# TruePisces' Flirting Workshop - Come One, Come All **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 1, 2001, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347 "2001-04-01T06:06:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/241 "2001-04-03T06:27:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tequila Mockingbird \* > I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I find shy, somewhat inept men to be charming in anaive sort of way. As long as they are only being themselves. \*\* Er,… um… well… I mean… Hi… (damn!) um… Gee, I love your shoes! (stupid, stupid, stupid!) I mean,… Hi, I’m **UncleBill**. How’s your name? (DAMN!) ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/242 "2001-04-03T06:37:10Z")
I think stage fright is a fear of the unknown. You guys are lucky—you have people here who will surely be nice to you and who want you to flirt with them. ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/243 "2001-04-03T06:39:16Z")
Cool. Did I mention “wow”? ---
**Author:** ![Tequila\_Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/41988e/32.png) [@Tequila\_Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tequila_Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 6:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/244 "2001-04-03T06:42:41Z")
Oh yeah Big Bad Billy Club o’Luv…I’m buying this from you. You’re supposed to be the naive one here! [sub]Ya still got that lap open for me next Sat night though?[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/245 "2001-04-03T06:47:52Z")
Lap reserved. STANDING reservation! And naive? I can’t even SPELL the word! ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 7:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/246 "2001-04-03T07:34:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KKBattousai \* > **Question #1) Somebody mentioned the following flirt progression: eye contact -\> smile -\> go up and lay on the charm. Now, I can look at people, and smile at 'em even, but once it’s time to make my move, I’m paralyzed by a sudden, irrational and, well, paralyzing fear. Consider it extreme stagefright. How do I get rid of that?** There are some truly valuable relaxation techniques I can show you later, if you like. Preferably tonight, at my place. One is meditation, which involves sitting in quiet, private, darkened room together, listening to the sounds of each others’ breathing. The other technique is muscle relaxation, which, to be honest, I’d very much prefer to show you than just describe to you. Interested? Oh, I should add that these techniques are only improved with practice, so you’ll need to come over often. Is that okay with you? \*\* > [@](#): > > Question #2) :: points:: What the hell is _that_ and where is it supposed to go? \*\* :: points:: This? Oh, I’ll show you where it goes… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 10:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/247 "2001-04-03T10:17:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LindyHopper \* > **Give up? Me? Never! 🙂** I like a man with stamina! > [@](#): > > \*\*Jeez, could I _be_ any more tongue-tied? :slaps self in face: > \*\* I guess that’s something we’ll just have to work on a little, now won’t we? Get you to use your tongue a little more cleverly. 😉 > [@](#): > > \*\*Pretty darn good, from where I sit… > > Down here on the floor… > > In front of your chair… > > **TP**!!! You’re not wearing underwear! [sub]Nice skirt, by the way.[/sub] > > So, what’s the punishment for looking up your professor’s skirt, anyway? 😉 [sub]And when do I get it?[/sub] \*\* _sigh_ And I thought you came here because you really wanted to _learn_, not just to ogle the teacher… We need to have a talk about this, see if I can make you understand the value of this class. Follow me. _gets up, heads for her office, looks over her shoulder at **LindyHopper** _ Are you coming? ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 10:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/248 "2001-04-03T10:20:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Robot Arm \* > \*\*Now if only there was someplace you could order _that_ by mail. \*\* Oh, I think practicing is **far** more fun for that sort of thing anyway… ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 10:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/249 "2001-04-03T10:33:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KKBattousai \* > **Question #1) Somebody mentioned the following flirt progression: eye contact -\> smile -\> go up and lay on the charm. Now, I can look at people, and smile at 'em even, but once it’s time to make my move, I’m paralyzed by a sudden, irrational and, well, paralyzing fear. Consider it extreme stagefright. How do I get rid of that?** Along with all the other great advice my professors gave while I was… um… _busy_… giving **Verrain** his final exam, [sub]By the way, just **where** did you learn to do that thing where you… you know? 🙂 Anyway, back to the question.[/sub] my best suggestion is practice. Start with practicing with people you know. Co-workers you get along with, friends… The flirt is the hardest part and you won’t get over being afraid of it (I’m guessing that’s where your fear is coming from) until you do it more. If you start with people you’re comfortable with, maybe flirting with “safe” people. I flirt with my [sub]extremely hot[/sub] engaged co-worker a lot, because we both know there’s nothing to it. Also, _use_ the boards. It’s not quite the same as RL, but if you try to imagine the flirt as if going on IRL, you can sometimes recognize the fears and have a little more time to work through it, and learn to face it a little easier the next time. > [@](#): > > \*\*Question #2) :: points:: What the hell is _that_ and where is it supposed to go? \*\* Follow **Audrey**. She knows. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 10:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/250 "2001-04-03T10:44:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cumber \* > **Err, both! Especially, how the hell do you initiate the flirt as opposed to merely flirting back? _gets out his notebook and gazes intently at the more experienced flirters (well, mostly the female ones it’s true :)), waiting for any peals of wisdom that might might drift his way_** Well, I’m NOT good at initiating the flirt. It’s not my strong suit. But there are a couple different ways to go about it, from what I’ve seen. First, you can jump on the good lines and build from there. The things that might be _meant_ in all innocence, but can be taken sooooo many different ways. Always try to go for the subtlty with the comments rather than the blatancy. The second way I can think of (hey, it’s still early for me, and I had a busy night last night! 😉 ) is by complimenting and striking up a conversation. This is used more IRL but can actually be used in both (though more e-mail, I think, than on the boards) When I had hair down to my butt, I got flirted with a lot. Guys would start out by complimenting my hair, then it would kinda… um… go from there. The key with all of this, I think, is to pay attention to the signs. If you get a feeling that she’s interested, keep building on what you’ve done before. If you get the feeling like she’s a little wary, try changing tactics. If you get the feeling like she’s not interested at all, you may want to wait for the next moment of opportunity with another beautiful lady. ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/251 "2001-04-03T10:51:13Z")
Ding ding! Just another “peal” of wisdom. ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 10:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/252 "2001-04-03T10:59:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by ChiefScott \* > \*\*Ding ding! > > Just another “peal” of wisdom. \*\* Come here, **Chief**. _I’ll_ give you something to go “Ding ding!” about… ---
**Author:** ![hardygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@hardygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hardygrrl)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/253 "2001-04-03T11:30:05Z")
::Steps ovwe Scralden’s limp body:: Think I killed him 🙂 Ok…I need to warm up for that private seminar… Who’s up for the hardygrrl challenge? Bet you can’t make me speechless 😉 ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 11:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/254 "2001-04-03T11:33:46Z")
I can make you speechless! :zzziiippp: [sub]well SOMEBODY had to do it before ChiefScott[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 11:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/255 "2001-04-03T11:40:43Z")
Well, with **hardygrrl** , _everyone’s_ done it before **ChiefScott** … ::D&R:: (Remember to disable smilies… remember to disable smilies…) ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 11:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/256 "2001-04-03T11:43:24Z")
Unnecessary Roughness! 15 yards, loss of down, 4 minutes in the penalty box, three free throws and possesion to **hardygrrl** ---
**Author:** ![hardygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@hardygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hardygrrl)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/257 "2001-04-03T12:01:27Z")
::pulls UncleBill out of her mouth:: Well I did tell you I’d let you get on top this time…but you’ll have to tongue,oops talk me into it 😉 :: Sits on edge of desk,legs crossed:: You’re at bat Bill…let’s see how you do 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/258 "2001-04-03T12:06:46Z")
[Just posting one more time to clear the “email notification” thingy…] 😛 ---
**Author:** ![moi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@moi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moi)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 12:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/259 "2001-04-03T12:11:29Z")
> [@](#): > > _UncleBill said to moi_ > Glad you like it! Now you can look, but you must touch! House rules! _eyes **WIDE** …moi sputters…and looks to her notepad_ > [@](#): > > _UncleBill said to KKBattousai, re: stagefright_ > Imagine them in their underwear. _imaginin’ fiercely!!!_ Um. Hi, UncleBill. I see a lot of you around here. I mean, y’know, um. Post-wise. _flashin’ a smile_ [sup]Whoa.[/sup] ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2001, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/260 "2001-04-03T12:12:45Z")
freakin’ peeping toms! Hmm… edge of desk, legs crossed…bring the kness up HERE, slide this thing in THERE, ooohhh, the SENSATION! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347.md?page=12) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347.md?page=14)