# virgins and vibrators **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [May 31, 2002, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650 "2002-05-31T00:40:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2002, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/21 "2002-06-01T05:38:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by agentfroot \* > anyway, at 19 i felt too sexually naive for my own good so i bought a vibrator. > > … i didn’t even realize i HAD a clitoris until a few months ago, and it doesn’t seem to like me. Serves you right when you sleep through those sex-ed classes … 😃 ---
**Author:** ![biker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ce7236/32.png) [@biker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/biker)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2002, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/22 "2002-06-01T05:42:26Z")
forget about it…take up women’s golf ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2002, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/23 "2002-06-01T05:55:58Z")
I didn’t learn how to masturbate until I was in my early 20s. Don’t worry about it, when it clicks, it clicks. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2002, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/24 "2002-06-01T11:03:46Z")
And for most women that I have known, they all have said that orgasms only get better. The two female friends I have over forty started having mega-multiple orgasms, so don’t give up hope. Have you tried the tongue(it’s a vibrator)? ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/25 "2002-06-04T00:11:13Z")
Let me get the hijacks out of the way first. [Full Protection Mode On] **Gentlemen of the Straight Dope Message Board** : Agentfroot is a young friend of mine. While I fully respect her right to make her own decisions as an adult, please be advised that she’s also, to some extent, under my protection. To get to her, you go through me first. 😉 [Full Protection Mode Off] My dear, dear, **Torus** , for some of us ladies, 10 is an ordinary evening. Getting back to the topic at, er, hand, **agentfroot** , the advice you’ve been given so far sounds good to me. I’ve never had the guts to buy a vibrator myself, so I can’t say much about one specifically. The main thing is, relax, let your mind wander, see what feels good to you, no matter how shocking, outlandish, or mundane it might be. There are books of women’s fantasies out there. You might want to buy one and see which one sounds appealing. Also, remember that different people have different levels of sexuality. You’re still trying to sort things out and still working at dealing with things. Don’t pressure yourself, any more than you would let someone else pressure you. You have _nothing_ to prove, and there is nothing wrong with you because of what you have or have not done or experienced. Come on, you’re always pleased with how different you are from everyone else. Why are you letting the world rush you on this issue? Do what your mind, body, and soul tell you is right for you, not the rest of the world. Take care, CJ’ (“Seige” to you, gentlemen) 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/26 "2002-06-04T00:15:05Z")
May I reccomend the El SAANo forums? [http://www.elsaano.com/php/vbulletin/index.php?s=](http://www.elsaano.com/php/vbulletin/index.php?s=) Successor to the Late, Great SAAN (Smile and Act Nice). Try Between the Sheets. ---
**Author:** ![Torus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bcef8e/32.png) [@Torus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Torus)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/27 "2002-06-04T00:26:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by cjhoworth \* > My dear, dear, **Torus** , for some of us ladies, 10 is an ordinary evening. No kidding…I think that means you’re going to Hell. See you there!!! ---
**Author:** ![heresiarch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/278dde/32.png) [@heresiarch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/heresiarch)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/28 "2002-06-04T00:48:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OpalCat \* > \*\*I didn’t learn how to masturbate until I was in my early 20s. Don’t worry about it, when it clicks, it clicks. \*\* It clicks!? :eek: Does it sound like cracking your knuckles? ---
**Author:** ![GopherGod72](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f0a364/32.png) [@GopherGod72](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GopherGod72)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/29 "2002-06-04T01:03:59Z")
Haven’t you ever heard of a “poppin’ pussy”? ---
**Author:** ![PosterChild](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e274bd/32.png) [@PosterChild](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PosterChild)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/30 "2002-06-04T04:00:25Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by_\*\* cjhoworth \*\* > please be advised that she’s also, to some extent, under my protection. \*\*To get to her, you go through me first. \*\*😉 So, how **YOU** doin’ Seige? 😉 PC ---
**Author:** ![Chekmate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@Chekmate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chekmate)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/31 "2002-06-04T16:04:35Z")
you also may want to try [http://www.clitical.com/](http://www.clitical.com/) It has helped my girlfriend wonderfully. ---
**Author:** ![agentfroot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/779978/32.png) [@agentfroot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/agentfroot)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/32 "2002-06-04T17:27:48Z")
hehe… wow that clitical site is very… informative. anyway, i’m getting better, i think. i’ll just print out some of the better “labyrinth” erotic fanfic on [fanfiction.net](http://fanfiction.net) (go ahead and laugh, jareth the goblin king is SEXY!) and make myself a good mix cd. things are starting to work better, and fortunately i’ve been home alone a lot recently whew… ---
**Author:** ![agentfroot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/779978/32.png) [@agentfroot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/agentfroot)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/33 "2002-06-04T17:33:11Z")
oh, and i know i’m not the most naive person in the world. yesterday i had to explain to my hardcore conservative bible-thumper friend what a clitoris is, that females orgasm and it’s a good thing, how gay guys have sex, and other interesting bits of info. poor girl, she basically has this tremendous mental chastity belt on and believes she has no sex drive and that any sex acts not leading to pregnancy are wrong. _sigh_ some people… ---
**Author:** ![rjung](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/45deac/32.png) [@rjung](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rjung)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/34 "2002-06-04T17:50:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > Great, if you need any more assistance, maybe I can come over? 🙂 I don’t see the guys > offering to do this. There are laws against that, you know. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2002, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650/35 "2002-06-04T18:44:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by agentfroot \* > \*\*oh, and i know i’m not the most naive person in the world. yesterday i had to explain to my hardcore conservative bible-thumper friend what a clitoris is, that females orgasm and it’s a good thing, how gay guys have sex, and other interesting bits of info. poor girl, she basically has this tremendous mental chastity belt on and believes she has no sex drive and that any sex acts not leading to pregnancy are wrong. _sigh_ some people… \*\* Heh. A number of years ago I had to explain to a buddy of mine about gay sex. (“Yuck! I thought they just sat around and watched each other jerk off!” :rolleyes: ) Then, a few months ago, I had to explain to him what a “toy party” was. (“Yuck! I don’t want to know about such things!” :rolleyes: ) Think maybe I’ll send him this thread, it should really gross him out! (He probably won’t even make it this far, to know that I’ve ratted him out. :wally ) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/virgins-and-vibrators/111650.md?page=1)