five minutes can be impressive if you frame it the right way. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/46 "2013-12-30T06:23:16Z")
Gay male here. In no particular order: Is proficient at something artistic, especially music. Can fluently speak French or Italian. Expert at oral sex, and making out/kissing. Can fix things in the house or car. Is able to express his thoughts and feelings and understand mine. Can deal with my chronic depression, without telling me to “snap out of it.” ---
**Author:** ![Dave\_Hartwick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7feea3/32.png) [@Dave\_Hartwick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dave_Hartwick)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 10:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/47 "2013-12-30T10:17:32Z")
An excellent list, panache45, those are all skills. A straight old white middle American expat’s list: Debating Arguing Fighting Drinking And talking one’s way out of trouble I’ve fallen in love more than once for each of these. Also, I’ve pitted the lot of you. ---
**Author:** ![JustinC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/justinc/32/8083_2.png) [@JustinC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JustinC)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 11:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/48 "2013-12-30T11:23:52Z")
Thread needs a poll. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/49 "2013-12-30T14:00:37Z")
With (at a minimum): Cooking, Cunnilingus and Coconut Radios. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/50 "2013-12-30T14:53:30Z")
> [@Kable](#): > > As a man my guess is that research would suggest that men don’t find any skills women do to be all that sexy and that it’s way more important that they just appear sexy. Maybe poll dancing, but that only works if the woman is physically attractive already. Women on the other hand do seem more attracted to men with good skills, particularly if such skill gains the man social status among his peer group. This actually describes my views really well. It’s not important to me from a sexual attraction point of view if a woman can Do Things (other than sexual stuff.) In fact, I’d probably be more turned on by the helpless type. It’s important to me from a non-sexual attraction perspective that my mate be able to Do Things. My wife often gets, “you should be a professional decorator!” type comments from visitors to our home. She also smart and very good at her job, an excellent violinist, and a skilled graphic artist. She’s a good cook in the sense that she can follow a recipe card and turn out a tasty meal. She’s also a self-starter, and driven to Get Things Done (which complements my more laid-back approach to everything nicely.) These are all excellent qualities for a life partner, but none of them are _sexy_. I reserve that descriptor for her other qualities. ---
**Author:** ![Sr\_Siete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6de8d8/32.png) [@Sr\_Siete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sr_Siete)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2013, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152/51 "2013-12-30T15:30:58Z")
1. Breathing. 2. Being human. 3. Speaking some sort of understandable language. 4. Not being a psychopathic killer. 5. Being somewaht female-ish. I’m willing to compromise in the last three. And the first two. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-5-sexiest-skills/677152.md?page=2)