# Vegetarian dinner guests. Aaaaaaaaaaaah. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 3, 2007, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584 "2007-04-03T17:03:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/61 "2007-04-03T20:17:27Z")
[QUOTE=LifeOnWry] That’s very kind of you, to go out of your way. I honestly don’t expect people to do that, cuz it’s a hassle, so when people do, I’m very appreciative. I’m a minority of one in a large-ish group, so I don’t expect everyone to remember all the time. Others in our group have forgotten on occasion too. The fact that this one person seems to suddenly remember that she’s forgotten EVERY TIME we’re over does seem to me to be passive-aggressive. I just can’t figure out what she could be getting out of this behavior. OH! Here’s another weird thing about this same woman - when we have potluck get-togethers, and everyone brings a dish, nine times out of ten it is this same woman who brings a dish that IS vegetarian-friendly. [/QUOTE] See…that’s the thing…it’s not a big deal. I am already making a meat dish for the meat eaters. That is accompanied by potatoes, a vegetable, a salad, garlic bread, etc. Then all I have to do is pick up some boca burgers or something like that. Stuffed mushrooms or guacamole or something as an appetizer. I don’t know many people who eat more than one or two meat dishes in a meal anyway. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/62 "2007-04-03T20:39:07Z")
hey, what the hell happened here? a pit thread w/o a dissenting opinon of the OP? damn. I thought it was impossible. ---
**Author:** ![hawksgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ed655f/32.png) [@hawksgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hawksgirl)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/63 "2007-04-03T20:41:38Z")
[QUOTE=wring] hey, what the hell happened here? a pit thread w/o a dissenting opinon of the OP? damn. I thought it was impossible. [/QUOTE] I guess I can give it a try: How dare you limit the dietary options of someone who chooses not to eat certain categories of food! :mad: :mad: How was that? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/64 "2007-04-03T20:45:43Z")
[QUOTE=Excalibre] As far as I’m concerned, you’d be doing the world a favor if you lit her on fire. Okay, maybe that’s going a little far. Don’t invite her over for dinner again, anyhow. [/QUOTE] I disagree. I think lighting her on fire is a fine idea. Use it as the post-dinner entertainment, with a little brandy glaze. I’ll bring the blowtorch. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/65 "2007-04-03T20:49:00Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] I disagree. I think lighting her on fire is a fine idea. Use it as the post-dinner entertainment, with a little brandy glaze. I’ll bring the blowtorch. [/QUOTE] Do 'er up like a creme brulee…crispy and glass-like! Grab a spoon! ---
**Author:** ![Excalibre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@Excalibre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Excalibre)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/66 "2007-04-03T20:49:52Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] I disagree. I think lighting her on fire is a fine idea. Use it as the post-dinner entertainment, with a little brandy glaze. I’ll bring the blowtorch. [/QUOTE] Well, I had to soften it, as technically recommending that the guest be lit on fire probably runs afoul of the no wishing death rule . . . The brandy glaze would be a nice, classy touch, though. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/67 "2007-04-03T20:51:02Z")
**Kalhoun** , you suck. Now I want creme bruleee. Mmm, creme brulee’d vegetarian. **Excalibre** , I didn’t know the rule extended to non-dopers though! Besides, we’re not saying she’d be dead, just very very uncomfortable… ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/68 "2007-04-03T20:59:37Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] **Kalhoun** , you suck. Now I want creme bruleee. Mmm, creme brulee’d vegetarian. **Excalibre** , I didn’t know the rule extended to non-dopers though! Besides, we’re not saying she’d be dead, just very very uncomfortable… [/QUOTE] I get dibs on the soft, creamy center! ---
**Author:** ![Litoris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9f8e36/32.png) [@Litoris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Litoris)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/69 "2007-04-03T21:08:48Z")
Wow. Just Wow. Yeh, she’s a cunt. I would have proceeded to put proscuitto, cheese and anything else non-vegetable that sounds yummy on top of the spaghetti and sat back down ignoring her. 1. you went out of _your_ way to accomodate her – on _your_ birthday 2. she didn’t appreciate that you went to the trouble of making her her very own main dish 3. her food choices are not your problem 4. if she doesn’t like the food, she should a) STFU and not eat or b) bring something vegetarian to contribute. I am not good at taking the high road, I would be inviting the idiot over for BBQ’s and making sure I had the cutest, fuzziest, yummiest meats available – rabbit, deer, cornish hens, etc. And not _one single vegetable_. Bah. no, I’d just have told her to bugger off, but it would be fun nonetheless! ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/70 "2007-04-03T21:09:23Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] **Excalibre** , I didn’t know the rule extended to non-dopers though! Besides, we’re not saying she’d be dead, just very very uncomfortable… [/QUOTE] It doesn’t. We’re free to wish as much death as we want on people we don’t like, just so long as we do it behind their back. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Hogwash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e57/32.png) [@Hogwash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hogwash)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/71 "2007-04-03T22:01:21Z")
If you can’t beat 'em, eat 'em. I wonder what vegetarians taste like. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/72 "2007-04-03T22:02:31Z")
[QUOTE=Hogwash] I wonder what vegetarians taste like. [/QUOTE] chicken. Don’t ask how I know. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/73 "2007-04-03T22:05:57Z")
[QUOTE=Hogwash] I wonder what vegetarians taste like. [/QUOTE] Depends how recently they ate asparagus… Ewwwwwwwww… ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/74 "2007-04-03T22:09:53Z")
[QUOTE=wring] hey, what the hell happened here? a pit thread w/o a dissenting opinon of the OP? damn. I thought it was impossible. [/QUOTE] Well, after that Pit Manners thread, I’m actually afraid to say anything. Seriously. I had an instant response, but I won’t be writing that, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/75 "2007-04-03T23:04:01Z")
Can I have your lemon spaghetti recipe? Oh, and I’m a veggie, but wow, I’d never, ever expect you to change your meal plans for little old me. You can eat great gobs of meat until your heart’s content, I wouldn’t make a fuzz. Yer veggie “friend” was an asshat. ---
**Author:** ![saoirse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/76 "2007-04-03T23:13:32Z")
[QUOTE=Swallowed My Cellphone] Can I have your lemon spaghetti recipe? [/QUOTE] Can I have your lemon spaghetti? ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/77 "2007-04-03T23:37:24Z")
[QUOTE=Dangerosa] Because she is rude. And she doesn’t “approve” of vegetarians and this is her passive-aggressive way of holding her ground. Why anyone feels they need to approve or not approve of what someone else doesn’t eat is beyond me. I’d be tempted to show up with your own dish. “You can never remember I’m a vegetarian, so I brought something - enough for everyone - hope you don’t mind.” Something that doesn’t need to be warmed up, but is still relatively filling and vegetarian - pasta salad or couscous salad. [/QUOTE] Spot on, and exactly the comeuppance I’d suggest. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/78 "2007-04-03T23:44:44Z")
[QUOTE=SanVito] I love throwing dinner parties and normally go to great efforts over the food but, fuck it, it was my birthday and I wasn’t going to spend it all slaving over the kicthen stove. So, I settled on a very simple italian menu of cold antipasti (cheeses, meats, crostini, olives etc) followed by a pasta course. [/quote] > [@](#): > > Number Three. I spent most of the day slaving over this meal, as well as spending hundreds on food and wine which you’re shoving down your gob for free, even though you only brought one crappie bottle of wine that your gran gave you for Christmas, so start by trying to recognise some generosity for a change and stop thinking everyone’s out to do you over. > > Number Four. It’s my fucking birthday, bitch, so why don’t you just go ahead and embarrass me in front of all my friends and make me feel crap. > > So, am I being unreasonable for thinking she’s a fucking self-obssessed, rude, ignorant bitch? You did, or didn’t spend most of the day slaving over the meal? The lemon spaghetti sounds like something you could throw together in the time it takes to boil the spaghetti. Making the antipasti non-meat couldn’t have been that hard or time consuming, could it? You sound kinda high-maintenance to be around when \*IT’S YOUR BIRTHDAY. \* There. Dissenting opinion given. Your friend sounds like a bitch though. ---
**Author:** ![Rubystreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Rubystreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rubystreak)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/79 "2007-04-04T00:03:14Z")
Yeah, one asshole vegetarian is mean to the OP (on his birthday, no less, the bitch!) and now, it’s open season on vegetarians. Why is everyone so ready to flip shit about this topic? Most vegetarians are not like the jerk that was rude to the OP; I’d be so grateful if someone made a special entree just for me, and would considered it beyond the call of duty. Most people would. Regardless of this, at the slightest opportunity, all this barely-repressed hostility comes out towards non-meat eaters. What, do you feel all judged or something, so you’ve got to lash out when you get the chance? Why not focus your bile on the specific person behaving badly and not spew it on all vegetarians in general? There is more than ample evidence of an unreasonable prejudice here, which is uncalled for, because as someone else said, if the woman in the OP weren’t a vegetarian, she’s probably find something else to bitch about. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584/80 "2007-04-04T00:06:32Z")
[QUOTE=Rubystreak] There is more than ample evidence of an unreasonable prejudice here, which is uncalled for, because as someone else said, if the woman in the OP weren’t a vegetarian, she’s probably find something else to bitch about. [/QUOTE] _reskims the thread_😕 Are we reading the same thread, because I’m not seeing this anywhere here… I’m a vegetarian so I’m a tad sensitive about being accused of being rude, but I didn’t get that at all, other than an overly-general thread title. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vegetarian-dinner-guests-aaaaaaaaaaaah/398584.md?page=5)