# Was just "defriended" by a childhood friend because I'm not a Born Again Christian **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 25, 2014, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493 "2014-09-25T03:17:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/21 "2014-09-25T13:25:06Z")
Assertions made in thread title not supported by information presented by OP. ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/22 "2014-09-25T13:49:05Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > You did what?! I’m not the least bit Christian and I would have unfriended you. That is AMAZINGLY creepy and does not respect even basic boundaries. “Hey! Remember that time I stuck my finger in your butt? Good times.” ---
**Author:** ![PlainJain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5daacb/32.png) [@PlainJain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PlainJain)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/23 "2014-09-25T13:54:00Z")
> [@bump](#): > > “Hey! Remember that time I stuck my finger in your butt? Good times.” I lol’d. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/24 "2014-09-25T13:58:12Z")
Wow. Even Richard Dawkins would have unfriended you for something like that. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/25 "2014-09-25T14:35:31Z")
I’m choosing to add an extra layer of humor by believing that the OP remembered and messaged the wrong person. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/26 "2014-09-25T15:55:09Z")
> [@running\_coach](#): > > Saved you the trouble, didn’t it? > [@Beelzebubba](#): > > Trust me, you’re the winner here! 😃 > > I always love it when someone identifies as a “Born-Again Christian”…I’ve told more than a few “That you were born once too much for me!” I know right. Christians are stupid and retarded and shouldn’t be allowed to have beliefs or opinions. OP count yourself lucky that you don’t have to suffer anymore having to interact with someone who thinks differently than you. But seriously you go asking someone on Facebook where the world can see, “Hey remember that time I had you stick a carrot up my butt?” and you expect then to not defriend you? What did you expect her to say, “Hurp, yeah that was fun times. I always wanted to try sticking an eggplant up your butt. Hey maybe next weekend we can give it a try.” And then all her family and friends seeing that and going, “Oh, those silly kids.” ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/27 "2014-09-25T15:57:56Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > Assertions made in thread title not supported by information presented by OP. I love it when you smart types talk all dirty like that. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/28 "2014-09-25T16:20:22Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > I love it when you smart types talk all dirty like that. Cited example is actually that of dirty type talking smart. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/29 "2014-09-25T16:22:59Z")
That’s it! No Facebook for you! ---
**Author:** ![Knowed\_Out](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/knowed_out/32/7380_2.png) [@Knowed\_Out](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knowed_Out)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/30 "2014-09-25T17:54:36Z")
So what’s the context of this conversation? Were you two reminiscing about the stuff you used to do as kids, and you put in “Hey, remember that time we played Doctor? LOL” or was it something like “I remember the time you touched my peepee and made it hard”? “Sexual exploration as kids” does not sound as normal as you think it does. ---
**Author:** ![DChord568](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@DChord568](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DChord568)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/31 "2014-09-25T18:44:04Z")
A lot of jumping to conclusions here. There’s no indication that the OP made the reference to their childhood activities on the public Facebook feed. If she did, I would agree that it was wildly inappropriate. But I assumed upon first reading that this was a private exchange via a Facebook message. And if she led with this topic soon after they had become Facebook friends, that would also be a bit strange. But the question could have been asked only after they had been talking comfortably for a while about more benign topics. Just saying there’s a lot we don’t know here, and nothing at all to indicate the worse scenarios. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/32 "2014-09-25T18:47:05Z")
> [@DChord568](#): > > A lot of jumping to conclusions here. > > There’s no indication that the OP made the reference to their childhood activities on the public Facebook feed. If she did, I would agree that it was wildly inappropriate. But I assumed upon first reading that this was a private exchange via a Facebook message. > > And if she led with this topic soon after they had become Facebook friends, that would also be a bit strange. But the question could have been asked only after they had been talking comfortably for a while about more benign topics. There are some leaps for sure. But the OP obviously didn’t know a lot about her and implies he’s never so much as looked at her timeline, which implies little intimacy. Unless you are very close with someone, why would you assume they are comfortable talking about this? ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/33 "2014-09-25T18:54:26Z")
> [@splatterpunk](#): > > Does it matter? Yes. Asking it privately is creepy; posting it on her wall is creepy-squared. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/34 "2014-09-25T19:08:54Z")
> [@Clarence Darrow](#): > > I don’t eat Shredded Wheat, and I’m glad I don’t, because if I liked it, I’d eat it, and I just hate it. I feel the same about Facebook. > [@](#): > > Was just “defriended” by a childhood friend because I’m not a Born Again Christian That’s not how it works. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/35 "2014-09-25T19:10:47Z")
Did you post a TBT photo? ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/36 "2014-09-25T19:43:10Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > [Looking at] her Timeline, not surprised she’s religious. Sad she felt need to “unfriend” me. I went to the ‘progressive’ high school. Looking at Facebook, it seems most of my classmates have become religious and conservative. How weird is that? I was defriended by one of them when my progressive-liberal self shot down one of her other conservative friends and asked for cites for the claims the friend was making. ---
**Author:** ![lost4life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c4cdca/32.png) [@lost4life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lost4life)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/37 "2014-09-25T19:43:55Z")
You should have just poked her first. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/38 "2014-09-25T19:51:42Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > I had asked her about our **sexual exploration** (1) as **kids** (2). Please define the two highlighted terms as they are being used here. 1. 2. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/39 "2014-09-25T19:58:17Z")
Wait a minute. I don’t know facebook at all, but this was a message everyone could see? On the ‘wall’. Not a private conversation? ---
**Author:** ![Hector\_St\_Clare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5ac83/32.png) [@Hector\_St\_Clare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hector_St_Clare)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2014, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/40 "2014-09-25T20:04:16Z")
> [@DChord568](#): > > A lot of jumping to conclusions here. > > There’s no indication that the OP made the reference to their childhood activities on the public Facebook feed. If she did, I would agree that it was wildly inappropriate. But I assumed upon first reading that this was a private exchange via a Facebook message. > > And if she led with this topic soon after they had become Facebook friends, that would also be a bit strange. But the question could have been asked only after they had been talking comfortably for a while about more benign topics. > > Just saying there’s a lot we don’t know here, and nothing at all to indicate the worse scenarios. Even if it was a private message, that’s the kind of private message you just don’t send. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493.md?page=3)