# Was I being hit on and I missed it? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 20, 2005, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459 "2005-12-20T16:01:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/61 "2005-12-21T04:35:24Z")
Don’t start nuttin’ you’re not going to finish,\*\* Kythereia.\*\* ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/62 "2005-12-21T04:47:00Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > She laughs, grabs my arm, gives me a nice squeeze and goes away.She wanted me, right? Right. The grab-and-squeeze is a dead giveaway. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/7ea924/32.png) [@Wolfian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wolfian)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/63 "2005-12-21T05:00:29Z")
> [@Askia](#): > > **Cranky.** [Running train.](http://www.rapdict.org/Run_a_train) I’ve always heard it as “pulling a train.” Maybe its’ “running” from the screwers’ perspectives and “pulling” from the screwee’s. I think entirely too much. No advice to the OP as I’m downright clueless in the flirt department, giving and taking. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/64 "2005-12-21T05:45:45Z")
> [@Kythereia](#): > > Is it too late to flirt with anybody around here? Holy crap, was that you??? Come back, I’ll hold the door again. Nice coat, I like your hair that way. ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/65 "2005-12-21T11:36:44Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > Gah – you guys are all such _guys_. > > It is possible – and, indeed, a lot of fun – to flirt with someone you’re not hitting on. Sometimes a bit of playful conversation that leaves you both walking away smiling is just the thing to cheer up an otherwise blah day. I understand the idea, and why it’s fun…why it’s fun _for you_ that is. Because it’s damn confusing for us clueless males. Even more so since quite often women who’re interested are actually much more discreet than women who are just flirting. Net result : you assume there’s no hope with the one who was actually hitting on you, and chase the one who was just playful. General dissapointment and/or embarassment ensue. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/66 "2005-12-21T16:35:55Z")
My ex-fiancée has been saying things like ‘Aren’t you glad you didn’t marry me?’ and ‘If we got married, you’d end up hating me’. Possibly self-depreciating humour, something with which I’m very familiar since I do it myself. But it makes me wonder. Then there’s the old ex-g/f. **Shayna** introduced me to her attractive neighbour, and we seemed to hit it off. Suddenly I seem to be the Pimp Daddy. It’s weird. Although I do get lonely, what I _really_ want to do at this point in my life is fly helicopters and drive the MGB and get the film finished and start on the next film/video project. Oh, and do some kayaking (someplace warm!) and ride my motorcycle and do home improvements. And lose weight and quit smoking. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/67 "2005-12-21T16:44:09Z")
> [@Johnny L.A.](#): > > My ex-fiancée has been saying things like ‘Aren’t you glad you didn’t marry me?’ and ‘If we got married, you’d end up hating me’. Possibly self-depreciating humour, something with which I’m very familiar since I do it myself. But it makes me wonder. Yeah, I know – and you always ask us. Seriously, as I said before, it’s time to call her on it. “Are you having second thoughts? If so, let’s discuss. If not, cut it out, it’s doing a number on me.” ---
**Author:** ![Biffy\_the\_Elephant\_Shrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e47c2d/32.png) [@Biffy\_the\_Elephant\_Shrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biffy_the_Elephant_Shrew)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/68 "2005-12-21T18:17:41Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I look for someone who’s got a twinkle in their eye Check! > [@Anaamika](#): > > has a confident demeanor Uhhh… > [@Anaamika](#): > > or looks intelligent. Oh, Christ, I’m doomed. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/69 "2005-12-21T18:22:06Z")
> [@Biffy the Elephant Shrew](#): > > Check! > > Uhhh… > > Oh, Christ, I’m doomed. Just don’t drool, I think you’ll get by. Better yet, don’t say anything. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2005, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459/70 "2005-12-21T18:46:34Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > Holy crap, was that you??? > > Come back, I’ll hold the door again. > > Nice coat, I like your hair that way. Why thank you, I just got it done… _flirts back shamelessly, and also flirts scandalously with **Askia** _ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-being-hit-on-and-i-missed-it/336459.md?page=3)