# TruePisces' Flirting Workshop - Come One, Come All **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 1, 2001, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347 "2001-04-01T06:06:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/61 "2001-04-01T17:02:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dublos \* > **I’m thinking part of the problem is my inability to sit on a thread and respond quickly enough to keep things flowing properly. By the time I come back she’s cooled from my previous warming comment and then I’m not sure whether I need to re-warm things or to go ahead to the next step.** A couple factors… One, how many posts in between, and in what period of time? If there are a lot of posts in a long period of time, then rewarming might be called for. A lot of posts in a short period of time, then go with the next step. A few posts in a long period of time… well, it kinda depends on how long. A day without you having a chance to post? Go next step. A week? Warm back up. Personally, I’ll pick a flirt back up any time it’s offered… whether it’s been warmed back up or just continued. I think there are a lot of ladies like that here… ---
**Author:** ![dublos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f08c70/32.png) [@dublos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dublos)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/62 "2001-04-01T17:08:51Z")
Well, the number of posts varies, if I try and jump into one of the existing flirt threads, usually quite a few, never longer than a day though. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TruePisces \* > \*\*Personally, I’ll pick a flirt back up any time it’s offered… whether it’s been warmed back up or just continued. I think there are a lot of ladies like that here… \*\* Mmmm… gotta love a women who’s flexible… that way too 😉 How about jumping into flirts that appear to be getting hot and heavy? I figure being a voyeur in this instance is ok, otherwise, they wouldn’t be doing it here, but to join in the flirting? Especially when it comes to someone who’s flirting with their RL flirt partner, is it better to just let it pass, even if the lady in question is perfectly sumptuous, or join in and hope for the best? -Doug ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/63 "2001-04-01T17:25:27Z")
**Totoro** - you’ve got the right place. Sorry about the smilies. We try to keep them out, but I’m afraid we have an infestation. 😃 See! There goes another one! So what do you need some tutoring/tips on? ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/64 "2001-04-01T17:39:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dublos \* > **Mmmm… gotta love a women who’s flexible… that way too 😉** But isn’t that the **only** way to be? 😉 > [@](#): > > **How about jumping into flirts that appear to be getting hot and heavy? I figure being a voyeur in this instance is ok, otherwise, they wouldn’t be doing it here, but to join in the flirting? Especially when it comes to someone who’s flirting with their RL flirt partner, is it better to just let it pass, even if the lady in question is perfectly sumptuous, or join in and hope for the best?** I’d say watch the interaction around them. Have you seen either of them in 3-some flirts before? If so, then certainly, go for it! Or have most of their flirts together **been** one on one things? Always remember, when in doubt, e-mail. It can’t ever hurt to ask! Sometimes the lady in question doesn’t mind flirting with five or six guys at a time in a thread, along with a flirt with her RL partner. (Look at me in this one! And my RL flirt partner just popped in and I flirted with him, too. But we’ve talked about situations like this, and he doesn’t want me to **stop** just because I’m flirting with him too. I’m sure we’re not the only ones like this) The best advice I can give is follow your instincts. You pick up on a lot of subtle little clues that your brain doesn’t realize. If the timing doesn’t feel right to you, don’t push it. If you question it later, e-mail and ask. If you jump in and things fizzle, keep it in mind for the next time that maybe jumping in with those two particular posters isn’t the best idea. Just learn from your fumbles. Just like everything, flirting is a learning experience. ---
**Author:** ![dublos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f08c70/32.png) [@dublos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dublos)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/65 "2001-04-01T17:49:53Z")
Very Good advice, thank you 😉 I think the last big question that leaves me with, is when is enough? A time to take the flirting to e-mail because it’s heading toward an online erotic story composed by two people, father then flirting? How Often do you think this is likely to be rebuffed? I am thinking that this step is best avoided for those ladies you know have a RL relationship, unless they initiate it, as interfearing with a real life relationship is a really bad thing in my veiw. “Bad form old Chap! Bad Form!” -Doug ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/66 "2001-04-01T18:17:29Z")
It’s hard to say exactly when enough is enough. I guess the best answer is when the both of you feel comfortable, or when you get an e-mail from someone saying “Enough’s enough!” As far as bringing it to e-mail… usually the best route to go is to drop an e-mail to the person you’re flirting with, thanking them for a wonderful time in the flirt. Try to feel out the e-mail situation, see where that leads. If you know they have an SO, ask them how they feel about online flirting. Sometimes the answers might surprise you. As long as you do it in fun, and take no for no, then roll with it and see where it gets you. You never know what kind of fun you can have with it online! Hope this really _is_ helping. ---
**Author:** ![Oicu812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f475e1/32.png) [@Oicu812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oicu812)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/67 "2001-04-01T18:18:56Z")
> [@](#): > > ## quote: > > ## Originally posted by Oicu812 Something NATURAL, of course… could you help me with that? > > I’m sure I can. As a matter of fact, I have this little button, that if you push it just right… Sure, how about this… _WOGGLE_ _WOGGLE_ (Gently at first, then build upward from there…) O ---
**Author:** ![Totoro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Totoro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Totoro)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/68 "2001-04-01T18:20:56Z")
I just think that somehow I missed out. I’ve been here for a little while now, and I still seem to be the one that no one wants around… or am I just not picking up any hints…? ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/69 "2001-04-01T18:25:34Z")
As an accomplished IRL flirt, the on-line thing has got me stalled. I’ve always relied on my eyes and my voice to send the messages, but now am limited, constricted, stymied! What’s a girl to do,Oh Pisces? ---
**Author:** ![dublos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f08c70/32.png) [@dublos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dublos)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/70 "2001-04-01T18:31:34Z")
Of course this is helping. One of the frustrating, and yet most enjoyable things about flirting, online or in real life, is the fact that it is much more of an art than a science. And it’s always nice when a true artist hold QA sessions to help out. \*And as a side note for all you other online voyeurs, jump in, join the fun! Ask questions or simply provide further examples for everyone to learn from! oh, you’re wondering why I’m instructing rather than our hostess? **Oh god, that’s FANTASTIC, please do that again and again!** Well, she’s a little preoccupied for the moment, I’m sure she’ll be back with you soon. **Oh, that’s the spot, yes!** Ahem, oh yes, now back to your regularly scheduled tutorial. **Just lay back for a little bit, it’s my turn now…** Ok, so it may be a little bit before she returns, amuse yourselves please 😉 \*\*now, where was I… oh, yea MMrrrphhh… Mmmmmmm… \*\* - ---
**Author:** ![dublos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f08c70/32.png) [@dublos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dublos)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/71 "2001-04-01T18:43:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cyn \* > \*\*As an accomplished IRL flirt, the on-line thing has got me stalled. I’ve always relied on my eyes and my voice to send the messages, but now am limited, constricted, stymied! What’s a girl to do,Oh Pisces? \*\* Cyn, that’s where you gotta get a little more direct… especially if the object of your flirtation is completely oblivious. Some of us guys just don’t even realize someone’s flirting with us half the time till the lady swings a virtual leg onto our lap and starts caressing our virual bicepts. If you really feel adding a visual element helps, there is always the [The People of The Straight Dope pages](http://www.geocities.com/sdpeoplepages/). All I can say on the subject is that I’ve certainly found inspiration there more than once 😉 Haven’t always followed up on it, but the inspiration was fun all by itself. **Totoro** , welcome to being totally oblivious. You’re definitely missing the hings, scroll back and try again 🙂 or just accept that you missed it, but are welcome to join in anyway. -Doug ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/72 "2001-04-01T18:56:13Z")
_rushes in, hair a mess, clothes dishevled_ Where was I? Oh yes… back to Flirting 101. Thank you, **dublos** for taking such good care of the class while we were… I mean, I was… um… Thank you for that little break in my schedule. You pass the class with flying colors! 😉 Now back to the business at tongue. [QUOTE] \*Originally posted by Oicu812 \* \*\* > [@](#): > > Sure, how about this… _WOGGLE_ _WOGGLE_ (Gently at first, then build upward from there…)\*\* Ummm… that’s the… I mean… I think you’ve… I mean… \You’ve got the _woggle_ down pat! ---
**Author:** ![Oicu812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f475e1/32.png) [@Oicu812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oicu812)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/73 "2001-04-01T18:58:58Z")
Then there is always the **Secret Weapon!** _Chuckles evilly and gleefully_ O ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/74 "2001-04-01T19:00:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Totoro \* > \*\*I just think that somehow I missed out. I’ve been here for a little while now, and I still seem to be the one that no one wants around… or am I just not picking up any hints…? \*\* Ok… where shall we start… How about I give you the same test I gave **Oicu812** No going back to look at his answers now. You’re in a thread where flirting is approrpiate. A woman you find attractive mentions that she just got her pussy snorkel in the mail. What do you say to her? (Hey, look where it got **O**! He’s almost ready to graduate! 😉 ) ---
**Author:** ![Oicu812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f475e1/32.png) [@Oicu812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oicu812)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/75 "2001-04-01T19:06:01Z")
With HONORS??? Woohoo? Would that make me the Valelicktorian? O ---
**Author:** ![Oicu812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f475e1/32.png) [@Oicu812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oicu812)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/76 "2001-04-01T19:07:47Z")
Or just Summa Cum Loudly? O ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/77 "2001-04-01T19:10:08Z")
**Cyn** - **dublos** has the best advice I can give you. And if the person you’re flirting with isn’t in the people pages, make up what you think they look like. Play the flirt out like a movie in your head. Watch in that mental movie theater what you and your flirt partner are doing… it helps keep the flirt going… and sometimes helps get it hotter and hotter!!! 🙂 And, yes, I’ve done this a time or two when I was stumped on what to say next!!! Oh, and sometimes, you may need to step away for a minute, give it a few before you reply. That’s the advantage of OL vs RL. You have time to think about your next move and decide whether it’s what you really want to do or not… ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/78 "2001-04-01T19:14:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Oicu812 \* > \*\*Then there is always the **Secret Weapon!** > > _Chuckles evilly and gleefully_\*\* And just where might that weapon be aimed? ---
**Author:** ![Oicu812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f475e1/32.png) [@Oicu812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oicu812)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/79 "2001-04-01T19:16:58Z")
How about somewhere like **HERE**? And would that be the time for the _wiggle_? ## O Vidi Vici Veni! ---
**Author:** ![dublos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f08c70/32.png) [@dublos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dublos)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2001, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347/80 "2001-04-01T19:17:08Z")
_Tucking his shirt in and smoothing his hair back down while licking his mustache, mmmmm_ Well, I’ve always thought that apples were a little over rated. A teacher that shows such depth of knowledge and enthusiasm for her chosen subject definitely deserves the best thanks a student can offer. 😉 Gotta run soon, but **Cyn** if you want some one on one instruction I’d be more than glad to help out when I return 😉 Hands on training is the only way to go you know. _why yes, I AM happy to see you, how could you tell? [sub]innocently glacning around[/sub]_ -Doug [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/truepisces-flirting-workshop-come-one-come-all/60347.md?page=5)