# UTIs and other crap - August Minirants! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 1, 2011, 9:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020 "2011-08-01T09:10:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 24
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [August 25, 2011, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/461 "2011-08-25T20:48:24Z")
> [@SnakesCatLady](#): > > My stomach is stupid. It does not work like a normal stomach. Instead of going from “not hungry” to “I could eat” to “I’m hungry” to “I’m really hungry”, it goes from “not hungry” straight to “OMG I’m gonna throw up if I don’t eat something”. And if I don’t, I get dry heaves. > > I hate my stomach. I thought I was the only one who did this. I feel your pain, sister. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [August 25, 2011, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/462 "2011-08-25T20:49:48Z")
Lots of constant, tiny snacks, **SnakesCatLady** - it’s the only way to go. Mine’s the same way. \*\* hands **SnakesCatLady** a saltine \*\* ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [August 25, 2011, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/463 "2011-08-25T22:05:48Z")
> [@kushiel](#): > > Are you fucking kidding me? You’re 24 years old and you’ve been living with your boyfriend for, what, 3 years now, and you can’t stand to be without him for more than one day? > > My friend, CC, has a boyfriend named JJ. CC and JJ were supposed to travel to my city to visit me last weekend. Then a family emergency came up for JJ, and of course I wasn’t mad about it. I thought CC was going with JJ to support him. Then I found out she never actually went with him, and the only reason she didn’t come to see me by herself was because she couldn’t bear another day without him. > > That’s high school drama right there, but I shrugged it off. Then last night CC asked me if she was crazy for feeling jealous of having to share JJ with his friends. As in, his friends come over and want to engage in their hobbies CC doesn’t share. Well? Don’t leave us hanging. What did you say? And then what did she say? ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [August 25, 2011, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/464 "2011-08-25T22:44:19Z")
While I hate that anyone has to share this misery, I am glad I’m not the only one! ---
**Author:** ![Catamount](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/catamount/32/2840_2.png) [@Catamount](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Catamount)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/465 "2011-08-26T01:06:50Z")
> [@kushiel](#): > > Then last night CC asked me if she was crazy for feeling jealous of having to share JJ with his friends. As in, his friends come over and want to engage in their hobbies CC doesn’t share. ::: **RED ALERT RED ALERT** ::: I know she’s your friend and all, but that’s some crazy potential stalker talk right there. I hope CC is prepared for JJ to dump her on the curb one day for being smothering. I hope you told her that. She probably won’t listen because they luv each other, but at least someone will have said _something_. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Girlfriend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.girlfriend/32/193_2.png) [@Dr.Girlfriend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Girlfriend)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/466 "2011-08-26T01:10:59Z")
> [@SnakesCatLady](#): > > My stomach is stupid. It does not work like a normal stomach. Instead of going from “not hungry” to “I could eat” to “I’m hungry” to “I’m really hungry”, it goes from “not hungry” straight to “OMG I’m gonna throw up if I don’t eat something”. And if I don’t, I get dry heaves. > > I hate my stomach. I hear ya… I go from “not hungry” to “shakes” to “gonna pass out” in minutes sometimes. I’ve got candy stashes if anyone needs some. ---
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/467 "2011-08-26T02:11:12Z")
Yesterday, during my Fundamentals of Linux class (which I am taking because even though I’ve run an Ubuntu desktop system for two years now, I have a lot of gaps in my understanding, and I’m trying to get more job skills), the CompSci department’s IT man came in to explain how to create a virtual machine to run multiple flavors of Linux on a Windows box, how Deep Freeze is installed on all the machines, so don’t save anything to the C drive, it’ll be gone by midnight, and how the public drive was safe but was mapped to individual computers, not user names, so sit at the same machine every day or get a flash drive. And the teacher told me I was typing too loud. While I took notes on a lecture and demo _she_ didn’t have the ability to give, after she’d spent 30 minutes during lab time having a lengthy, loud discussion about vacations and air travel with a student, and when it’s already painfully apparent that at least three people in the class have much more extensive experience in the industry than her and half of us have better communication skills. But, I was typing too loud, and it bothered her. ---
**Author:** ![curlcoat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea5d25/32.png) [@curlcoat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/curlcoat)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/468 "2011-08-26T03:36:09Z")
> [@SnakesCatLady](#): > > My stomach is stupid. It does not work like a normal stomach. Instead of going from “not hungry” to “I could eat” to “I’m hungry” to “I’m really hungry”, it goes from “not hungry” straight to “OMG I’m gonna throw up if I don’t eat something”. And if I don’t, I get dry heaves. > > I hate my stomach. Mine tends to do that as well. If you ever find out why this happens, be sure to share! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 7:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/469 "2011-08-26T07:17:17Z")
You ladies are making me feel extremely grateful that my own stomach doesn’t behave like that. ---
**Author:** ![emmaliminal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7bcc69/32.png) [@emmaliminal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emmaliminal)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/470 "2011-08-26T12:59:57Z")
> [@SnakesCatLady](#): > > While I hate that anyone has to share this misery, I am glad I’m not the only one! Count me as another one. I rarely actually heave, but I often just get stupider and stupider, less and less able to make decisions (like “OK, time to eat now!”), and trembly. I recommend finding a caring and tolerant spouse who is willing to remind you that food = good and even put some in your hand; it’s working wonders for me. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/471 "2011-08-26T13:40:45Z")
My daughter is having some sort of eating problem right now (possibly anorexia but it’s not been officially diagnosed). And I’m really not doing too well with the caring, tolerant putting food in her hand thing. She was home all day yesterday and “forgot” to eat, so I blew up. I thought I would be nice and understanding if anything like this ever cropped up, but it’s sort of pissing me off that I have to mind this twenty year old round the clock. She doesn’t think it’s any big deal. ---
**Author:** ![Filbert](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/filbert/32/3433_2.png) [@Filbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Filbert)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/472 "2011-08-26T14:08:07Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > Do let us know if that bit works out for you. Sorry, didn’t notice this- he was overly brightly polite, and barely spoke to me. Could be worse, but I suspect he’s just waiting to get me alone again before the ranty side comes out… Which won’t happen if I have any say at all. Looks like I have a low level slipped disk, and have another month of doing nothing at all courtesy of the doctors. And I’m already bored. Other ranty thing of the day, I just realised yesterday that the annoying cow allotment neighbour not only dug a path across my plot, (wobbly, too wide, not on the boundary and it’s not something she should ever have done without asking me anyway) she’s also sprayed the mess she’s dug up with broad spectrum weedkiller, on the plot I’m gardening organically. So now even if I do make my own path as I wanted, in the place I wanted (and I have paving slabs ready to lay, just can’t lift them with my back as it is), I won’t be able to use that ground for ages. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/473 "2011-08-26T14:15:40Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > My daughter is having some sort of eating problem right now (possibly anorexia but it’s not been officially diagnosed). And I’m really not doing too well with the caring, tolerant putting food in her hand thing. She was home all day yesterday and “forgot” to eat, so I blew up. I thought I would be nice and understanding if anything like this ever cropped up, but it’s sort of pissing me off that I have to mind this twenty year old round the clock. She doesn’t think it’s any big deal. As a former sufferer of eating disorders, yelling at her will quite possibly make it worse. You need to get her in to and doctor and therapy ASAP. Eating disorders are fatal, and it can happen faster then you think. She might not be skin and bones yet, but depending on what she’s doing (purging, laxatives, ephedrines, etc.), she could be doing major, irreversible, deadly damage on the inside. It sort of sounds like you’re in denial or something. I mean, if she had a tumor growing out of her head or a large, oddly shaped mole on her arm, would you not take her in to the doctor even if she denied that it bothered her or got angry and/or unresponsive if you brought it up? ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/474 "2011-08-26T14:23:19Z")
She is seeing doctors. One has prescribed a pill to help her appetite (along with an antidepressant). I just don’t have much faith that she can remember to take a pill if she can’t remember to eat. I also don’t like having to solve this problem with pills if it could be solved with food. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/475 "2011-08-26T14:34:01Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > She is seeing doctors. One has prescribed a pill to help her appetite (along with an antidepressant). I just don’t have much faith that she can remember to take a pill if she can’t remember to eat. I also don’t like having to solve this problem with pills **if it could be solved with food**. Said like someone who has no clue about eating disorders. It has nothing to do with food and everything to do with control. I agree pills aren’t the answer - she needs to get in to a psychologist that specializes in eating disorders. Food ain’t going to cut it. You could shove it down her throat, threaten to take things away, threaten to cut off contact, whatever, she’s a drug addict, and her drug of choice is the feeling of an empty stomach. Here, take a look at this: [Something Fishy](http://www.something-fishy.org/). It’s a website for those suffering from eating disorders, and for the families of those suffering. This is where my husband went when I was going through everything and it helped him gain perspective. He also tried to just ‘get me to eat’ and ‘stop throwing up’ and ‘stop exercising so much’. Doesn’t work that way, and he figured out pretty quick that therapy was the best answer (and it worked). ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/476 "2011-08-26T15:01:08Z")
She is getting proper treatment, but I can’t help being angry at her. Thanks for the link, I’ll do some reading there. ---
**Author:** ![kushiel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbce88/32.png) [@kushiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kushiel)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/477 "2011-08-26T15:02:39Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > Well? Don’t leave us hanging. What did you say? > > And then what did she say? Nothing - this is her one big flaw, and no one is perfect. I just needed to let out this one frustration in the Pit, ha ha. > [@SpazCat](#): > > ::: **RED ALERT RED ALERT** ::: > > I know she’s your friend and all, but that’s some crazy potential stalker talk right there. I hope CC is prepared for JJ to dump her on the curb one day for being smothering. I hope you told her that. She probably won’t listen because they luv each other, but at least someone will have said _something_. JJ has been putting up with this going on 4 years, and I think he kind of likes it. CC and JJ are big geeks and sometimes I think JJ thinks that, hey, this girl doesn’t mind the spare bedroom being taken over by RPG paraphernalia! Plus I did list her big flaw with none of her good qualities. She treats him like a king, and he’s her knight in shining armor. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/478 "2011-08-26T16:35:37Z")
I was already running on a razor edge of timing today, having to split my lunch break in half and trying to be three places at once … and now my FUCKING CAR WON’T START!!! I think I can officially flush today down the toilet. Weekend: hurry the hell up. Sorry 'bout your daughter, though, **DungBeetle.** ---
**Author:** ![Bri2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/48db29/32.png) [@Bri2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bri2k)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/479 "2011-08-26T19:19:24Z")
Why oh why in the name of Og would you put the touch on me to store your enormous friggin’ piece of furniture the size of THREE industrial refrigerators in the basement of my tiny cottage when you have a your own _house_?! It’s bad enough the landlord’s kid wants to come over to clean out the basement but just because I rent a parking space off you doesn’t give you the right to make unreasonable requests that just stress me out. Oh and you only want to keep it here “until it’s sold”. How long might that be? Grrrrr…at least I have a place to vent. Thanks, SDMB! Bri2k ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2011, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020/480 "2011-08-26T20:54:50Z")
Menopause sucks. With loud slurping sounds. Some of the guys on my hockey team are playing a charity game of “Beep Ball” (baseball for the visually handicapped) tonight. I am going, and I am dreading it. It’s so fricking hot out there and my internal thermostat is broken. Waaaaaah. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020.md?page=23) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/utis-and-other-crap-august-minirants/591020.md?page=25)