# Wake me when we're shocking

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wake-me-when-were-shocking/63967>\
**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [May 1, 2001, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wake-me-when-were-shocking/63967 "2001-05-01T15:23:47Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 2\
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**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\
**Post date:** [May 2, 2001, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wake-me-when-were-shocking/63967/21 "2001-05-02T09:07:14Z")

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\*Originally posted by manhattan \*  
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> Yeah, yeah, yeah. I keep checking your webpage to see if I’ve displaced _that jerk Hugh Jackman_ on your “list,” but nothing so far!\*\*

**What** was that you said, manhattan? Would you care to step outside? I’ve got a couple dozen friends who’d like to hear you back that up! Some of us have our own prosthetic claws, yanno! 😉

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**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\
**Post date:** [May 2, 2001, 9:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wake-me-when-were-shocking/63967/22 "2001-05-02T09:08:17Z")

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> \*Originally posted by Francesca \*  
> \*\*I would like to add a little note of caution that i doubt i need to say but… if you do decide to tell her how much this annoys you then please, please do it in the nicest way possible. IMO, anyone who acts this way does it because they think that if they were simply themselves they wouldn’t be as attractive/interesting/funny if they were just themselves. To criticise harshly is to kick when they’re already down.
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> Being “shocking” _is_ annoying, and you have every right to be firm with her but like you say, it’s probably an all-or-nothing thing. But if it is only bravado, a firm-but-gentle “stop it” might just work because it may help her realise that acting this way doesn’t work for what she wants to achieve. It’s very easy for people who are comfortable with themselves to say “Be yourself” but it can take a lot of effort and occasionally-uncomfortable self-knowledge for many people to get to that point. That’s not an excuse for her behaviour, but not everyone miraculously becomes an adult when they turn 25.
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> I’m rambling. What i really mean is: it’s fair play to rant and get annoyed because it _is_ annoying, but being harsh with her may hurt her more than it helps anyone else.
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> Fran \*\*

Beautifully said.

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