# Van lifer goes missing on cross country trip with fiancee

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**Created:** [September 13, 2021, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/van-lifer-goes-missing-on-cross-country-trip-with-fiancee/950604 "2021-09-13T13:48:04Z")\
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**Post date:** [October 3, 2021, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/van-lifer-goes-missing-on-cross-country-trip-with-fiancee/950604/781 "2021-10-03T18:11:38Z")

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> [@ZonexandScout](#):
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> Movies, TV, and books would have everyone believe that parents will (and SHOULD) do everything possible to protect their children, including aiding them, hiding them, and even framing innocent third-parties.

Not just fictional characters:

> [@Poll: For what crime(s) would you turn in a loved one?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/poll-for-what-crime-s-would-you-turn-in-a-loved-one/610510/23):
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> I voted for domestic violence against child (I would assume that those would be our children, since I’m married with children), major assault, murder and serial murders. The domestic violence against child offence would have to be a repeatable offence though, not just the one time. Unless the domestic violence was something really horrific like holding their face to a hot plate. Honestly, treason and espionage don’t seem like a big deal to me. Suppose I am a citizen of country X engaged in a w…

Selected quotes:  
-Snitches get stitches.  
-I would not turn in my wife or son for any crime  
-Family ties are more important to me than the social contract. I would never, ever turn in a loved one  
-I will literary [sic (I assume)] let them get away with murder.  
-But I don’t believe I would ever turn in immediate family or lifelong friends.  
-Nothing.  
-I wouldn’t even turn in a person I hated.  
-You might totally get a pass on murder or burglary depending on the circumstances.  
-No matter what my loved ones do, I’m not calling the cops.

and:

Only around 50% wouldn’t turn in someone for arson?!  
Blackmail and extortion around 60% wouldn’t turn somebody in?!?!  
25% of people, wouldn’t turn someone in for date rape?!  
Honestly, I find the results of this poll disturbing.

And so do I!

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