# \*Update\*: My Mom (Part 5,083,375) -or- This is the last time, I swear **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 12, 2000, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240 "2000-12-12T21:38:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/1 "2000-12-12T21:38:52Z")
I wasn’t going to do this because I had assumed long ago that people were mildly irritated with the topic but, since I’ve gotten a few emails questioning me about my mom’s condition, I decided to start a thread. She had her surgery, as planned, on December 8th. The doctors found no cancer but they did confirm their suspicions that the ulcer had gotten into her pancreas. They were able to get it all out and my mom is expected to recover nicely. She wound up needing a blood transfusion on the 11th. She received two units of blood. That went fine. In January she has to go back for a second operation, a hysterectomy. Once she recovers from that, she’ll (hopefully) be as good as new. Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to follow my mom’s progress and care about her and my family. I’ll never be able to tell you how much every post, good thought, prayer, or email message I’ve received since Garfield226 started the [first thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=44310) means to me. Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/2 "2000-12-12T21:52:17Z")
A few more things. My mom could come home as early as tomorrow or as late as Friday. We aren’t sure yet. And, since **Hotmail** _sucks ass_, I’ve changed my email address to [xxslvrfirexx@yahoo.com](mailto:xxslvrfirexx@yahoo.com). No, the Xs don’t mean porn ( :rolleyes: 😃 ), but slvrfire, silverfire, and silver\_fire were all already taken. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![screech-owl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@screech-owl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/screech-owl)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/3 "2000-12-12T21:53:20Z")
Did someone say they were irritated, whether mildly or not?!?! Fergodssakes, shame on him/her/them, as well as a boot to the head to him/her/them! Please do keep the rest of us updated. Hugs to both of you, and my best thoughts to you both. (And I’ll be donating at the blood bank again on Friday. I’ll be thinking of your mom.) ---
**Author:** ![Serendipity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Serendipity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serendipity)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/4 "2000-12-12T21:55:25Z")
(((((((Silver Fire and family)))))))) I’m so glad to hear that the surgery went well. I hope she recovers quickly and that you’ll all be able to have a nice holiday season together. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Max\_Torque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Max\_Torque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_Torque)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/5 "2000-12-12T21:56:00Z")
Big ol’ hugs to Silver Fire and the Silvermom! Glad everything’s going so much better for you, darlin’. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Zero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c4cdca/32.png) [@Saint\_Zero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Zero)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/6 "2000-12-12T22:03:21Z")
Nice to you your mom is doing better. Always nice to know the light at the end of the tunnel isn’t an oncoming train. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Melpomene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/0ea827/32.png) [@Melpomene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melpomene)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/7 "2000-12-12T22:07:26Z")
{{{Silver Fire and adoptee-mommy}}} That sucks. Miserably. For you and for her. I do wish you the best SF…I’ll send some happy thoughts out into the void for you two. Keep us updated on her progress. Let us know when the date of the Hysto will be. What a good thing that they cleared everything else out, eh? {@}-\>–\>\>---- All the best, Melpy ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/8 "2000-12-12T22:09:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by screech-owl \* > **Did someone say they were irritated, whether mildly or not?!?!** Not in so many words. ---
**Author:** ![zyzzyva](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b77776/32.png) [@zyzzyva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zyzzyva)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/9 "2000-12-12T22:11:28Z")
That’s great news, Silver. Glad to know everything’s going well. 🙂 _madhugs_ ---
**Author:** ![absoul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bc8723/32.png) [@absoul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/absoul)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/10 "2000-12-12T22:22:15Z")
Glad to hear everything is working out for you and your mom. ((((silver and mom)))) Please keep updating us on this, it is truly noble to care about others. > [@](#): > > Did someone say they were irritated, whether mildly or not?!?! > > Fergodssakes, shame on him/her/them, as well as a boot to the head to him/her/them! If we find out who… we’ll roast em’ alive like the pigs they are… hmmm that sounds kind of good. Maybe with a little sipcy garlic and barbeque sauce. ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/11 "2000-12-12T22:33:40Z")
Wonderful news hon. I was concerned but haven’t had the net time or access to write. {{{{{silver}}}}} So you’re doing better now too? ---
**Author:** ![deb2world](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7cd45c/32.png) [@deb2world](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/deb2world)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/12 "2000-12-12T22:33:40Z")
Hey Silverfire it is nice to hear such good news. Those who tell you they are tired of it just don’t know how to feel good, so rasberries for them! pththpth. Keep us up to date on how she is doing. I will continue to keep you in my prayers. deb ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/13 "2000-12-12T22:53:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dpr \* > \*\*So you’re doing better now too? \*\* Eh, I’m okay. I feel bad because I haven’t gone to visit her yet, but she understands. Hearing her voice on the phone is hard enough for me, the way she sounds so tired and weak. I’m not hearing clock chimes anymore (see the thread I linked to in the OP) or any other imaginary sounds. I was totally emotionless about the whole thing for a while, but now I’m “allowing” myself to be upset. (Well, right now I’m kind of happy.) I’ll say with absolute confidence that I will be fine. Right now I just want my mom to come home. Too bad I won’t be able to hug her though. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/14 "2000-12-12T23:11:15Z")
Aww…don’t worry, Silver, soon there will come a time when you can hug your mother. _still waiting for the day she can hug her own parent without contraptions and things getting in the way_ As for now, my limited ways only allow me cyber hugs. (((((((Silver and Silver-Mommy))))))) ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/15 "2000-12-12T23:30:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Silver Fire \* > \*\*I’ve changed my email address to [xxslvrfirexx@yahoo.com](mailto:xxslvrfirexx@yahoo.com). \*\* Okay, there’s that one and [xxsilverfirexx@yahoo.com](mailto:xxsilverfirexx@yahoo.com). Nope, those Xs don’t mean porn either. Thanks for the hugs, guys. {{{{You people}}}} ---
**Author:** ![magdalene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df788c/32.png) [@magdalene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/magdalene)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/16 "2000-12-12T23:37:52Z")
I’m glad to hear things are going to be okay, m’dear. Did YOU go to the doctor? ::tapping foot in a mom-like manner:: How’s the cough? ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2000, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/17 "2000-12-12T23:43:08Z")
No, I never went to the doctor. ☹ But I’m okay, really. The cough went away, the fever went down, my back is no longer swollen, and I can move my head again. (To everyone who may be a bit confused; I was coughing, I had a pretty high fever, my back was swollen, and my neck hurt so bad I couldn’t move my head. Obviously.) Heh. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2000, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/18 "2000-12-13T01:23:31Z")
i’m glad to hear your mom is healing. poo on those that mumble on updates. updates are very important. how else will we know whether the prayers/vibes are working? keep them up. ---
**Author:** ![Wicked\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@Wicked\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wicked_Blue)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2000, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/19 "2000-12-13T02:17:28Z")
Glad to hear things are looking good, Silver 🙂 Rose ---
**Author:** ![reprise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@reprise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/reprise)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2000, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240/20 "2000-12-13T02:32:53Z")
What great news. Is it OK if we send your mum some “thinking of you” or “you go girl” type cards? And hey - I’m sure that your mum really appreciates how much you have been there for her. You certainly get my vote for the SDMB ‘kid of the week/month/year’ gold star. Hope that you and your mum have a great Christmas, and if there is anything I can do to make it better, just email me. K? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-my-mom-part-5-083-375-or-this-is-the-last-time-i-swear/45240.md?page=2)