# Vagina tightness **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [December 20, 2002, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069 "2002-12-20T18:35:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Primaflora](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Primaflora](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Primaflora)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2002, 5:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/41 "2002-12-22T05:44:53Z")
I’m bewildered how someone is able to afford to go to sex shops and buy dildoes but can’t afford a women’s health clinic. You need to see a doctor or hcp for regular checks. ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2002, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/42 "2002-12-23T21:15:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by sarahsarah83 \* > **Anyway, I do not have medical insurance, so I will not be able to go to the doctor. I think instead I shall try various sized inserts over a period of time. Is there a kit for such a thing, or am I supposed to just go to the sex shop and say, "I’ll have one of those, one of those, and one of those…"** Now there is an interesting picture. 😃 Just as a general piece of advice, you probably want to stop somewhere before The Nightstick. ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2002, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/43 "2002-12-23T22:27:12Z")
uh, TMI alert… i’m in a long distance relationship, and find that for the first day or two when i see my guy things are very uncomfortable. i’m talking actual pain and blood and stuff. by the end of the week it’s all good though (we’re a once or twice daily couple). so my advice is… drink a couple of glasses of wine, grit your teeth and just get it on. lots. ---
**Author:** ![JillGat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9fc29f/32.png) [@JillGat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JillGat)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2002, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/44 "2002-12-24T01:46:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by malkavia \* > \*\*\ > > Where do you order BC pills from online? I’ve been looking for a place to do this for awhile. But the ones I’ve found only ship by prescription, so I’d still have to go in and get the pap done. > \ \*\* Call your local Planned Parenthood. They often will prescribe pills before examining you. But you should get regular paps anyway. Instead of trying to “relax” the vagina, try pushing out. Like you would to urinate. That seems to help. ---
**Author:** ![buffybeast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/53a042/32.png) [@buffybeast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buffybeast)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2002, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/45 "2002-12-24T03:39:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by irishgirl \* > \*\*uh, TMI alert… > > i’m in a long distance relationship, and find that for the first day or two when i see my guy things are very uncomfortable. i’m talking actual pain and blood and stuff. > > by the end of the week it’s all good though (we’re a once or twice daily couple). > > \*\* I don’t think you should be bleeding when you have sex. I don’t think that is normal. You might want to use extra lubricant. I went without sex for three years and when I finally got around to doing it again, it was painful the first few times. I would strongly recommend using a lot of lubricant. ---
**Author:** ![Monopoly\_Money](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Monopoly\_Money](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monopoly_Money)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2002, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/46 "2002-12-24T07:06:55Z")
I used to have the same problem - I couldn’t even use a tampon without pain. Then I bought a vibrator, put alot of lube on it, and gently eased it in over a few days, while watching TV. I was surprised at how quickly I became comfortable with it. The vibrations help relax you and putting a condom on it causes less irritation (for me anyway - some people are allergic to the latex), and use water-based lube. ---
**Author:** ![Nishroch\_Order](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Nishroch\_Order](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nishroch_Order)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2002, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/47 "2002-12-24T08:06:03Z")
wow, 2000+ views! ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2002, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069/48 "2002-12-24T12:14:14Z")
nah, bleeding the first couple of times IS normal for me. s’okay, talked to the doc, she said it’s one of those ways that everyone is different. and lube/foreplay/nervousness is NOT the problem, i’m just built to spring back into shape more than most people. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vagina-tightness/144069.md?page=2)