# Vacation from your partner, anyone else? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 20, 2014, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206 "2014-06-20T14:21:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![seal\_cleaner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@seal\_cleaner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seal_cleaner)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/21 "2014-06-21T00:03:58Z")
I get away for about a week a year to meet my siblings for an NFL game (usually Bears). My wife was initially dubious (her first husband was serially unfaithful) but she’s fine with it now. ---
**Author:** ![mcgato](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac8455/32.png) [@mcgato](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mcgato)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/22 "2014-06-21T00:17:00Z")
> [@DummyGladHands](#): > > And your point is…? Often separate vacations are a sign that the relationship is not healthy. If the relationship is not healthy, a separate vacation can lead to infidelity. Was that not obvious? ---
**Author:** ![Ca3799](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9f8e36/32.png) [@Ca3799](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ca3799)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/23 "2014-06-21T02:01:39Z")
I frequently travel without my spouse. In fact, I’m leaving tomorrow for 4 days with the kids and without my husband. He reacted badly the first time, but has adjusted well since. We sometime go together but more often than not, it’s the kids and I and him at home. Sometimes we travel at the same time but to different places and doing different things, but usually one stay home to care for the pets. The dogs hate the kennel. Neither of us are bothered by it. We don’t really enjoy the same vacation activities. He likes theme parks, I like dude ranches. He likes motorcycling. I do not. He likes camping. I like hotels and exploring new cities. I love having a whole hotel bed to myself for a couple of days, but also look forward to sharing with him again soon. ---
**Author:** ![Ca3799](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9f8e36/32.png) [@Ca3799](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ca3799)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/24 "2014-06-21T02:04:23Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > I’m going to be vacationing apart from my spousal unit for 4 weeks. But it’s not to get away from him. My mom and I are doing a 4-week cruise and he wasn’t interested in going. > > He goes on trips with his Harley chapter and since I mostly hate motorcycles, I stay home. If it’s close enough, I might follow him in the car, but I’d rather be home alone with the critters than hang out with bikers who can’t understand that I do \*not \*like to ride and no, I wouldn’t get hooked if I rode myself. Been there, done that, didn’t like it. > > Sorry - it’s a touchy subject. 😃 Gah- I hate the motorcycle, especially as the rider. No radio, no book, and only the back of a helmet to look at. Noisy. I tried using ear plugs with my iPhone but couldn’t hear over the wind and motor noise. Dull, dull, dull. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/25 "2014-06-21T02:24:02Z")
> [@DummyGladHands](#): > > And your point is…? Florida: it’s not the heat, it’s the humidity. Was that not obvious? ---
**Author:** ![C\_K\_Dexter\_Haven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b2d939/32.png) [@C\_K\_Dexter\_Haven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C_K_Dexter_Haven)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 11:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/26 "2014-06-21T11:46:42Z")
My wife usually spends a week each summer with two of her old friends. We both enjoy the breather, but neither of us would be happy if it were more than a week. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/27 "2014-06-21T15:13:38Z")
I’m taking a vacation from my wife in the form of us living in separate cities and filing for divorce. ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2014, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/28 "2014-06-21T15:19:24Z")
No need but she’s very claustrophobic. If I fly somewhere I go alone, there’s no way she’s getting on a plane much less through the crowds at security. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/29 "2014-06-23T02:30:04Z")
I have taken several trips without my wife. I enjoy outdoors and active type vacations like bike touring and backpacking, and she is not into those things. I have also started taking trips with individually with my kids to do satisfy some specific interest. We always prioritize the family vacation over those things, tho. I wish, wish, wish she would do some traveling with/to friends once in a while on her own, but she never has and probably never will take any trips without me there. ---
**Author:** ![Superhal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Superhal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superhal)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 7:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/30 "2014-06-23T07:49:22Z")
Yep. We have a dog so we can’t vacation together. I liked it so much I left her and filed for divorce. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/31 "2014-06-23T08:08:14Z")
You left your wife for your dog? What do you and the dog DO together? :eek: ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 9:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/32 "2014-06-23T09:23:39Z")
My husband and I do a fair amount of business travel and whilst we miss each other, I do enjoy having a bit of time alone at home. We wouldn’t want to spend our vacation time without each other though. ---
**Author:** ![Cunctator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/43a26b/32.png) [@Cunctator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cunctator)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 9:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/33 "2014-06-23T09:31:23Z")
Once we children were out of the house, my parents always used to have several weeks’ holiday apart from each other every year. They always said it was the secret to the success of their marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Superhal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Superhal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superhal)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/34 "2014-06-23T10:39:52Z")
> [@tracer](#): > > You left your wife for your dog? What do you and the dog DO together? :eek: She kept the dog. ---
**Author:** ![Zulema](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/db5fbb/32.png) [@Zulema](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zulema)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/35 "2014-06-23T15:34:04Z")
I like being alone at home but I wouldn’t want to go on a vacation without my husband or children; they are the people I want to share new things with. My husband traveled for work at least half of every year for 15 years of our marriage. I learned to enjoy him being gone. He doesn’t travel at all anymore and I wish he did. He is the type of person who needs to talk just to fill quiet spaces in time and I am the type of person who doesn’t like to chat about nothing so we are conversationally incompatible. His constant need to talk is what I need the biggest break from. ---
**Author:** ![SylverOne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c0e974/32.png) [@SylverOne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SylverOne)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/36 "2014-06-23T18:15:44Z")
My husband and I typically take 3 vacations a year from our jobs. One is usually spent around the house, maybe camping nearby for a portion of it, but otherwise staying close to home. A second is for traveling; Las Vegas, Oregon, Tahoe, Alaska or where ever. We have fun, we spend time together, we like to do similar things so it all works out. The third is usually scheduled in November during hunting season… he goes with his buddies up north to hunting camp and spends a week drinking, gambling, not showering and killing deer. I stay home and relish the quiet, read, watch my movies and only cook or eat when I get hungry. Sometimes I’ll paint a room, or do some other home improvement project because I don’t have him hanging over my shoulder telling me how he’d do it. (And vise versa - I’m a control freak!) Sometimes I’ll take a side trip with my mom, and we go to Deadwood, or Boise to see my niece and nephew. I love my husband, but I value my time away from him and I’m sure he appreciates his time away from me. I do miss him while we’re apart, our house feels empty without him. But just because we’re married doesn’t mean we have to be chained at the hip 24/7. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/37 "2014-06-23T22:44:24Z")
> [@SylverOne](#): > > I love my husband, but I value my time away from him and I’m sure he appreciates his time away from me. I do miss him while we’re apart, our house feels empty without him. But just because we’re married doesn’t mean we have to be chained at the hip 24/7. My friend gave me a keeper quote one time: “How can I miss you if you dont go away?”. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2014, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/38 "2014-06-23T23:41:43Z")
> [@snowthx](#): > > My friend gave me a keeper quote one time: “How can I miss you if you dont go away?”. 😃 You’re friends with Dan Hicks!? Cool! ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2014, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/39 "2014-06-24T00:54:37Z")
My husband and I are fine with doing stuff separately. Occasionally he goes away for a weekend on a motorbike trip with the dudes, and I’ll indulge myself with hours of Diablo and fried chicken. But I don’t know if we’d ever take completely separate vacations. We get so little time together as it is. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2014, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206/40 "2014-06-24T01:24:45Z")
My Dearly Beloved and I travel for work too much already. We vacation together. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vacation-from-your-partner-anyone-else/691206.md?page=3)