# Update:  Odd relationship with a fellow gamer

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-odd-relationship-with-a-fellow-gamer/267877>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [October 6, 2004, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-odd-relationship-with-a-fellow-gamer/267877 "2004-10-06T17:20:10Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Agent\_Foxtrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc29f/32.png) [@Agent\_Foxtrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Agent_Foxtrot)\
**Post date:** [October 6, 2004, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-odd-relationship-with-a-fellow-gamer/267877/1 "2004-10-06T17:20:10Z")

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In [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=269276) thread, I posted that I was having a bit of a difficult issue with another player of Final Fantasy XI. **World Eater** asked for updates on the last post, so here it is.

The weirdness is over. I started acting towards her the same way she acts towards me: distant. I stopped asking her to do things with me, stopped sending her tells (even just to ask how she’s doing), and barely gave more than a nod when she made an appearance in the linkshell. This seemed to work out great. She’s a bit friendlier to me now than she used to be, and I got over **needing** her to be around me. Every once in a while we’ll have a small “How you doin’?”, but not much more than that is needed. I feel comfortable around her; I feel comfortable not around her. Life is good.

Adam

P.S. - **Gravity** , I’m sorry you and your SO left the game, but I understand why. If you ever feel like coming back, you’ll have a friend waiting for you. 🙂

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**Author:** ![Chairman\_Pow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/838e76/32.png) [@Chairman\_Pow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chairman_Pow)\
**Post date:** [October 7, 2004, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-odd-relationship-with-a-fellow-gamer/267877/2 "2004-10-07T01:24:39Z")

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So, like, have you asked her out yet?

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**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\
**Post date:** [October 7, 2004, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/update-odd-relationship-with-a-fellow-gamer/267877/3 "2004-10-07T03:37:42Z")

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Moving this from IMHO to MPSIMS.