# Transgendered Dopers: I Can Use Your Help **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 30, 2004, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896 "2004-06-30T15:44:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Polycarp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/82dd89/32.png) [@Polycarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polycarp)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/1 "2004-06-30T15:44:35Z")
Over on a Christian board that I belong to ( [www.christianforums.com](http://www.christianforums.com) ), I’m involved in [a thread](http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?p=8329490#post8329490) started by an 17-year-old Christian who is MTF transgendered – she uses **Sarah** as a screen name though still biomale. And of course she doesn’t have useful resources, support, and so on – and has been getting some truly lousy advice from people mistaking transgenderism for transvestism or homosexuality (along with some passable advice from a few of use who do understand, more or less). I know that **Eve** and **KellyM** don’t have their e-mail addresses listed. But I offered to put her in touch with a couple of you folks. So anyone who is (a) transgendered – ideally MTF, but either way and (b) is willing to exchange e-mails with this kid, presumably to give her support and guidance in dealing with what she’s up against, I’d appreciate it if you’d e-mail me and give me your e-mail address and consent. Mine is in my profile, but to save you the trouble of looking it up without allowing spambot e-mail harvesters to get it, it’s my username here plus the digits 1948 at hot mail dot com. Thanks for any help or advice you may be willing to give her. (BTW, if people post encouragement or support here, I can PM her a hyperlink to this thread along with any e-mail addresses I’m given.) ---
**Author:** ![ultrafilter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/3d9bf3/32.png) [@ultrafilter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultrafilter)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/2 "2004-06-30T15:50:11Z")
I really can’t offer her anything specific, but I definitely wish her the best. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/3 "2004-06-30T16:00:02Z")
No idea if she’s already Googled but in case she hasn’t [transgender resources](http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=ISO-8859-1&q=transgender+resources&btnG=Google+Search) brings up what appears to be some good stuff with a minimum of porn. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/4 "2004-06-30T16:00:35Z")
I also wish her the best. I wish I could help out though. BTW-I thought that was you on CF… It’s been a while since I posted there though. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Olentzero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/90ced4/32.png) [@Olentzero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Olentzero)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/5 "2004-06-30T16:00:45Z")
**Polycarp** , just when it seems you couldn’t get any more freakin’ amazing, you go and do something like this. My hat is off to you, sir. I wish I could help this young woman out in some way, but all I can do is wish you the best in your efforts to help her. ---
**Author:** ![ultrafilter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/3d9bf3/32.png) [@ultrafilter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultrafilter)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/6 "2004-06-30T16:03:14Z")
To add to what **Otto** found, Yahoo has a whole [directory](http://dir.yahoo.com/Society_and_Culture/Cultures_and_Groups/Transgendered/) for pages aimed at transgendered people. There’s probably something helpful there. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/7 "2004-06-30T16:05:33Z")
I just sent you my home e-dress, where she can get in touch with me—let me know if you got it OK. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/8 "2004-06-30T16:10:31Z")
P.S. I _never_ should have read that linked thread, _what_ the hell was I thinking? Those people need some serious bitch-slapping . . . ---
**Author:** ![Lando\_Griffin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f17d59/32.png) [@Lando\_Griffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lando_Griffin)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/9 "2004-06-30T16:22:20Z")
Some of those people in the linked thread make me ashamed to call myself Christian. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/10 "2004-06-30T18:03:28Z")
Oh, let me add that—as she is young and religious—I will be very circumspect in what I say to her. If she asks, I will tell her that I cannot and will not comment on any religious aspects of the subject. ---
**Author:** ![Shaolinrabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Shaolinrabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shaolinrabbit)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/11 "2004-06-30T18:15:37Z")
Let her know if she needs some friends to chat with she’s welcome to IM me anytime 😉 I mean, I’m just a guy, but I love to chat with people. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/12 "2004-06-30T21:45:41Z")
Websites for Transgendered Christians There’s [Whosoever.org, a website for LGBT Christians](http://www.whosoever.org/index.shtml) They have a group on yahoo that she could join. If she’s Catholic, then there is [a website where you can find local chapters.](http://www.dignityusa.org/) [The Grace and Lace Letter, a Christian publication for transgendered persons.](http://hometown.aol.com/gnlnews/index1.html) [TransFaith On-line](http://www.angelfire.com/on/otherwise/transfaith.html) [Webring list of Transgendered Christians sites.](http://d.webring.com/hub?ring=tgchristians) ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/13 "2004-06-30T21:56:07Z")
> [@Shaolinrabbit](#): > > Let her know if she needs some friends to chat with she’s welcome to IM me anytime 😉 Or she could join here! ---
**Author:** ![Polycarp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/82dd89/32.png) [@Polycarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polycarp)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/14 "2004-06-30T22:11:26Z")
I’ve sent her **Eve** ’s e-mail address, the Jean Harlow book interview as an introduction to **Eve** , and a link to this thread, which will in turn give her all the links you guys have so graciously provided. She thanked me for them and said she’d be e-mailing **Eve**. And my thanks to the divine Ms. Golden in particular and all of you in general. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2004, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/15 "2004-06-30T22:55:48Z")
> [@](#): > > The Grace and Lace Letter, a Christian publication for transgendered persons. Why does that put me in mind of that Simpsons sign, “Sneed’s Feed & Seed (formerly Chuck’s)?” ---
**Author:** ![KellyM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/57b2e6/32.png) [@KellyM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KellyM)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2004, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/transgendered-dopers-i-can-use-your-help/252896/16 "2004-07-06T04:19:06Z")
> [@Polycarp](#): > > I know that **Eve** and **KellyM** don’t have their e-mail addresses listed. I can be emailed through the Boards; at least, I have the option selected to allow other members of the Boards to mail me, and I have gotten quite a bit of mail from other members of the Boards over the past few years. I have some friends who would be better candidates than myself for this sort of thing. I’m 35, and don’t know if I can relate that well to a 17-year-old. However, I have plenty of trans friends who are in their late teens or early twenties who would be better candidates. I’m sure someone out there can help. Feel free to email me. I’ve been preoccupied lately and haven’t made it to the Boards lately, which is why I am only now finding this thread.