# Two weeks in, and I'm already tired of grieving.  When does it end?

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**Created:** [August 22, 2012, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/two-weeks-in-and-im-already-tired-of-grieving-when-does-it-end/632299 "2012-08-22T19:12:11Z")\
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**Author:** ![MLS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/919ad9/32.png) [@MLS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MLS)\
**Post date:** [August 23, 2012, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/two-weeks-in-and-im-already-tired-of-grieving-when-does-it-end/632299/21 "2012-08-23T16:34:56Z")

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> [@AHunter3](#):
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> \*\* hugs the ocelot \*\*  
> It doesn’t end. It tapers off but you’ll always feel some of it. That’s the cost of caring.

Ditto. I had a miscarriage at 18 weeks many decades ago. I still think about it from time to time. If that child had continued to term she would be having her 38th birthday next month. Her name would have been Jean.

I should have made use of grief counseling and I strongly suggest that you look into what’s available near you.

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**Author:** ![Greg\_Charles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/839c29/32.png) [@Greg\_Charles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greg_Charles)\
**Post date:** [August 23, 2012, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/two-weeks-in-and-im-already-tired-of-grieving-when-does-it-end/632299/22 "2012-08-23T17:51:31Z")

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I agree that grief doesn’t end so much as taper off, and two weeks isn’t really long enough for it to taper that much. The only thing you can really do is try to keep busy, or at least distracted, take what solace you can in the good things the world still contains, and just wait it out. Good luck MtO!

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**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\
**Post date:** [August 23, 2012, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/two-weeks-in-and-im-already-tired-of-grieving-when-does-it-end/632299/23 "2012-08-23T18:11:08Z")

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> [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](#):
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> …I want to be able to move on, I want to be able to accept that I won’t have children-of-the-body and discuss rationally with Husband the idea of adoption (which might not even be an option, depending) or remaining a family-of-two.

**Maggie** , you’ve got a lot more going on than just the immediate loss you’ve suffered. I don’t know what your fertility situation is, but it may be helpful to you to try to find a way to separate your worries about your future options from your grief over this miscarriage. Indeed, your grief over this loss may be clouding your view of your future. Please give yourself time to deal with your loss before thinking too hard about next steps.

Besides, your husband may not be any more ready to talk about the future than you are. How’s he doing?

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