# Van lifer goes missing on cross country trip with fiancee **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 13, 2021, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/van-lifer-goes-missing-on-cross-country-trip-with-fiancee/950604 "2021-09-13T13:48:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 1354
**Author:** ![ASL\_v2.0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asl_v2.0/32/3525_2.png) [@ASL\_v2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ASL_v2.0)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2022, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/van-lifer-goes-missing-on-cross-country-trip-with-fiancee/950604/1354 "2022-01-16T21:08:56Z")
I can’t imagine there will be too many more updates to this thread, but I noticed this came out: > **[Probe finds 'unintentional mistakes' in Petito police stop](https://apnews.com/article/utah-missing-persons-bbce0c9b4dd2d1ccf5b7039dc3e75b10)** > > SALT LAKE CITY (AP) — An investigation has found that Utah police made “several unintentional mistakes” when they stopped Gabby Petito and her boyfriend before she was killed in what became a high-profile missing person case. It’s… interesting that the takeaway is that the officers should be faulted for not citing Gabby. That might technically be true according to their department’s policies, but then I think that should cause some amount of discomfort in light of what I think we can reasonably infer about the broader dynamics at play in that relationship. Perhaps rather than faulting the officers for not citing Gabby based on her own protestations that she was at fault, the department (and really society in general) should be rethinking what an abusive relationship looks like and how to intervene effectively without contributing to the abuse. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/van-lifer-goes-missing-on-cross-country-trip-with-fiancee/950604)._