# Top Lesbian Love Songs **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [November 6, 2005, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740 "2005-11-06T04:16:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/1 "2005-11-06T04:16:01Z")
I’m burning a CD for a girlfriend and need help. Here’s what I have so far … Come To My Window - Melissa Etheridge Damn, I Wish I Were Your Lover - Sophie B. Hawkins The Power of Two - Indigo Girls What are your top favorite lesbian love songs? What about Ani DiFranco? k.d. lang? tori amos? ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/2 "2005-11-06T04:39:37Z")
“I Kissed a Girl” by Jill Sobule. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/3 "2005-11-06T05:09:23Z")
My favorite was always [“The Dangerous Dyke”](http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/Dangerous-Type-lyrics-The-Cars/78DE38B3F3DED29D482568A800233E99) by The Cars, but here is what other people think. Well…I thought it was “The Dangerous Dyke” for a long, long time. [Top 10 Lesbian Love Songs](http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/musicreviews/tp/LesbianLoveSong.htm) > [@](#): > > 1. Joan Armatrading: The Weakness in Me > If you’ve ever been in love with more than one person, this is THE song to describe that tortured experience. Featured on The L Word Soundtrack and recorded by Melissa Etheridge, I am surely not the only lesbian to relate to this song. Here is the Joan Armatrading classic, The Weakness in Me. If you’re not familiar with Joan Armatrading’s music, this would be a good place to start. > > 2. The Indigo Girls: Power of Two > It’s hard to pick just one song from lesbian duo, The Indigo Girls. The Power of Two is a testament to sticking it out through the good and hard times. > > 3. Melissa Etheridge: Come to My Window > Yes I Am was Melissa Etheridge’s coming out album and “Come to My Window” was her breakthrough hit. It was also hard to decide which of Melissa’s songs to pick. I settled for this 1993 hit. It remains one of the best lesbian love songs of all time. > > 4. Sophie B. Hawkins: Damn, I wish I was your Lover > When I first heard “Damn, I wish I was your Lover” by Sophie B. Hawkins, I had to find out who who was singing this sexy love song. Sophie, who coined the term “omnisexual”, just had to end up on this top lesbian love songs list. > > 5. k.d. lang: Constant Craving > We couldn’t talk about lesbian love songs without mentioning k.d. lang, the cutest butch ever to sing country music. “Constant Craving” was k.d.'s pop crossover hit and one hot love song. > > 6. Jill Sobule: I Kissed a Girl > I’m sure Jill Sobule’s “I Kissed a Girl” saved some young lives. If only I could have had as frank a song about kissing girls when I was growing up. > > 7. Sade: By Your Side > Right after my friend passed away from breast cancer, I heard “By Your Side” by Sade on the radio. This song made me realize that love lasts forever, even if you think someone you loved and lost is gone, in your heart, they will always be by your side. > > 8. Melissa Ferrick: Drive > Melissa Ferrick’s “Drive” is more of a sex song than a love song, but I had to include this out-lesbian’s ode to oral sex in the best lesbian love songs list. > > 9. Ani DiFranco: If it Isn’t Her > Oh, yeah, this is the song about when you first meet someone and you are so crushed out that you just don’t notice anything else. Bisexual rocker, Ani DiFranco’s tribute to her girl-crush, “If it isn’t Her” is one of the top lesbian love songs ever. > > 10. Doria Roberts: Perfect > Doria Roberts, cute lesbian from Atlanta and Lilith Faire star captures the moment when everything in your love life is “Perfect.” ---
**Author:** ![Amaranta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Amaranta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amaranta)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/4 "2005-11-06T05:39:36Z")
I prefer Ani’s “She Says” to “If it Isn’t Her”, myself. Kinnie Star’s “Praise” is a fabulous song. It makes me want to dance and drink and have crazy girl-lips-on-girl-hips sex and all sorts of things. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/5 "2005-11-06T06:33:58Z")
Dang, aren’t we smart. We had 4 of the top 10 already posted. I just found that same list on [about.com](http://about.com). I need enough to fill up a cd, so keep ‘em comin’. \ ---
**Author:** ![TLDRIDKJKLOLFTW](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/51bf81/32.png) [@TLDRIDKJKLOLFTW](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TLDRIDKJKLOLFTW)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/6 "2005-11-06T06:46:30Z")
the Magnetic Fields - “Acoustic Guitar” Tatu - “All the things she said” ---
**Author:** ![jellyblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e480ec/32.png) [@jellyblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jellyblue)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/7 "2005-11-06T07:06:27Z")
“She’s Got a Girlfriend Now” - Save Ferris (funny - good for comic relief) "So Shall It Be " by k.d. lang and “Barefoot”, if you can find it. “Elsewhere” Sarah McLachlan Lots of stuff by the Murmurs is fun I like o-l-d Melissa: “Chromeplated Heart” “You Used to Love to Dance” “No Souvenirs”. She also does a really cute cover of “Maggy May”. Not explicitly lesbian, but my girlfriend sure thought “Truth & Bone” by Heather Nova was hot when I sent it to her. The song that’s playing during the Susan Sarandon/Catherine Deneuve sex scene in “The Hunger” is Lakme by Delibes. Instrumental, but very pretty. (Boy, I’m really dating myself here ;-). ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 7:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/8 "2005-11-06T07:27:14Z")
You could cheat and get a [pre-made CD](http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B000003451/ref=pd_null_recs_m_t/102-5576006-7762529?v=glance&s=music). ---
**Author:** ![Hometownboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/5e9695/32.png) [@Hometownboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hometownboy)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/9 "2005-11-06T07:42:33Z")
Janis Ian’s **Ride Me Like a Wave** from her 1993 “Breaking Silence” CD. From Hometownboy, who sometimes wonders why so many of his favorite singers are lesbians (all of whom he liked before he knew that about them). ---
**Author:** ![SleepyDuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@SleepyDuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SleepyDuck)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/10 "2005-11-06T08:24:15Z")
_ **Lesbian Seagull** _ from _Beavis and Butthead do America_ ---
**Author:** ![Electronic\_Chaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Electronic\_Chaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electronic_Chaos)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 9:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/11 "2005-11-06T09:47:51Z")
If you don’t mind a bit of humor, try the punk rock trilogy [Liza](http://www.plyrics.com/lyrics/nofx/liza.html), [Louise](http://www.plyrics.com/lyrics/nofx/louise.html), and finally [Liza and Louise](http://www.plyrics.com/lyrics/nofx/lizalouise.html), all by NOFX ---
**Author:** ![Electronic\_Chaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Electronic\_Chaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electronic_Chaos)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 9:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/12 "2005-11-06T09:50:08Z")
> [@Electronic Chaos](#): > > If you don’t mind a bit of humor, try the punk rock trilogy [Liza](http://www.plyrics.com/lyrics/nofx/liza.html), [Louise](http://www.plyrics.com/lyrics/nofx/louise.html), and finally [Liza and Louise](http://www.plyrics.com/lyrics/nofx/lizalouise.html), all by NOFX Erm, I probably should’ve added, some of those lyrics are a bit…explicit. Click at your own risk. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 10:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/13 "2005-11-06T10:00:10Z")
> [@Ruby](#): > > What about Ani DiFranco? k.d. lang? tori amos? Tori doesn’t belong in that group. She writes tons of songs about men - nothing about lesbians that I can think of (she’s straight). She has her share of gay fans, but my experience is that they’re mostly guys. ---
**Author:** ![dbygawdcapn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dbygawdcapn/32/3995_2.png) [@dbygawdcapn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dbygawdcapn)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/14 "2005-11-06T17:08:25Z")
I Spent My Last $10.00 On Birth Control and Beer - Two Nice Girls ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/15 "2005-11-06T17:44:56Z")
> [@Marley23](#): > > Tori doesn’t belong in that group. She writes tons of songs about men - nothing about lesbians that I can think of (she’s straight). She has her share of gay fans, but my experience is that they’re mostly guys. I think the closest Tori song that would fit is Raspberry Swirl: > [@](#): > > When all the boys can’t be men > Everybody knows > I’m her friend > Everybody knows > I’m her man And I don’t know that I’d put that on a lovey-dovey mix cd. I definitely second Melissa Ferrick’s Drive and I also recommend the following tracks from “Better than Chocolate”, which is probably the best lesbian flick I’ve ever seen. **Pure (You’re Touching Me)** by West End Girls **Perfect Fingers** by Tami Greer (Although Google tells me that Ani actually wrote the song) **Sexy** by West End Girls ---
**Author:** ![Critical1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@Critical1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Critical1)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/16 "2005-11-06T17:51:19Z")
I wish I was a Lesbian by Louden Wainright the 3rd? check out K.D. Langs Ingenue album, it has some of the most amazing love songs you have ever heard and ranks in my all time top 10 cd’s ever. and I am a straight male if that matters. ---
**Author:** ![MovieMogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f08c70/32.png) [@MovieMogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MovieMogul)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/17 "2005-11-06T18:03:49Z")
Though it was featured, non-sexually, in _Toy Story 2_, the lyrics to **When She Loved Me** can also be taken as a lesbian love song, especially given that it was sung quite touchingly by Sarah McLachlan in the film. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/18 "2005-11-06T20:46:27Z")
How about “Mommas Got a Girlfriend Now” by Ben Harper? ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/19 "2005-11-06T20:47:48Z")
Holly Near: “Rock Me in your Arms” and “You Bet”, both from _Imagine My Surprise_ Carole Etzler: “Next to You”, from _Womanriver Flowing On_ ---
**Author:** ![Talon\_Karrde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Talon\_Karrde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Talon_Karrde)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740/20 "2005-11-06T23:51:51Z")
How about Patti Smith’s [Gloria](http://www.oceanstar.com/patti/lyrics/gloria.htm)? There’s a lot more going on in it than a lesbian love song, though. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/top-lesbian-love-songs/329740.md?page=2)