# Was I subtly propositioned by a gay man today? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 4, 2017, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478 "2017-07-04T01:33:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2017, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478/21 "2017-07-05T15:01:03Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Isn’t it… cute… how irrationally defensive straight guys can be. Male masculinity is at once terribly strong and macho to the point they cannot be expected to control their sexual urges and also incredibly fragile, so the sight of a [nude male athlete on the cover of a sports magazine](https://www.buzzfeed.com/juliegerstein/men-cant-handle-a-naked-guy-on-the-cover-of-espn-magazine) upsets them to the point of nausea. OP, your mom is afraid for her future needs and asks for help and your response is to worry about your penis. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2017, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478/22 "2017-07-05T22:38:53Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > Also, I think gay men have to be very subtle in the way that they flirt or “test the waters” simply because of all the bigotry associated with gays. They can’t just openly flirt like straight people can, because if they do, they’re likely to get a very strong negative reaction (if not a violent one). For that reason, I think they have been conditioned to be very subtle in how the feel out potential mates. Announcing that you’re taking your shorts off is subtle now? I HAVE been out of the loop. :smack:😛 ---
**Author:** ![Weisshund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ba8739/32.png) [@Weisshund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weisshund)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2017, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478/23 "2017-07-05T23:12:55Z")
> [@Nawth\_Chucka](#): > > Male masculinity is at once terribly strong and macho to the point they cannot be expected to control their sexual urges and also incredibly fragile, so the sight of a [nude male athlete on the cover of a sports magazine](https://www.buzzfeed.com/juliegerstein/men-cant-handle-a-naked-guy-on-the-cover-of-espn-magazine) upsets them to the point of nausea. It does? Didn’t bother me, though the water thing just doesn’t work for me, doesn’t fit the football theme. ---
**Author:** ![cornflakes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9d8465/32.png) [@cornflakes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cornflakes)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2017, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478/24 "2017-07-06T05:05:26Z")
> [@John\_DiFool](#): > > Listen, I know this is the Dope, and people often post just to be contrary. Whatever. No we don’t! 😃 (Kidding. I do think the ( **on topic** ) responses in this thread have been sincere though.) ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2017, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478/25 "2017-07-06T06:44:02Z")
I still say, since you think this may have been a subtle pick up line, you subtly tell him you’re not interested in men (by bringing up women you are attracted to), and then get back to talking about your mom. It seems the same subtlety of a woman mentioning a boyfriend when she thinks a guy may be hitting on her. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2017, 10:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478/26 "2017-07-06T10:37:28Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > “Cookies out of the oven” and “kitty off the counter” sure sound like code phrases to me. > mmm They are now: “I’m trying to get my cookies out of the oven” = I’m calling you whilst taking a massive dump “I’m trying to get my kitty off the counter” = My scrotum is stuck to my leg with sweat [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-i-subtly-propositioned-by-a-gay-man-today/790478.md?page=1)