# tragic accident **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 15, 2004, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401 "2004-06-15T00:43:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![shijinn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@shijinn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shijinn)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2004, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/81 "2004-06-16T17:37:29Z")
strength and healing. ---
**Author:** ![t-keela](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a3d4f5/32.png) [@t-keela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/t-keela)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2004, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/82 "2004-06-16T18:26:46Z")
It’s been two weeks or so since the wreck and she’s still not awake. I’ve pretty much lost track of days and time but we’re hanging tough, one day at a time. I’m in and out of here real quick to grab some clothes and pay some bills. The swelling in her brain has stopped and the fluid has ceased draining from the catheter in her skull. Hopefully it will be removed in a few days. This morning she appeared to be resting comfortably and breathing well. Many thanks to all of you. Keep the faith… luv t/k ---
**Author:** ![t-keela](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a3d4f5/32.png) [@t-keela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/t-keela)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2004, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/83 "2004-06-16T18:31:02Z")
> [@Mtgman](#): > > **t/k** , you’ve got friends among the North Texas Dopers. We’d like to help if we can. If you still have my email address from our last correspondence please drop me a line. If you don’t have it it is listed in my profile here. My family and I would be happy to come out and visit and bring some care packages so you and your daughter don’t have to live out of vending machines or hospital cafeterias. Just let us know how we can help and we’ll do what we can. > > Take care, > Steven Thanks Steven…I’ll get w/ ya asap. Meanwhile we’re at ETMC room 3361 in Tyler and we’ll be there for awhile I imagine, take care guys. 🙂 Jay ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2004, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/84 "2004-06-16T18:34:32Z")
Our thoughts and prayers for a speedy recovery are with you both. Much love, **kfl and Upside\_Down\_Amber** ---
**Author:** ![N.Sane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f19dbf/32.png) [@N.Sane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/N.Sane)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2004, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/85 "2004-06-16T18:40:49Z")
t-keela, You and your wife are in my prayers. I hope you have some good news soon. My husband and I are out North TX way also, and would love to do anything I could to help you out. You can get my e-mail address from my profile. Faith ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2004, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/86 "2004-06-16T18:50:46Z")
May you have many years together to celebrate your love. ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/87 "2004-06-17T14:11:59Z")
> [@t-keela](#): > > I’m in for just a few minutes and I gotta go. Sorry 'bout the forum choice **Tuba** it’s just _pointless or mundane_ didn’t sit very well. > Thanks for the support guys. She’s still “asleep” but we’re tough and love each other completely. Matter of fact this is the first time we’ve ever been apart for more than a day in the past twelve years since we’ve been together. > > The doctors don’t hold out much hope, but she’s already beaten them on three different occasions. They said her heart would fail and to make our peace by morning last Wednesday…at 10 o’clock they shook their heads and said they didn’t know how but she was gonna pull through. Then on friday they said the same thing again with her kidneys but she held tough and they started working again. Over the weekend her lungs had quit and she was 100% ventilated…today she’s breathing on her own and the machine is down to 40%. > > My girl’s a fighter and we’ve got a great life together. The MD she’s battled with her whole life has caused her some complications in this tragedy but it has also given her a strength that few people realized until now, except for me that is. > We’re doing it one day at a time and while we’re not out of the woods yet, I will stand strong by her side and tell her just how much she means to me. A day, a month or from now on if that’s what it takes. I’ll never give up on my one true love. She is the best thing in my life and I’ll not let her forget it. > > So my friends, keep sending me those good vibes and I’ll be back asap. > much love t/k 🙂 It’s one of the ironies of this place that sometimes what is said here is neither mundane nor pointless. Moving your thread to this forum was not done to be hurtful or to insult you in any way; it’s just that this is the more “social” forum and the one where items of a personal nature are normally placed. It also gives your thread the most attention, which is really important at a time like this. It’s just not appropriate anyplace else. I would never want to hurt your feelings, most of all at this difficult time in your life. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. your humble TubaDiva Administrator ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/88 "2004-06-17T14:24:24Z")
My wishes for the best go with you, **t-keela**. May your wife heal and return to you. ---
**Author:** ![LurkMeister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3da27b/32.png) [@LurkMeister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkMeister)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/89 "2004-06-17T14:31:24Z")
My sympathies and best wishes are with you. I feel your pain. ---
**Author:** ![Jane\_D\_oh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/839c29/32.png) [@Jane\_D\_oh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jane_D_oh)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/90 "2004-06-17T15:54:20Z")
You and your wife are in my thoughts. Stay strong. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/91 "2004-06-17T16:50:16Z")
t-keela, you are an inspiration and your wife is a very lucky woman. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/92 "2004-06-17T16:56:52Z")
Stay strong, **t-keela**. My thoughts are with you, hoping for a full and quick recovery. ---
**Author:** ![Ayesha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c0e974/32.png) [@Ayesha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ayesha)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/93 "2004-06-17T17:07:06Z")
\*\* t-keela \*\* Just want to let you know that prayersd and good thoughts are also coming to the wife and yourself from the Ayesha & LIONsob household. You are doing the best thing by being there for your wife and talking to her. If the hospital will allow it maybe you can bring her favorite tapes/cds up and play them for her (with headphones to keep any complaints down of course), anything to keep stimulating her mind and heart. ---
**Author:** ![Salem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8c91f0/32.png) [@Salem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salem)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2004, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/94 "2004-06-17T20:37:52Z")
I was thinking the exact thing, **Ayesha** , as I was reading. Talk to her, read to her, tell her jokes, share your memories, record your voice and those of your families, play her favorite music, keep touching her. She knows you’re there. You, your wife and your family are in my thoughts and prayers for quick healing and full recovery. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2004, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/95 "2004-06-18T18:23:33Z")
Still thinking about you guys and praying for the best. I wish there was something we could actually do to help. You know that if there’s anything, anything at all, just ask. ---
**Author:** ![ladybug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/46a35a/32.png) [@ladybug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladybug)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2004, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/96 "2004-06-18T23:54:32Z")
My thoughts and prayers are with you, **t-keela**. ---
**Author:** ![Ashkicker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4bbf92/32.png) [@Ashkicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashkicker)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2004, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/97 "2004-06-19T00:03:18Z")
Still thinking about you and your wife. Hope she is getting better. ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2004, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/98 "2004-06-19T01:10:07Z")
I couldn’t be sadder to hear this news- I’m heartbroken for you and what you’re both going through. Please don’t hesitate to ask if there is anything we can do as a group. Do you need food delivered? Your house cleaned? Errands run? Name it and I’m sure it will be done. My prayers are with you- and just to offer you hope, my husband’s cousin was in a coma for a long period and came out perfectly lucid- she has some short term memory loss which improved over time, but was otherwise fine. I pray for a similar outcome for your wife. ---
**Author:** ![medstar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f07891/32.png) [@medstar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/medstar)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2004, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/99 "2004-06-19T03:05:33Z")
I wanted to add my condolences and wishes for a speedy convalescence for your wife–but also, what’s going on with the accident itself? Was the other driver hurt? Has he/she been apprehended? Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2004, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401/100 "2004-06-19T18:03:03Z")
I am shocked by this news. ☹ I hope that your wife continues to surprise the docs by making a quick recovery. Best wishes to all of you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tragic-accident/250401.md?page=6)