# True or False: Women are FAR more picky about men than we are about them. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 21, 2003, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120 "2003-04-21T20:25:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/41 "2003-04-24T00:47:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Nightime \* > \*\*So, would I be considered _extremely_ picky, because I have only wanted to date 4 of the many females I have known in my life? > > Or would I be considered not picky at all, because I am not looking for a girlfriend in the first place? \*\* I’d say you were a spectator, rather than a participant. ---
**Author:** ![F.U.Shakespeare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aca169/32.png) [@F.U.Shakespeare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F.U.Shakespeare)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/42 "2003-04-24T01:30:48Z")
It’s been my experience that women are pickier with respect to income, authority and general life accomplishments than men are. (Cher excepted, you rarely see women dating men who earn half as much as they do). Could it also be that the attractive women with ‘unattractive’ men have turned down more ‘attractive’ men who weren’t their type? > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by roadkiller \* > \*\*From what I’ve seen, I think it’s the guys who are WAY pickier, especially when it comes to looks. > > Like for instance: I know a lot of very attractive girls that dated/are dating guys that are, should I say, less than good-looking. > > On the other hand, I rarely if EVER see an attractive guy with an unattractive girl. \*\* ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/43 "2003-04-24T06:23:36Z")
> [@](#): > > _By Lizard_ > Boy XJET, good thing _I_ wasn’t your huysband, as I think love itself is an artificial construct created to serve a biological function. I finally decided this after all my friends started “falling in love” as soon as they felt the 'ole biological clock ticking. I vaguely remember one of my guy friends telling me that you can’t make a guy ready to propose to you. The woman that he’ll marry is whatever woman happens to be lucky enough to be with him at the time that he decides it’s time to settle down. > [@](#): > > _By Davebear_ > “Yeah, that sucks. Want to get a beer?” I’ll admit to wanting someone to commiserate with. But sometimes I just need this too. Maybe I hang out with guys too much? I also know I sometimes confound the guys with my choice in guys. They ‘accuse’ me of liking geekier guys. It’s not necessarily that, though I will admit for having a bit of a thing for them 😉 Often my choices are insrutable even to me. I look back and wonder what I was thinking about that guy but then I’ll remember the good times we _did_ have and be like… _that_ was why I liked him. ---
**Author:** ![Bruce\_Daddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@Bruce\_Daddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bruce_Daddy)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2003, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/44 "2003-04-24T14:17:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lizard \* > \*\*Boy **XJET** , good thing _I_ wasn’t your huysband, as I think love itself is an artificial construct created to serve a biological function. I finally decided this after all my friends started “falling in love” as soon as they felt the 'ole biological clock ticking. \*\* Agreed. That would be a fantastic thread. Gread Debates? Love: Chemical, biological or nuclear? ---
**Author:** ![sakuri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7ea924/32.png) [@sakuri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sakuri)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2013, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/45 "2013-05-22T17:21:38Z")
[http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/](http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/) Cupid did a study on this in 09. They found women rate 80% of all men on okcupid below average. The data is here for both sides ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2013, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/46 "2013-05-22T18:03:21Z")
Before the inevitable never-funny zombie jokes arrive, I’ll point out to everyone that this thread is ten years old. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2013, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/47 "2013-05-23T16:32:40Z")
> [@Xema](#): > > SouthernSky is mixing metaphors (bees don’t pass on their genes by pollenating flowers) … Perhaps **SouthernSky** was offering an allusion to [the comments made by the King](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0049408/quotes) in _The King and I_: > [@](#): > > Because it is natural. It is like old Siamese saying. A girl is like a blossom, with honey for just one man. A man is like a honey bee and gather all he can. To fly from blossom to blossom a honey must be free. But blossom must not ever fly from bee to bee to bee. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2013, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120/48 "2013-05-23T17:55:15Z")
I think once a woman passes the sight test, meaning a guy finds her attractive enough to date, it is very unlikely a guy would refuse to date her. Women have a lot more criteria, and looks might not even be high on their list. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/true-or-false-women-are-far-more-picky-about-men-than-we-are-about-them/170120.md?page=2)