# Want to help a guy in his last days as a bachelor? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 15, 2017, 7:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890 "2017-02-15T07:03:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2017, 7:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/1 "2017-02-15T07:03:56Z")
I hope that title wasn’t too much “click bait” (mainly because I’m not sure if something is click bait or not–guess I’m getting old). I got engaged on the first day of this year. My fiancée and I now live in different countries (we used to live in the same city) so the planning for the wedding has an added twist. We’ve gotten some of the planning done, yet there is a lot more to go. What I’m looking for is a nice, free online site which the two of us can use to do the planning for the event. It doesn’t matter to me if we have to share a log-in & password or if the site permits two users for the same planning page. The page, of course, has to be secure so only the two of us can see it. It also has to have file upload/download/transfer capability. Actually, that last might not be a necessity. Speaking of the event, the two top contenders for locales are: 1-Civil Marriage & Temple Marriage in Hong Kong, followed by Ring Ceremony (aka “Wedding Hall”) on US base in Seoul. 2-Civil Marriage in South Korea in fiancée’s hometown, followed by Temple marriage in Seoul, followed by Ring Ceremony on US base in Seoul. We’re doing the ring ceremony on the base for a number of reasons: far cheaper, far better than Korean wedding hall “assembly line” ceremonies, and the wedding site on the base is grand. Since the base requires a list of attendees in advance, said list including the name and identification document number of each attendee, the website for the planning should also be able to accommodate us with putting that information in. I found and downloaded a few checklists that will assist with the planning, but none of the lists is interactive online and certainly not secure. Any ideas for a site that can meet the requirements? Oh, we’re looking at the big date to be in August or October. That hasn’t been set yet, though. And thanks in advance! ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2017, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/2 "2017-02-15T07:40:20Z")
My family has a WordPress blog that only we can see (unless we send somebody a link and a log-in code). I don’t know how we did it, but it might be easy to find out at the WordPress site. I think it’s just a matter of not making it public. But you could have one page, password-protected, and only you two have the password. We can and have posted pictures and documents there. It has some divisions, but it doesn’t really have any planning capabilities if that was what you were after. I know zilch about wedding planning. ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2017, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/3 "2017-02-15T13:11:10Z")
Dropbox ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2017, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/4 "2017-02-15T19:08:19Z")
No idea on the OP, but congrats! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2017, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/5 "2017-02-15T19:17:30Z")
Try this article in “Brides” magazine. It lists sites and apps to help you wedding plan. A quick scan indicates some of them might work. I emphasize the “quick”. [Brides Magazine Article](http://www.brides.com/story/top-apps-and-sites-for-brides) Much more basic, and not tied to weddings, is this shopping app that my husband and I use to stay organized. It lets us stay organized between devices and when we’re not in the same location. We can set up specific lists and then tick off things as we get them done. We control who sees our lists. Only we can add things to our lists. Looks like there is a computer version as well: [Our Groceries](https://www.ourgroceries.com/sign-in) Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![mistymage](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mistymage/32/459_2.png) [@mistymage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mistymage)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2017, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/6 "2017-02-15T19:44:30Z")
Facebook… create your own Private Group and add only her to it. Pictures can be uploaded, files made or uploaded and you can have multiple conversations going at once like any other message board. You can also Pin/sticky one post. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2017, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/7 "2017-02-16T03:58:55Z")
Thanks, all, for both the suggestions and the congratulations. The grocery list idea is genius. It is, after all, a list. I guess social engineering tricked me away from considering that. Facebook and Dropbox might be a problem since I’m in China and those sites are blocked; even with a VPN, they get blocked occasionally. China has a couple of native versions of those, though, so I’ll check their functionality as well as checking on the functionality of some Korean versions of those sites. Once I get something set up, I’ll let y’all know which suggestion we decided to follow. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2017, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/8 "2017-02-16T06:56:37Z")
No ideas here either, but just amazed someone wants to marry your sorry arse! 😃 Nah, congrats to you **Monty** and Missus Monty, may you have many happy years of contented bliss ahead. 🙂 Hope the wedding itself goes off without a hitch as well. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2017, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/9 "2017-02-16T07:42:37Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > No ideas here either, but just amazed someone wants to marry your sorry arse! 😃 You’re shocked? You should’ve seen my reaction! > [@](#): > > Nah, congrats to you **Monty** and Missus Monty, may you have many happy years of contented bliss ahead. 🙂 Hope the wedding itself goes off without a hitch as well. I’m actually surprised she’s planning on following the “bride takes groom’s family name” custom. And thanks! ---
**Author:** ![Plumpudding](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Plumpudding](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Plumpudding)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2017, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/10 "2017-02-16T12:30:13Z")
If you’re mostly sharing text or links, a riseup pad might work: [https://pad.riseup.net/](https://pad.riseup.net/) It’s securely hosted. As long as you don’t share the URL with anyone else, no one will find it. I’ve used it a lot for organizing, planning, collaborating on texts and sharing, works great. ---
**Author:** ![ShotgunZen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@ShotgunZen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShotgunZen)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2017, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/11 "2017-02-16T22:31:50Z")
If you have access to google I would create an account and share that. You can use google docs (word doc) Sheets (spreadsheets) Drive (file upload) and Photos (pics) to share pretty much anything. I haven’t done anything with calendar but I assume it can be used for scheduling etc. No this is not a paid advertisement 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2017, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/12 "2017-02-24T07:31:26Z")
I’m in China and even with a VPN, Google is not always accessible. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2017, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/13 "2017-03-09T09:24:22Z")
Thanks to one and all for your suggestions. I’ve decided to go with Trello for the upcoming event. It turns out I already have an account that I set up way back in June of 2013 and have never used before. I watched a “how to” video on youtube a couple of days ago and, yep, this sucker is the way to do it for us. I’m actually having fun putting the board together. Again, thanks for the input and the good wishes! ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2017, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/14 "2017-03-09T13:34:23Z")
Congratulations, **Monty**! This isn’t the wedding advice you’re asking for, so if you roll your eyes, I understand. But here’s the single most helpful thing anyone told us about wedding planning: People will remember at most three things about your wedding. Decide what you want them to remember, make those three things memorable for good reasons. Everything else? Do what you gotta do to make sure it’s not memorable for bad reasons. When things started getting down to the wire, this advice helped us prioritize what to care a lot about, and what to care the bare minimum about. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2017, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/15 "2017-10-06T10:51:34Z")
_Update:_ We got married Wednesday morning in the Laie Temple. The public thing will be in Korea a week from Saturday. Thanks to everyone for the advice and well-wishing! ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2017, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/16 "2017-10-06T15:53:05Z")
Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2017, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/17 "2017-10-06T16:24:41Z")
Best wishes and congrats! ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2017, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/want-to-help-a-guy-in-his-last-days-as-a-bachelor/779890/18 "2017-10-07T19:55:37Z")
Congratulations Mr and Mrs Monty. May you enjoy many happy years together. 🙂