# vibrators and sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 21, 2010, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988 "2010-08-21T19:08:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Ladymarmalade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f05b48/32.png) [@Ladymarmalade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ladymarmalade)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/1 "2010-08-21T19:08:38Z")
Do you notice any difference in sensitivity during partner sex activities or manual solo activities b/c of vibrator use? Just… wondering. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/2 "2010-08-21T19:45:39Z")
Since the OP is interested in personal experiences, this is better suited for IMHO than GQ. Colibri General Questions Moderator ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/3 "2010-08-21T20:34:37Z")
There’s bound to be a difference . . . unless someone has a penis that vibrates. ---
**Author:** ![Dervorin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Dervorin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dervorin)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/4 "2010-08-21T21:41:49Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > There’s bound to be a difference . . . unless someone has a penis that vibrates. I keep trying, but I can’t seem to find the off switch. Most frustrating. ---
**Author:** ![thelurkinghorror](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7c8e57/32.png) [@thelurkinghorror](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thelurkinghorror)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/5 "2010-08-21T21:46:50Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > There’s bound to be a difference . . . unless someone has a penis that vibrates. Umm… there are devices that can affect just that. As to the OP, I’ve heard anecdotally, but don’t know any facts. It’s certainly possible that it becomes more difficult to reach orgasm due to adaptation or habituation to the more intense stimulation. I highly doubt the changes would be permanent. ---
**Author:** ![Ladymarmalade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f05b48/32.png) [@Ladymarmalade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ladymarmalade)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/6 "2010-08-21T21:51:15Z")
Right, that’s what I’m talking about. If it has made any women less sensitive so that they were unable to achieve orgasm any other way. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/7 "2010-08-21T22:43:53Z")
> [@Ladymarmalade](#): > > Right, that’s what I’m talking about. If it has made any women less sensitive so that they were unable to achieve orgasm any other way. The consensus of opinion by medical experts is that while it may inhibit a few women in their ability to orgasm any other way, it’s helped far more women to achieve orgasms in the first place. And it’s helped many women become multiply orgasmous, by helping them reach that first one more quickly. ---
**Author:** ![SeaDragonTattoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@SeaDragonTattoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaDragonTattoo)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/8 "2010-08-21T23:21:40Z")
I only have my own experience to answer. I’ve used both vibrators and men for over 20 years and have had no problems achieving multiple orgasms with either choice! You wanna really have fun, use a bullet on a guy who’s never experienced one before. ---
**Author:** ![Ladymarmalade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f05b48/32.png) [@Ladymarmalade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ladymarmalade)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 9:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/9 "2010-08-23T09:40:09Z")
Has anybody used one of the stronger ones, like hitachi magic wand or Rabbit, and had decreased sensitivity? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/10 "2010-08-23T12:10:38Z")
> [@Ladymarmalade](#): > > Do you notice any difference in sensitivity during partner sex activities or manual solo activities b/c of vibrator use? Just… wondering. Thanks! I think what you’re worried about is the female equivalent of Dan Savage’s ‘death grip’, a masturbation technique that can lead to decreased sensitivity during actual sex. H recommends weaning one’s self off it. Not permanent, but like many things sexual a habit can be hard to break. However, vibrators are a bit different in that they can be used _with_ a partner, and most women (vibe users or no) do not reach orgasm through penetration alone. Purely anecdotally, most women report vibrators opening up a whole new world of orgasms with their partner, even if they only use one alone (more, different kinds, with and without a vibrator). Also anecdotally, your concern is not tat rare, especially when it comes to heavy duty tools like the Hitachi, which may very well ocnvince you your clitoris is being worn away. If you are worried about being too dependent on a piece of plastic, certainly switch things up and don’t use it every time. But if it is the only thing that can get you off… well, life without a TV remote would be possible, but how many people want to kick convenience just because? Sometimes you should just thank the heavens for inventions. ---
**Author:** ![Giltathriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b38774/32.png) [@Giltathriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giltathriel)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/11 "2010-08-23T12:38:31Z")
Personally, yes. Vibrator use makes it more difficult to orgasm using fingers - but only for the next day or two. Granted, it’s not one of the stronger models. Meanwhile, I never would have learned to be orgasmic without it. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/12 "2010-08-23T13:01:26Z")
We usually use a vibrator but if we’re in a situation where making loud noises is not an option, we’ll use our fingers. Still works, although I have much stronger orgasms with the vibrator. ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/13 "2010-08-23T14:00:09Z")
I use a jackrabbit regularly during the week, and my boyfriend regularly on the weekend. I tend to have clitoral orgasms with the rabbit, vaginal orgasms with the boyfriend - so the stimulation points are different. But yes, I do tend to find that my stimulation of my clitoris manually can take more effort if I’ve been using my B.O.B. all week. Typically, if I lay off the bob for a few days - all returns to normal. What I do find, however, is that if I am alone in my bed, I struggle to fall asleep until I’ve “rubbed one out”. Does anyone else with habitual vibrator use find something similar? ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/vibrators-and-sex/550988/14 "2010-08-23T14:19:56Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > > [@Ladymarmalade](#): > > > > Right, that’s what I’m talking about. If it has made any women less sensitive so that they were unable to achieve orgasm any other way. > > The consensus of opinion by medical experts is that while it may inhibit a few women in their ability to orgasm any other way, it’s helped far more women to achieve orgasms in the first place. And it’s helped many women become multiply orgasmous, by helping them reach that first one more quickly. I’d venture a guess that a “consensus of opinion by we-have-those-parts-so-we-know experts” would concur. 🙂 OP, may I just say that your posts sound like they have an ulterior motive? A sort of “uhh, my, um, ‘friend’ was wondering…” sort of vibe?