# Vagina tightness
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069
**Category:** Factual Questions
**Created:** [December 20, 2002, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069 "2002-12-20T18:35:19Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@sarahsarah83](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sarahsarah83)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/1 "2002-12-20T18:35:19Z")
Hello, I’ve been reading for quite some time but finally just decided to post this question.
I am a sexually active 19 year old but have a problem with the tightness of my vagina. I don’t have a problem with ‘getting wet’, in fact it is very well lubricated with uh… my natural juices. My problem is that my vagina is so tight that it is somewhat uncomfortable having sex. Is there anyway that I can ‘loosen up’ more? Like I said, I get very wet, so I don’t think it is a problem with being excited or not. It’s just that I guess I have a naturally tight vagina.
Anybody have any suggestions on how to resolve this?
Thanks!
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### Author:  [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/2 "2002-12-20T18:38:30Z")
Oh, neat! A companion thread to “Help! There’s a gorgeous woman after me!”
I’ve been on the other end of this situation several times. I’ll let the ladies provide some solutions before I try to translate mine to text.
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### Author:  [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/3 "2002-12-20T18:41:43Z")
Uh oh, I foresee a lot of posts offering one-on-one help with the situation.
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### Author:  [@LolaCocaCola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaCocaCola)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/4 "2002-12-20T18:41:51Z")
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> \*Originally posted by sarahsarah83 \*
> **Anybody have any suggestions on how to resolve this?**
Date a needledick?
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### Author:  [@Rhum\_Runner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhum_Runner)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/5 "2002-12-20T18:44:52Z")
This is certainly one way to make an entrance…
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> Uh oh, I foresee a lot of posts offering one-on-one help with the situation.
**sarahsarah83** How YOU doin’?
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### Author:  [@Raymond\_Luxury\_Yacht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Raymond_Luxury_Yacht)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/6 "2002-12-20T18:45:33Z")
\ Best. OP. Ever.\
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### Author:  [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/7 "2002-12-20T18:46:31Z")
Um…I’d say…
First, this thread will get A LOT of “views”.
Second, I don’t know, maybe try to ease yourself into things with a “plastic man”.
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### Author:  [@Waverly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waverly)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/8 "2002-12-20T18:50:22Z")
Oh lord. You forgot to include your measurements here, and the fact that you are a blue (or green) eyed blonde.
If you happen to be serious, the condition sounds like Vaginismus:
[link](http://my.webmd.com/content/miller_keane/114/miller_keane_34919.htm?lastselectedguid=%7B5FE84E90-BC77-4056-A91C-9531713CA348%7D)
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### Author:  [@FyreFiend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FyreFiend)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/9 "2002-12-20T18:58:45Z")
Does having your lover start with a finger and working his way up help?
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### Author:  [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/10 "2002-12-20T19:05:00Z")
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> \*Originally posted by FyreFiend \*
> \*\*Does having your lover start with a finger and working his way up help? \*\*
Sure is hard to take this thread seriously with people making straight lines like that.
Umm, let’s see. Have you tried various positions? Some favor the larger gentleman (kneeling, knees up, etc.).
Have you experienced orgasm through foreplay before moving on to the main event? That can relax things somewhat.
Speaking of the larger gentleman… how large are we talking about, here? Maybe it’s not so much that you’re undersized, he might be a little too gifted…
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### Author:  [@Zazie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zazie)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/11 "2002-12-20T19:06:38Z")
Is it possible that even being wet, you are not that relaxed because not too comfortable yet with the person?
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### Author:  [@Eats\_Crayons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eats_Crayons)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/12 "2002-12-20T19:12:45Z")
Like, little boys in a locker room :rolleyes: 🙂
In addition to **Waverly’s** post, here’s another serious answer. Check with a doctor first, just to rule out anything wrong. If there’s not and it’s just a “matter of size” you may visit a “just for her” kind of store to see if there is are any interesting products out there.
TMI WARNING, really, I mean it:
[sub]And if the OP isn’t for real, this may kill the mood[/sub]
I had a discussion once with someone who had recently undergone gender re-assignment surgery. The recovery period did include a regimen of dilations sessions – basically, she’d have to insert a type of dildo (I’m sure there’s a more clinical scientific term, but whatever) with a specific diameter for a specified period of time. Over a course of weeks, the diameter of the dildo was increased as was the length of each session. This was to prevent collapse of the newly-constructed vaginal interior.
She can now have sex normally, but she said started out pretty “tight” at first (though a lot of that was the healing process of the radical surgery.)
I’m not saying you would ever have to go through such great efforts. Women come in different shapes and sizes. One of my ex girlfriends (lesbian, remember) had been with men until she came out in her 20s. Fifteen years later, she said she was diffinitely _ahem_ “smaller” and noticeably tighter, than she had been back in the day when she was dating men.
So if your “active” status is more or less recent, it coudl be as simple as your body not being accustomed to it.
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### Author:  [@kip70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kip70)
#### Post date: [December 20, 2002, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/13 "2002-12-20T19:25:32Z")
Hi Sarah,
I had a girlfriend with this problem. She was helped by massaging her inside regularly with a bit of almond oil for a while.
Here’s another link just in case it might be your muscles contracting which make you tight:
[http://www.medfriendly.com/vaginismus.html](http://www.medfriendly.com/vaginismus.html)
Although with a real case of vaginismus (have known a girl with that too…) it’s difficult or even impossible to get one finger in. So I don’t think you have that. Maybe it’s a combination of a bit of tension, and a bit of ‘stretching’ still to do.
Good luck!
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### Author:  [@1kBR\_Kid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/1kBR_Kid)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2002, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/14 "2002-12-21T03:20:24Z")
“I never thought this would happen to me…”
But seriously, am I the only cynic in the crowd? Sarah’s first post is about how tight she is. At SDMB. Come on now.
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### Author:  [@FyreFiend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FyreFiend)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2002, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/15 "2002-12-21T03:25:38Z")
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> \*Originally posted by Ethilrist \*
> \*\*Sure is hard to take this thread seriously with people making straight lines like that.
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I was serious. My girlfriend had the OP’s problem in the past and lots of foreplay, stating slowly with a finger, then two, etc has helped her.
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### Author:  [@Ariadne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ariadne)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2002, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/16 "2002-12-21T04:09:05Z")
Having an orgasm before intercourse can help a lot. You might think you’re wet enough, but the extra moisture does help.
So, do you detest pap smears as much as I do? I’m buying my birth control pills online now to avoid having one.
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### Author:  [@cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cherry)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2002, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/17 "2002-12-21T05:01:46Z")
I think you should go to a doctor or gynaecologist.
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### Author:  [@js\_africanus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/js_africanus)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2002, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/18 "2002-12-21T05:29:05Z")
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> \*Originally posted by sarahsarah83 \*
> **somewhat uncomfortable…**
To what extent is that an understatement? I has a pain in a testicle that was “somewhat” uncomfortable and it turned out to be cancer. I’m sure you have nothing so severe, but the point is that you should talk to your ob-gyn and not the message board. Don’t bother being too shy to ask the doctor–life’s too short for that.
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### Author:  [@whistlepig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whistlepig)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2002, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/19 "2002-12-21T05:33:26Z")
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> \*Originally posted by 1kBR Kid \*
> \*\*“I never thought this would happen to me…”
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> But seriously, am I the only cynic in the crowd? Sarah’s first post is about how tight she is. At SDMB. Come on now. \*\*
It is a documented medical problem. Give her the benefit of the doubt until there is evidence that it wasn’t a legitimate post.
Whistlepig
But if some guy posts with, “I’m too big” . . .
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### Author:  [@elucidator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elucidator)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2002, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/20 "2002-12-21T05:47:16Z")
Never. I’m much too shy for that.
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