# Treis, no means no.

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**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [April 13, 2013, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/treis-no-means-no/655556 "2013-04-13T01:07:05Z")\
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**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\
**Post date:** [April 15, 2013, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/treis-no-means-no/655556/444 "2013-04-15T23:54:07Z")

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Snipping for length/relevance:

> [@panaccione](#):
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> Let’s just say I have been _that_ guy.
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> I am a guy who struggles with women on an intimate level. I’ve crossed some boundaries I probably shouldn’t have. I wish I could take them back but I can’t and it’s certainly something I’m ashamed of. I’m thankful that I never went too far in my younger days. Or, just lucky that none of these girls decided to press charges.
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> I was young, dumb, angry, horny, intoxicated, inexperienced, frustrated, jealous, insecure, and desperate. I wanted someone to love very badly. Having that denied hurts. It does not excuse any actions of mine, but it explains where they come from. I don’t think I’m a monster, or scumbag. I’m a regular person wiho in the past had questionable morals and made some bad choices.

Thankfully we’re in the pit, because I’m free to say this: You are absolutely, without a doubt, 100% a monstrous scumbag. My boyfriend was a virgin until he was 29 and met me, because (as he says) he was “terrible at women.” He was lonely and loveless and insecure and desperate and horny for a _very long time_. But because he’s not a monstrous scumbag, he never once resorted to groping or forcing himself onto a woman without her consent (FTR: he’s a fantastic lover).

You are a goddamn disgusting human being, I hope you die alone, and I hope you internalize what Frylock said here so you don’t hurt any more women while cluelessly tralala-ing through life:

> [@Frylock](#):
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> You might not be normal. I don’t mean this as snark, I think it’s possible I’m actually informing you of something, and I mean it sincerely and constructively. If the above is what you assume is typical, then you might not be normal.

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